yeah it's eyes..

agreed

its how interesting you say hello

The window to the soul.

is a complex process you're not really aware of.
Body ratios, scent, body language/indirect communication.

After your brain does a bunch of work it pokes you with emotions and feelings, and then your conscious decision making self fixates on something your experience has associated most closely with those emotions and feelings filtered through the bias of your mood and life situation.

Some people choose legs and feet, shoes, to look down, for things like to submit and look for someone to be dominant.

Some people choose butt, wallet, waist, and hips, for things like seeing someone as breeding stock on some level.

Some people choose belly, chest, or breasts, for things like succor or to objectify and dominate.

Some people choose neck, face, or eyes, due to insecurity and vanity, for things like needing immediate mutual feedback for their feelings, to gain external validation that what they're feeling or thinking is okay.

Focusing on any single body part isn't really a healthy thing.
At the very least it's generally simple people who don't want to put any effort of thought into it and want a scapegoat to explain their feelings to them.
Little different than labeling people, putting them in boxes metaphorically speaking.


A more clear window is correctly understanding consistent behavior and interaction with their environment, especially in stressful situations.

That's not as much fun as, and takes more effort than, "wrangler butts drive me nuts!" or "I'm a boob man!" though.

Hello Baby You are so right

Doubly right

Hello Baby You are so right

I get the last statement, but you lost me with the fist one.

I can't really pinpoint any one thing because different people have different qualities that come shining through to me.

The eyes first for me.

A smile.

It is very insightful... and I think he's got a bloody good point.

I think the first attraction is a far more overall thing than just eyes. Eyes are part of it, yes.
It's more how you energetically match, which is indeed revealed by the eyes. But it's to do with the energy, the vibe you see and sense in them.
It's not just the eyes though, your entire body will sense that energy.

That's why 'having a type' doesn't mean much when it comes to real love. You may fall head over heels in love with someone who isn't your type at all, but does energetically match so well that all your bells start chiming.

The physical stuff I think is mostly an issue for ppl who are mostly searching, living and reacting from issues. Which is most ppl unfortunately.. (Read the first part of Ciretom's posting)

even a smile is well communicated through a blink of eye..

Her fashion sense. Don't care what she wears as long as she wears it well.

All very good points to ponder. Symmetry is another but I am not sure why? I saw a study online where people's faces were mirrored for symmetry. The study depicted ratings of the natural face compared to the mirrored face and revealed that most of the ratings favored a natural non-symmetry face. Imperfections, it seems, have a distinct appeal.

For this discussion, I am figuring devendra1010 refers to first line of attraction when viewing potential matches here. Since most profile pictures are of people's faces and full body or action pictures are few and far between, the question deals with mostly facial features.

At a point in my career I worked as a service advisor at a car dealership. My job was to deal with customers in the service department having or needing their cars repaired. I studied CSA (Customer Service Advisor) techniques published nationally. One of the things they suggested was to install a mirror behind the service desk. It seems most people do not like to see themselves angry. We did that and the number of angry customers diminished significantly.

Similarly, here at M2, if you see a picture that you perceive as an angry expression it is more likely to turn you 'off'.
Over-all expressions that pictures broadcast to you are perceived at first sight. My profile pic for example makes me appear to be sad. It takes a close inspection to see that I am not sad, it is my mustache that makes me appear sad. I include it because it is my most recent picture. This spring my facial hair will be removed for the most part.

I believe that most people are inherently 'good'. They assess a profile pic to determine that person's affinity.

Personally, if I see someone that is sad I try to cheer them up.
If I see someone angry I tend to shy away. Those emotional vibes range up and down the scale and have differing magnitude depending on how I feel myself, while looking at them. To me, those impressions determine my first reaction to the person I am looking at. The ones that inspire me, cause me to look closer.

In person, the first impressions are very different. My eyes go directly to her gaze. Not her eyes, her whole expression while looking at me. She could have mesmerizing eyes but if her body language and facial expression are hostile I will not approach her.

Stand-off body language does not necessarily put me off if her expression is warm and welcoming.

Physically,
I prefer a proportional body type. If her head is normal but she is excessively skinny; her head normal but her body is excessively large or anything just not normal to the human physique it is a flag. I don't mind skinny if the body looks like is supposed to be skinny. I don't mind large if the body looks like it is supposed to be large.

Specific Attributes,
When I was younger and looking to reproduce my eyes went to her tummy and rear. I looked for breasts that were ample and succulent.

After I was married and had kids, I gravitated to legs and necks. I still adore proportional legs and necks but at my age I have become more forgiving of imperfections understanding that time takes its toll on the human body.

Now that I am alone and always horny my interests are definitely the lower end. But, I am looking for someone special and my gaze tends to go to the eyes and mouth first. The second thing that I look at is the left hand, specifically the ring finger. If I see a ring I immediately lose interest. If I see a ring mark, I continue but will ask about it as soon as possible. I refuse to do to anyone what was done to me.

Having dealt with a compulsive liar for 25 years I know that the eyes are NOT the window to the soul. Eyes can lie as much as the mouth. The expression is the window to the soul. Not just the facial expression. The whole body expression including the sub-conscious mannerisms. We all have mannerisms that we are not aware of that we broadcast to everyone we meet. Those mannerisms can put you off or turn you on.

Here at M2 I am open for anything as long as the personality does not conflict with mine. My preferences for physical attributes are:

~ Long Blond Hair **I am not locked into only long haired blonds it is my preference but not a deciding factor. I also like brunettes, red hair and salt & peppers** The hair must be healthy looking and I like it long more than short. Man hair length on a woman actually turns me off.

~ Blue Eyes **Again this is a preference but not a deciding factor. I do not like eyes that are caked with too much makeup. Some light makeup that brings out the skin tones and eye color is wonderful but I like natural best.**

~ Anglo-Saxon/Caucasian **While I am not prejudiced against any ethnic or cultural features my preference is someone like me** I am open to any type if her personality merits my attention.

~ Sincere Expression **by sincere I mean natural, not forced.**

~ Neck **proportional to her head both in length and width.**

It is the eyes.. they never lie

I totally agree with you both. I just don't understand what he meant in the first statement under my quote.

This is what I got from his statement:

Eyes will not give you an understanding of the person's integrity. Eyes can deceive. They are a physical thing that changes with emotion.
Consider the saying "Don't tell me you love me demonstrate it"
Consistent behavior can only be observed over time. We are all consistent on how we react to things. That behavior reflects who we truly are.
Interaction with our environment is not how we react to the weather. Our environment is everything we encounter in our lives. How we take things that are said to us to how we deal with stress or pleasure.

Again, This has more to do with actual real encounters than it does with initial assessments from a profile picture but as we read into the personality we garner a glimpse of these qualities. We read the profiles, look at any personality traits that person reveals to determine if more, real life, assessments are warranted.