like the one guy said go for the average guy. but at the same time you women are acting like you are perfect maybe there are some reasons you get jerks but i hope you women and men find the one you want

dating has become a popularity contest.if you're a girl or guy and you're not popular,you get over looked.that's what i've been seeing from my experience anyways...

JT... I have to admit that is about 75% of the cases if not more. Society has placed that stigma on people that you have to be thin and pretty. I mean look at magazines, movies, advertisements. I myself, do not hate the skinny people but get disappointed from time to time. I do like myself though and wouldnt change one thing about me. So when looking for someone to potentionaly date, you focus on looks somewhat. But thats not everything and yes there has to be some capatability/chemistry/attraction but that also develops over time as you get to know people better and longer.

now that i do like

i say tha same thing for a nice girl lol

its not true. its no contest im not popular but i have social circles i will not explain this but women love to see that you are known. i wear the top fashion clothes so when im at a place women notice me its has nothing to do with society or being popular

women are hooked to guys that seem like they fun and not looking for a woman. when women see this man in thier mind they thinking i wanna have fun with him too. thats all it is im not sure if this goes with being popular

"The Internet is the most important single development in the history of human communication since the invention of call waiting. "

-Dave Barry

"The Internet: transforming society and shaping the future through chat. "

-Dave Barry

I'm a good guy who is not looking for that special someone online. I'm just here to be friends. I'll go offline to find my future wife. That doesn't mean you won't find that someone special here others have.

I hate to sound like an old man, and believe me, this is just some friendly advice. But maybe you should not use the colorful language like you used in your post.

I believe most nice guys are gentlemen in public and would refrain from using that kind of language.

I know this is a different era, but you asked how come you can't find a nice guy, I just gave a possible answer to your question. Again, it isn't a personal attack, but I am just trying to help.

I hope you find what you are looking for...good luck to you!!

I dont usually talk like that. I'm just upset with how I have been treated in the past. I really am a nice person, and I feel like I deserve a decent guy. I appreciate your comment, and like I said, I dont talk that way.

You will find a decent man who you will hit it off with.

A friend tonight...reminded me about the importance of being...patient, I told him that I didn't have any. I think certain things can't ever be rushed, and things will happen in their own time. No amount of instant gratification...will help...

Hey Puff. Thanks for the advice!

im gonna say.. give it time... he will come.

It's simple math really Txgal.

Nice guys are just one in a thousand now a days, just like nice girls. They're out there, they're just hard to come by. And yes, unfortunately, they have a tendency to be involved in relationships when you do find them, but it's all just a matter of patience until the right one knocks you off your feet.

And sorry to disagree, mbcasey, but just becuase someone uses modern slang or dialect in a casual chat room does not by any means make them less of a gentleman or lady. In public, maybe, but being nice and being all 'golly gee whiz' are two entirely different things.

live life, do not look for love it will find you.

When you are in doubt, be still, and wait;
when doubt no longer exists for you, then go forward with courage.
So long as mists envelop you, be still;
be still until the sunlight pours through and dispels the mists
as it surely will.
Then act with courage.


Thunder Bear

this is a public place.... that was my point. In private, people can talk anyway they want. So I am glad you agree with me.

if you want a man,here's what you do....


you throw a brick through his windshield "by accident" and than give him your phone # to discuss the incident.



ok i've tried that with a few women but ended up with their bf's wanting to beat me down but who knows,it might work differently with a guy.