Yes they're pros and cons of dating being in the dating world..lol..

OMG. The amount of work, time and energy and money that goes into dating...
Is absolutely absurd..
The haircuts the new outfits the restaurants... the traveling..
The constantly having to be on your best behavior or at least putting your best foot forward.....

And just to have it ..not work out at the end of the night...
At the meet and greet..

So frustrating when they put a picture up of themselves on their profile from 10 years ago... or they just drone on and on about their problems and their selves...

Or now they decide to tell you they have small children at home.. or maybe they live in their ex-husbands basement..omg...

Do you have any pros or cons to add

You don't have any pros.

... well maybe you would like to add some pros..hmmm

I guess from the point of the view from the woman a pro would be... she gets a nice dinner out of it.... and you ladies out there that say oh I always pay for my share of the bill..hmmmm..
Funny I've never met that woman yet..lol... but I am old fashion I believe a man should pay for dinners... for the first little bit....

But like I tell them my date after a certain period has passed. .or in my profile Maybe that ....like you! I have bills too so a fair division... expenses related to dating should be divided equally

LOL...I'm in NY & particularly in my section of NY the housing market is crazy expen$$ive. If you don't make over $40,000 you will be paying over 60% of your monthly income for rent.

Living in an ex-husbands basement sounds like a reasonable solution to over inflated-market price rules-no requirements for affordable housing in any new building developments to me.

PS (can you put me in touch with that ex husband to see if he has another basement for rent???)

I have been single for almost 4 years now (I intent to stay that way)...But when I go out I always pay for my dinner. It's easy for me this way and I'm perfectly ok with it.

Dating starts out with me being nervous. I have the hopes that we will have a good conversation and like each other. Often it is lunch, so then we might go for a walk, if things go well. I want to get to know someone and have fun. Also, I've never asked a man out and I was always told, the person that does the asking, is the one who pays. A couple of times I have offered some money to pay a bill and the guy seems a little offended.

I've heard that the crazy minimum income to live also applies to San Francisco--at least $135,000.

Cat, offering to pay some is a nice gesture, and it's also happened to me. When it did, I just smiled and said, "Thanks, but I got it."

pros , you have the potential to meet awesome people

cons, you have the potential to meet buttholes

I like this one too.

I know of no "pro's." That's why I prefer some variation on real life, to any variation on "dating."

Pros/Cons?

I don't worry about it. When I ask a woman out I pay. Regardless of how the date goes. Anything after that, I don't worry about that either. I'm out there amongst them anyway. I'm Eddie. I'm never going to be anyone but Eddie. You either like me or you don't. If you do, GREAT! Maybe it will lead to an everlasting relationship. If you don't, GREAT! I was looking for a date when I found you. I'll go get another one.



More often the latter.

I saw Pros and Cons and almost creamed my jeans.
I do Pros and Cons on everything it seems.
Haven't really gave dating much thought tho?
Lets see...

Disclaimer: I don't do dates. I do get-togethers. All that hub-bub about the dating ritual is just a bunch of crap to me. I'll be myself and you be yourself and lets see if we 'click' together.

PROS

> I get to see how punctual she is.
> I get to see how well she takes care of herself.
> I get to see how preoccupied she is.
> I get to see her smile and laugh.
> I get to see if she wears a seat belt. (tells more than you might think)
> I get to see how she treats others.
> I get to read her honesty in her eyes.
> I get to see her energy level.
> I get to hear her voice.
> I get to smell her. (not as strange as it might sound)
> I get to start to understand her.
> I get to touch her (if she is willing to hold my hand)
> I get to learn about her life from her point of view.
> I get to see how attentive she is to my words.
> I get to learn what she likes.
> I get to learn what she doesn't like. (yes, that is a good thing)
> I get to see her beauty of body and soul.
> I learn how she takes limitations.
> I get to learn how sexually mature she is.
> I get to learn how emotionally mature she is.
> I get to learn her limits.
> I get to see if she is natural or playing an act.
> She gets to see me as I am naturally.
> She gets to experience all the pros I previously mentioned too.
> I get to see how she reacts to someone that treats her like a friend and not an object.
> I get to listen to her tell me how she has never felt so good with someone else before.
> She gets to feel like I respect her as a woman and a person.
> We get to get all excited on the way home because she/I want to see me/her again.

Could go on and on for a good bit longer but...

CONS

> I get to see how punctual she is.
> I get to see how well she takes care of herself.
> I get to see how preoccupied she is.
> I get to see her smile and laugh.
> I get to see if she wears a seat belt. (tells more than you might think)
> I get to see how she treats others.
> I get to read her honesty in her eyes.
> I get to see her energy level.
> I get to hear her voice.
> I get to smell her. (not as strange as it might sound)
> I get to start to understand her.
> I get to touch her (if she is willing to hold my hand)
> I get to learn about her life from her point of view.
> I get to see how attentive she is to my words.
> I get to learn what she likes.
> I get to learn what she doesn't like. (yes, that is a good thing)
> I get to see her beauty of body and soul.
> I learn how she takes limitations.
> I get to learn how sexually mature she is.
> I get to learn how emotionally mature she is.
> I get to learn her limits.
> I get to see if she is natural or playing an act.
> She gets to see me as I am naturally.

After a few get-togethers and we get familiar with each other and comfortable with each other we may have opportunity to attend a formal function that requires pomp and circumstance.
To me that is mostly all cons.
Cons because pomp and circumstance requires unnatural behavior. It demands etiquette that is not easy and can be done wrong. Cautions are needed so not to offend the ruling party. Those cautions, if over-looked can cause turmoil in your own or your date's life.
I've done formal engagements and can hold my own but I don't like the superficial two-faced mentality of the people I see. Liars piss me off.

If I am at a formal function and my 'date' starts telling me to do or not to do something, I'll turn and walk away.

This thread just reminds me of my first job where the guy training me would sometimes say "this job would be great, if it weren't for the customers."

It's like I'm reading "dating would be great if I just didn't have to date other people."


Not really.
Every pro is a con to someone, every con is a pro to another.

AND.. I might add...

Most pros are also cons depending on how you look at it.

Tom, what you wrote? It's called dating. You way, way over thought this.

LOL, I do. I do over-thunk a lot of stuff.
See if I was out on a date RIGHT NOW I wouldn't have time to be over-thunking it. I would probably be over-doing it.
But, attention to detail is in my nature and I have tried to stop and it usually bites my butt when I do.

That's why I prefer to skype first. It provides a live visual platform & opportunity for some live, animated conversation.This way it is possible to find out if "All The Work' it will require to actually meet this individual will be worth it.