realistically speaking? ??
women doesnot need a title (paper to be a wife) to be happy we r n the 21st century
companionship matters most
beside divorce rate s higher now than 10-20 years ago
f u dont see a lot of women into this kind of relationship it only means u dont see or live a life out of ur backyards

haha love it this reply

Realistically speaking, it is still adultery if a single woman has a sexual relationship with a married man.

You are taking it out of context David (I want to leave the Dodo part out as it seems demeaning sexists and racists for me to put it in). Here I will copy and paste the whole statement again which was about you suggesting OP was not in love but it was an infatuation instead as what you considered in your judgment a point of clarification. I just went further with that same clarification as OP wanting to "call' it love ... much like an addict calling it 'medical' when they drink and use. Op wants to 'use' the word love for what in your opinion is an infatuation.

I can not be more clear then that .. if it is still not understandable then FURGETBOUTIT.

To wit:

then it is clearly about Sex and Money ... under the guise of love or infatuation.

Have to put a smily face on it ...

where I am not an addict as this is MEDICAL pot or alcohol I do every day ...

Hey OP ... with Marriage Papers you get Divorce Papers to toss him or her out.

With just hooking up and living together under the same roof .. then you need to get Restraining Order Papers to toss them out of the house as most states do not recognize common law marriage. Still in the ones that do ... still need to cut papers to toss them out.

Just saying ....

sumbuddie wear blind sea

Totally agree with this.

Ihyne
It's not love it's lust.
You don't take or participate in something that is not fully yours. That's asking for trouble.
What affect does it have on others? Think of them. Eg children?
To me lust is selfish and very demeaning.
Doing this sort of thing gives others reasons to think lower of you.
Names like home wrecker is what you will be labelled along with a few others.
He's not available to you fully, don't accept anything less.
Sick sick sick
Grow up and think of someone else for a change.

It's still sick perverted heartless selfish lust.
I have no respect for people who do this.

I had the feeling at the start of this thread, that there was a "second shoe to drop." I wasn't expecting a closet-full of them though, as has shown by now.

The opening question was oversimplified, because in this forum, the natural assumptions are that we are referring to a two person marriage, and marriage vows that include some sort of cleave-only-unto-each-other clause.

Now we learn that all bets are off, and that the guy can openly have as many wives and "other female companions" as he wants, and that everyone involved is okay with this. At least, if I read what I think I read.

Under those parameters, there is no special advantage or disadvantage to "falling in love with a married man," save time constraints.

One concern I think should be mentioned anyway, is again dependent on the goals of the person involved. That is, that many people who THINK they are in love with an otherwise committed person, don't realize until too late, that what they are really in love with, is being able to indulge THEMSELVES sexually or otherwise, without having to give a thought to consequences to the other person. And/or, they are in love with a version of the married person, who is only the way they are (i.e. relaxed and in control), BECAUSE they are already married, and therefore THEY don't have to worry about pleasing the new "squeeze."

This is why so many instances where someone falls for a married person, stays until a divorce goes through, but then discovers that the person they (thought they) were in love with, no longer exists.

FFS! Cheating is cheating and it's wrong, no matter how someone twists it! Your "friend" and the married man should be ashamed! You wouldn't like it if you were the wife, so stop justifying it

Sometimes it's just about intimacy and sexual needs that are not met by your partner.

Say you have a spouse who decided unilaterally that sex was over but in most every other sense is a loving wonderful partner. (edit out all the medical drama) Does that condemn the other spouse to a life without ever again experiencing real intimacy and sexual fullness of life?

Say this situation has gone on for twenty plus years. Do you condemn that other spouse for the years of putting up with that unilateral declaration? Do you apply labels to that or, better still, if they'd just like to feel appreciated and attractive and loved in a physical sense?


Sometimes it's just about intimacy and sexual needs that are not met by your partner.

u totally got the whole scenario.
they`re married for 30 years/2 children both r married. wife n her 50`s have a lot of medical dramas
b4 3 years doctor said. She s not allowed to have sexual contact anymore.
Wife asked for a divorce for this reason but he didnot leave her.
They r living together but there's a

until now

so to all of u who judged her (mistress)
aren't u giving her a benefit of the doubt
how important her rule s to make that marriage stay?
folks stop judging f u dont know the real story.
But thanks anyway.
Rest assured all ur opinions/advices r seriously taken by her
n pursuing her future steps(stop /go on)

appreciate ur opinion
however u know nothing about the OP.

JUDGE NOT
SO U WILL NOT BE JUDGE LATER

reality are greater than ideas

calm down
me, myself was once a devoted wife so believe me I knew the feelings being cheated
before I post this topic I already knew 99% of people reading this will not agree but im still holding the 1 % of the people as I knew she s not alone n her situation
the moment she s ready to take others opinion means she/herself has doubts n her current situation
that's why she was asking the advantages /disadvantages from someone she dont know.
that's all
end of story

I do not understand why anyone in Lebanon would be asking people outside of Lebanon for their opinion about a subject pertaining to morality.

What people use as a moral compass isn't universal.

This single woman - who wants to be with a married man - is going to have to deal with the society that she is in, not a society that is elsewhere.

sir f u got annoyed on the topics that I posted ? U can simply ignored it .. right?

btw I never thought this forum is exclusive
I was under the impression its open to all as its a free app.
Anyways,,,
Im working n lebanon but im not lebanese

as u can recall my question s very simple
how we analyze it, that makes it complicated as each one of us has our own ideas
hopefully
we r all matured,
enough to respect each ideas without discrimination

In the long run it will only bite you in the ***

Well ... OP in her special Mayberry world 'Asks' for opinions which just might include legal opinions .. and the retort comes about judgments being directed at her instead.

Most people are a can short of a six-pack and on the face of it ... one can say practicing addicts are not good at reading any compass.

sumbuddie wear blind sea