I am a single mom of a 2yr old. It is hard to meet anyone! Anyone else feel this way? I am tired of playing games. Just want to meet a nice guy and become friends. Sadly cant seem to find yet!

it is going to be hard for you to find that person who 'loves' you .. and wants to give them selves to you .... so that they bond with the child from another person that is not theirs.

until you find that person ... and you have to be ready for it (right now, like Bristol 'Big Middle Finger' Palin you are chasing them away ... and I know 'IT IS HIS FAULT') it is better for you to hook up and play around.

While doing this ... do NOT .... push a string of guys through your life and put that picture into your child's head. Same for Daddy ... best he doesn't pass a string of girls through his life .. so his child doesn't get that picture in their head.

You have relationship issues and you are an addict on something .. just like your mom and dad before you. Until you can fix that up .. whenever you find a contender they will be an addict and have relationship issues.

So .... go play around on weekends or holiday ... set up your play time away from the child(ren) .. and engage in Adult Responsible Behaviour .. not thinking that you will ever find a person who will bond and imprint on you and the child.

Aim low ... it makes for less disappointment and making you insane with despair and despondency.

Try to have a happy life in the mean time .. that you have taken on this 16-year commitment.

If you want to go full ego and narcisstic .. then dump the kid and go find another guy to play house and have baby sex with.

Bristol Palin has two children from two different guys and never married while still a teenager.

Think the dumbie would learn the first time .. but .. nooooooooo.

Maybe she needs a third baby ... Octomom has a house full and she not married while being a porn star .. getting her itch scratched that way while bringing in some cash for the house.

These people LOOK like they are crazy or insane .. but really .. they are addicts and have relationship problems from their mom and dad .. who were (are) addicts and have relationship problems.

Gets passed down the generations.

Sorry for the hard news ... but it is better to know and do something to fix it.

Then not know and make it worse.

Try to think of it as the best Christmas present you have ever received in your life.

sumbuddie wear blind sea

u not meet me yet

I don't think its all doom and gloom for you because you are a single mom. There are a lot of guys out there who will love you and the kid.
You don't need to lower your moral standards because of anyone or dump your kid. That kid is a divine gift,invest ,treasure(him/her).
The right guy will show up.
Remain blessed!!

There is a degree of difficulty for every one.

It is true that a single mom has more difficulty simply by being restricted in movement and by responsibilities.

Also the single mom can be the target of two different types of predator one after her and one after her child.

A parent needs to protect both them self and their child
Anything that interferes with that priority has to be re-prioritised.

I know I'm stating the obvious but just a little reminder and acknowledging your difficulties.

While it is difficult it is not impossible so I wish you good fortune in your endeavours

Yes it is hard to meet any one in these days and times.
As stated many times all the need to protect yourself and child. But just the frustration and stress of caring for a little one can take all of your focus and energy all so. And makes it difficult to just be spontaneous and roll with the flow. But there are single fathers out there on the hunt themselves.

Keep your head up and don't let the bad people get you down.
Good luck to you.

Depending upon how much of a 'network' a single mom has around her to 'help', the job can be nearly all consuming without much room to introduce another person who requires your time and energy.


I always felt the best bet was in other single parents who will understand the demands and obligations and have the same types of struggles that you can perhaps help EACH other with.

I agree with that. As a proud father i think that someone cant accepted you have kids it will never work out...

I was a single mom myself and decided to devote my time and energy to that. Whether you have children or not and even when you become older dating is not easy. Nowadays many don't want a commitment and just want a "fun time"
I don't want that. So be happy and enjoy life and having a beautiful child who will love you unconditionally forever.

Well said, and I agree.

You really have to be careful who you introduce to your child, and where your priorities are...

I still find it "trickier" to date - and my youngest is 18. Both of my boys still live at home, and that doesn't match the average preference of men my age (it seems) - most would prefer the kids be out of the house.


Good luck, & be careful ! :)

it must be tricky for you inni

when you already have two men at home who love you unconditionally,,,gotta be hard for the average joe to live up to,,,

Judging from your profile, you seem like a nice enough lady. You're not looking for a hook up and your grounded in your faith, those are two positives in your favor in attracting a guy who might share those values.

I do like the photo of you with the little kitten on your shoulder. That's a sweet photo. I say that because I love little animals myself, especially dogs and cats.

As others have stated, your child will love you unconditionally, no matter what.

We all have certain barriers to overcome. Mine just so happens to be a disability, which sort of limits what I'm capable of doing. But I try not to let that disability dictate my path in life.

Good luck in your search. :)

Hello ms

I know how you feel on this. As a papa of two kids of my own its definately been a rough road to find the right one for someone to date. lately on here keep finding the catfish with the fake pics which is a real bummer. easy to weed em out though with a quick back image search on google but still man its a real disappointment when you find out theyre not at all what they say they are for sure. i wish you all the best of luck and remember youre not alone in this difficult search as a parent.

Where is the father of your 2 year old child if i may ask?

Being a single parent is tough
I always tried to line it up that I was/am a person/parent/single. Granted my kids are grown now but I had to negotiate a lot of it on my own.
That meant planning and working toward goals over time and bartering for many of the things we needed.
Just as kids need friends to be healthy and happy it didn't take long to figure out that the married sfriends that deserted the ship like rats would have to be selectively replaced with Single friends of similar values. Contrary to do popular media there are plenty of good responsible parents out there that have interests like you
Female an Male

It took about two shakes to f
igure out there a lot of singles that were a disaster and there wasn't going to be any compartmentalizing a "wild life".
Yea you can and benefits from dating away from your area but in today's world;especially with media everywhere you want to factor living with whatever reputation you earn and keep it on the "better" side. That may sound like old lady prissy morality that is just raining on your parade but there will be times when you are so glad you weren't caught with your proverbial pants down because it is worth it. Maybevthat is someone vouching for you on the job,with a landlord, and yea that future person Worth having and having you. Remember your kids learn what you live.
And you live repeatedly makeing bad choices the forgiveness will run out.

The guy has to accept mommy and child(s) are a single package. No can do, move on.

Love all of me, or none of me.

My current gf of 12 yrs was a single mother of 1 (well 3 but the other 2 were away) when I met her. The first and foremost thing I said coming into the relationship was that her daughter was #1 in her life and I was #2. It is always important for any partner of a single parent to know and accept their place, after the child(ren) if they cannot accept that then move on. I also have an acquaintance who is with a mother of three and helps support the house.

Just to say there are men out there that will accept and RESPECT you and your 2yr old, don't rush or force it. Meet people, make friends, and eventually you will meet the right person. Remember we DO exist...

Get ahold of me sometime sweetie