For instance,
-are you able and willing to make a commitment?

I think you have to be able to answer the other questions you proposed....so......

-Are you able to communicate in a healthy way, or do you easily slip into the 'finger pointing' routine? Never take responsibility, start screaming and shouting à la Drama Queen or withdraw in your mancave?

My ex-wife and I had an agreement that we would never go to bed if we were arguing. We never wanted to go to bed angry. And for the first seven years of the marriage we did great with this. But when things went South I noticed that she would walk away, or just yell so loud at me that I backed away. So yeah....I am all about healthy communication.

-Can you not just give love, but also receive it? Really receive it? Be honest now, most can't open their heart because of past hurts and pains.

And this is the reason why I for a few years I was all about just having fun....and yes that means I had booty calls, lol. Now? I am ready for it simply because I actually love how being "in love" feels.

-Are you able and willing to make space for a partner in your life? Have you even thought about the fact that you have to make space for them? Both in time, but also energetically.

Sure. She can have a scrapbook closet or something.

-Are you still holding on to angst and fear -be honest!- which you may end up projecting on the other?

Nah. At 43 I feel there simply isn't any room in my life for this. If things work out, then awesome. If not? Well I will survive.

Are you maybe so focused on finding them that you have forgotten reality, what it takes to not just find them, but to also keep them and live happily ever after?

I actually believe that one shouldn't focus so much on finding the right one. You will know that he or she is that someone special because they will create feelings within you that no other does.

Overall? I guess I am an 8 or 9.

Sounds great, Goof!

I have found Mr RightNow..
I'm so excited as he's coming to visit me again..
We seem to be able to be apart just a couple weeks then we either fly or drive to each other...
I'm in a happy place...

I would say a one not because I don't have any of those qualitys. Because you will never be a perfect person when that person enters your life they won't be perfect either maybe in your eyes they will be perfect but inside nobody is perfect we all have our self doubts we all have our pains we are struggling with. To say that I am even remotely ready for the one is like saying I'm ready for the sky to fall. If it happens it's going to happen whether I want it to or not. I can strive to be the best person I can be but to have all of those qualities is an unrealistic standard but a good goal to try and achieve. So I will always be a one trying to become a ten.

theres always a way... if he is a 10 and he shows me i should go for 10 too by showing it with actions and sincerity then i will even be an 11 in a heartbeat meaning i dont need to think twice. when two people find and prove in time that another person is worth spending his life with we just have to take chances.... thats me not being skeptical lol

happy for you kitty

Definitely 10...isn't it obvious