Why not uncomplicate things and find someone single like me?

oh well its a matter of how much time he spend with u after his work/at home.
seconds/minutes/hours right?

hahaahhahahha nice one
however I have this impression that good and responsible men r already taken. ..
haahaaja
just kidding

I wouldn't know, sorry. I never fell in love with a married man who's 25 years older

there's always a first time in everything

she never planned to fall for a married man it just happened

Hey

You know, the last time I heard "it just happened" was when I was a youth councilor. We had two sides to the campus, boys and girls. I had one girl, 16y/o who'd gotten pregnant by one of the boys and her parents were blaming our establishment.
I was mad at both when I learned of this unwanted pregnancy and when the girl saw my face, she broke down in tears and said "I don't know... it just happened."
NO, things like that and what you're speaking of, OP, don't JUST HAPPEN.
A man doesn't JUST HAPPEN to stick his tool into a woman. They BOTH have to want it or it's rape.
So how did this married man JUST HAPPEN to be involved with an impressionable girl who doesn't know the difference between love and infatuation?
I want to say more but then I'll be offending the ladies on this site with unwanted sexism and other macho-crap...

Feelings are feelings, but people can control the actions they take. Plan and simple....it's wrong. You said we don't understand because we don't give the answers you want? Whatever! I get it. I did develop feelings for a married man before. Guess what? I didn't act on it! It was a turn off that a married man could behave that way. I don't even want a non-married guy but in a relationship.

So she dated players before....welcome to the real world. So she becomes the player?

You quoted the Bible about judging others. What does it say about adultery?

You say we don't know the whole story. 1st I don't need to to know it's wrong to act on it. 2nd you are the OP. You didn't give the whole story then. When you ask a question, you will get answers. Seems the only one that gets it is a married man on a dating site

Ok you said the wife has medical problems and wanted a divorce but HE wouldn't leave. That is a big clue right there! The mistress is only for sex in this case. That isn't a loving relationship

I have always heard ...that when you get yourself in that situation...
1 can be happy and they are not in love with the idea of spending a life time together ...just those sneak away times...both seem to get off on ... but the none married person sure could get hurt if they do not understand no one will ever leave the marriage ... even if they say they will ... just to keep the relationship going ...
but sooner or later something is going to happen ... and is a waiting game ... I had chances with married men after my divorce ... and I sure wanted to ... but I did not let it get far ... figured it would do more harm then good ... so I just when I could I did not want to be the one to break up a marriage ... but I do no others who don't care about that ... but I guess if I had any morals left ... I would not do that ... Just me ... others ready and waiting to jump on that kind of relationship ... becouse they know it is just temporary...and they have commitment issues their self anyway...

Ahhhh ... Dennis Hastert is still married man (past Speaker of the House, USA) and he has sex with children ... and I am sure he will have sex with you instead of his wife.

Point being .. Married boy is screw you and screw his wife he screw any body .. no age discrimination ...

just like Dennis Hastert.

Yup .. Dennis is a boy that F's around with every thing ... every thing ... nothing to do with fair no matter what you do.

Nothing at all ... you want a Man .. then you gonna have to find one.

Not many around I am sorry to say.

nes pa mon petite shu ...

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agree..oh not about the sexism thing
post what you want, people will choose to be offended by it or not

two people may come in contact with each other

without planning to meet
but are perhaps introduced to each other in a social situation by a mutual acquaintance ..perhaps one or both may think upon initial meeting
that the other is attractive, cute, humorous and fun
but if one or both are married ? It is by CHOICE that this conversation continues and moves into physical contact

I agree that both cheaters are wrong. A married man can't cheat without a willing partner and the mistress is willing.

Regardless of issues in the marriage....end one before starting a new one. The side hoochie should wait for the other one to end

Wise words and one of the reason I never went with someone married or already in a relationship. I wouldn't want my partner to cheat on me, so don't do it to someone else.

Saying that my views have changed too, so I'm not sure where I stand now?

I know people in a relationship but they are both unhappy or at least one is, if you're not getting love from the one you love then you'll look for it somewhere else. Everyone needs to be made feel loved.

I don't like seeing other people unhappy, if I were to meet someone today who was married and very unhappy, she wanted some attention from me, if I liked her I think I would if it made her happy. The only problem I have is that I can get attached and know I'll get hurt. But I would also do my best in trying to make her feel happy again.

There are options for married couples. But an outsider has more options. If someone values relationships and themselves, then they don't get involved

Quite simple:
- You'll never have him for your partner, ever.
- You won't ever be nr 1. If you were, he'd divorce his wife.
- Lame excuses to not divorce are just that: lame excuses, no matter how convincing and valid they may sound
- You are the one suffering unless you like being the extra, easy on-the-side woman
- Huge age gap. Would never work for me, too many disadvantages.
- I don't want to be with a man old enough to be my dad
- No future, both because of his age and because you are not his partner and never will be
- it will block you from finding true happiness with a man who does want to be with you, with you by his side as his partner.
He doesn't suffer, he has his partner. And you as an extra. Paradise for him, for you not so much.

Advantages:
- feasible if you don't want a normal, steady relationship
- no commitment
- in this case not being in a relationship could be an advantage to keep it going --> if you were with him in a normal relationship you could find the age gap is a problem.

I think some 10 yrs from now you'll bang your head against a brick wall for having been so stupid and for wasting so many wonderful years of your life.

You asked...

R E S P E C T... inhale a bit of it and you'll know the disadvantages and advantages when you have respect inside you.... RESPECT yourself ....

I agree. We always have a choice, even if we're looking down the barrel of a gun.

One advantage would be that you experience what you believe to be love and possibly learn from the experience.

The disadvantages would be relative to the intricacies of the situation and there consequences.

If the age difference was part of the attraction the chances of outgrowing a parent child relationship are high for both participants

some questions I would ask

Is the wife aware of your relationship?

What are the consequences of adultery in the country you are in?

What do you expect to gain from pursuing the relationship?

What is stopping you from pursuing this relationship?
Its not clear to me whether you have actually reached the status of mistress yet and its easier to ask than sift through the thread to find out