so i feel like no matter what i do i **** things up.. it started with this on guy we will call him T we were seeing eachother when i learned he had a g/f.. now im not the home wrecking type but for somereason i continued to see him... well keeping a long story short we stop talking... his decision... then i dated a guy broke up with him cuz he was too sweet... a few other guys here and there that i was talking to then found out they had g.f so i stopped that immediatly... then i find my ex... same situation as with T so i told him i wouldnt do it... he broke up with her and we got together... he winded up cheating on me and then broke up with me... then most recently i was seeing a guy... told him i didnt want a relationship... we stoped talken for a few weeks... we started talken again i realized i wanted to be with him... he then decides to tell me he has a g.f so i get to the point now where i dnt wanna be alone anymore... so im talken to a guy and i know hes a no good scum bag but i just cant seem to get over the fact that now i know what i want.. my question is... do i in some how deserve this do i set myself up... do i have to learn to just except things how they happen?

well you shouldnt be with someone you refer to as a scum bag just because you are lonely. its not really your fault for the whole them having a g.f. they should have been up front about it. just have to be patient when its your turn i guess youll find your mr. right you dont want to rush into something because then it could be completely what you didnt want. im learning to be patient myself

I don't have any advice for you, but maybe you should look into being a soap opera writer.

With a guy,break up with him, dating a guy, broke up with him, seeing a guy, broke up with him, went back to my ex, broke up with him, seeing a guy, he broke up with me, went back to an ex, he broke up with me, dating a scumbag, broke up with him... do you bring it on yourself?????

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If you stop seeing guys who are "too sweet" and only date guys who are the cheating type then yes you are setting yourself up for this situation. Figure out what it is you like about those guys and try to find some middle ground. Not too sweet, not too scumbaggy....perhaps the baby bear from Goldilocks is single. Give him a call.

Too sweet guys are probably too easy for you, no challenge, You probably get bored. They're also probably too needy and you get irritated.

Accepting things just as they happen even if you don't like it probably won't change anything. Crazy is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different outcome.

Well, you definitely deserve something. Whatever it is, I can't figure it out. Good thing these other guys understand what you're writing. I gave up.

i agree you break up with the ones that are too sweet when it seems they are the ones you need to look for. if you keep pursuing the same type of guy you are going to get the same situation every time.

Do you put out right away with all of them? Because none seem to have respect for you and a lot end up with other women. Doesn't sound as though you respect yourself either. You are totally setting yourself up. I wonder if you like the attention and don't realize you making a bad reputation for yourself.

no its not putting out or anything like that

NO sex with any of them, huh......?

i wouldnt calling it putting out.. its not like i met them and was like heyy wanna ****... i had sex with a couple of them yea but when i was ready to

Youth is wasted on the young....

that was rude

My point exactly.....as fast as you appear to go through men, how could you REALLY know when the "right time" actually should be....get to know them and maybe you'll set some boundaries for yourself. Respect yourself and others will follow.

thank you

It might be rude (in your eyes), but YOU'RE the one asking for advice.... So smile, take the advice, and above all, to thine ownself be true.

Do you have any dysfunction in any other part of your life? Just wondering if you have some real need to be in a tempestuous storm. Some people are just like that and seem to get in their own way repeatedly.

Perhaps it's a fear of commitment. Can't committ to something if you sabotage it or if it's bound to get sabotaged early on.

I don't understand the psychology behind all these things, if I did I probably wouldn't be dateless.

i dont get things my way and i work for what i get so you readers that are thinen oh what a stupid spoiled brat **** you... u have no clue what i have gone through im asking for advice with this situation not my life problems so please leave them out

"Fear of commitment"? This is a very young woman--really no more than a girl.

If I were to give any advice it would be to quit messing around with men/boys for awhile and focus on growing up and becoming your own person. Maybe go to college.