I agree. I am wrong. It didn't work.
Great points by ciretom & igor, thanx

I guess I am just too stupid to be in a relationship and have no right in the forums.

Thanx for pointing out how hopeless I am.

You're not hopeless, just lonely. But addressing your needs may be " a little out of our ballpark", to quote Col. Potter.

You insulted us when we didn't instantly "get" your recitation, and now you are pretending that we've made negative declarations about you which we haven't made. Resentful petulance doesn't accomplish anything. I've done it myself in the past, so I know this very well.

like the desk organizer ya bougnt to simplify your life
only to find the directions are in japanese



post whatever ya feel like
as long it is pg 13
but be prepared that not all will understand

I got your post instantly? Easier said than done though...the communication needs to be golden. Thanks for sharing :)

Or care to read it even if they do understand.

I got it too, pretty clear as well, but alas.
The only thing I found myself thinking... why try to address the ants and the elephant when clearly you have to talk to your partner?
I get the point you're trying to make though.

I think what you describe happens a lot to many people. The only way around is to learn through past and present relationships and change the way you engage in them. Meaning: communicate. Don't wait, don't bottle things up and wait for it all to explode.
Learning to communicate properly is so important, and practising it too of course.
Not necessarily easy though...

I don't know!! but my elephant just took a big dump in my room....
Now I'm not so concerned about the elephant ..as I am over the big steaming hunk of crap...lol

Plant flower seeds

I agree with you ... I got the messages but the rest started to confuse me a bit ... but hey I read the whole thing for once lol

ok op you don't believe that ...come on ... they made some observations that's all ... where not making fun of you ...
let me tell you something ... was in a site full of freaking spell ckers like police ... they made me feel terrible in the forums ... if I misspelled one little thing or my ...pucksuwtions... punctuation was never right ... freak them did not stop me ... so just hope your joking about not being welcomed in the forums ... u are

I had never heard the story of the ants but knew about the Elephant in the Room. I even bought an ugly elephant planter once, hoping to start a conversation about why I bought it. My SO at the time, never mentioned it and we continued living with the elephant in the room until I told him he had to leave. He never understood why. I said I would never be in a relationship like that again if we couldn't discuss our problems. I guess that's why I'm still alone!

Yes, boring, anyway for me :)). But maybe for someone it's interesting ...