expected nothing less from doc lol ... careful with doors someone might just lock you in

its ok Tom just keep going back there and see if she remembers her day off consistently? just dont you get turned off lol. seriously i know the wedding ring was more than enough sign for you to stay far away

Your not Doomed Tom, pure natural, if your Doomed then we all are,
Go back on the same Day-same time,see what happens,
Keep us updated.

Mostly when people say something, then they usually mean it. So, what makes you think that if someone says to you that it's better not to talk anymore, then it wasn't meant seriously? You know that you enjoy his company, but does he enjoy yours either? How do you know? Because if someone says that I really enjoy your company, but we should not to talk anymore, with no any explanation, then it sounds pretty ridiculous. In early stage of relationship, if you are just getting to know each-other, the reasons can be different. And digging in those reasons can bring to answers you are not ready to hear. So, if he is smart enough, he will keep his reasons to himself... maybe because he just wants to spare you...or wants you to remember what you two had in the best way.

Of course, there are always exceptions. Maybe he is just insecure about your relationship, has his own fears and hesitations. Or maybe he is just manipulative and wants to give you an impression that he doesn't care and now is looking for your reaction. Or if people have been together long enough, they can say out things based on current emotions, things they really don't mean and regret later. In those cases, it's the best to follow your intuition.

I know a couple who has lived together almost 20 for years by now. They "divorce" every time when husband comes home from poker-evening, a little bit drunk and in uplifting mood. Then his wife takes off the ring and promises to leave him... every time. But she stays, because rest of the time, they are happy together.

hello Sip dear im glad to see your comment here. like stop signs our intuition is there to give us warnings that we need but somehow things happen that we ignore it and just go for what our heart wants...sometimes the heart is right and its like a green go light contradicting the red stop light. i wish the orange get ready light stays on longer than those other two looking forward to more of your comments soon

I would go with my feelings not tat of someone else

even if that someone else can affect your feelings too?

Feelings are emotions.
They are called feelings because they are something that YOU feel.

While others can affect you, only You can FEEL those feelings.

Emotional stability allows you to determine which effects initiate which feelings. You control your emotions, they don't control you.

I don't know Tom,

I see feelings and emotions as two entirely separate aspects of how your Head and Heart react to different situations, no doubt the both will come in to play for all the obvious reasons, but why would you want to control your emotions, or not let your feelings be known, surely that's being in control of both, no holding back and being truthful with yourself.

Part of emotional maturity is understanding that feelings(emotions) are fleeting and not meant to persist or fluctuate wildly. True that some feelings are not emotionally generated. Too often they are, tho.

Being in control of your emotional states is not to hold back or suppress the emotion but to understand the emotion and allow it to happen then fade. Not in control, is when someone insists on trying to hold on to an emotional state past its natural period. Depressed people hold onto sadness. Trying to hold on to happiness causes emotional turmoil because the fake happiness is an inward delusion. The control comes in when you understand yourself honestly emough to see the emotional state as what it is and not allow other things to falsely cause your emotional reactions.

Wearing your feelings on your sleeve implies that you are ruled by emotional instability. I have seen it in a lot of people. Men tend to react with anger, women react with sadness (tears).

we aries women tend to leap before we think but as we all know it should be think before you leap. it takes courage and strength to do thing either way. i admire people who will risk it all for loves sake and at the same time look up to those who consider everything before deciding to love. ...thank Tom and wellworn

thats thanks lol ... chubby finger syndrome again... thank you all for your opinions

In the end sceptical,we will all probably bounce along the same as we have always done, as the saying go's, it's all part of life's rich Tapestry.

thank you wellworn i will keep my faith and watch out for warnings but at the same time look at all the colors of the tapestry. i think as long as i dont harm other people i could go and ignore the signs coz sometimes they could be tests that we could come out from even more stronger or lose and wonder why we never

never explored

sceptical. there is a wonderful song by Pink Floyd, Breathe.

BREATH,breath in the air,
don't be afraid to care.

and all you touch and all you see .... is all your life will ever be

do you measure a risks' worth before you even attempt it or just go ahead and go with your gut feel? hearing that song makes me feel like a coward lol.

its motivational too