Someone tell me it's just a guy thing? Please?

It's a guy thing.
(We like men who beg.)

"Love making love hate tLking about it"

Stay the hell away from phone sex I guess?

You hate talking about it....so you create a forum to talk about it

Just depends on exactly what you mean.

It could be a "childish" or maturity thing.
Kind of like with your changing body and you start liking girls, and your mom or sister start kinda teasing you. "Oooooh, you've got a girlfriend, oooooh, you liiiiike her," and you say "shut up! she's not my girlfriend! I don't like her! She's yucky! Girls are gross!"

You like her, but you hate talking about it because it's confusing and you need to beat down the emotions to a controllable level and make sure people see you a certain way, in a certain social position, with a certain power level. As a guy, as normal, as they used to, without weakness, in control, whatever.

Could be something else.
Like you've noticed or formed the heuristic that some people online just like to chat, emotionally masturbate, about the type of relationship, and love, and behavior they want, but never really do anything about it.

So maybe you're saying "I want to actually go do things, make love, not sit online and talk about it. I'd rather just do it for an hour than sit online and email/im/text chat about it for 3 weeks."

Could be you know you aren't really making love, just getting laid.
But you've rationalized and told yourself that you are, that's the facade you have to adopt in order to get laid.
So you hate talking about it because you think you are going to say something, reveal some truth that will stop you from getting what you really want, cracking the facade.

Could be from your past experiences with women and relationships the more you talk about something the more differences come to light in the relationship showing incompatibilities and the quicker the relationship fails.

It "could" be "just a guy thing," if you want it to be.
But most likely it's not.

Do you want it to be "just a guy thing?"
Then, okay, I give you permission to just chalk it up to that and not have to think about it ever again, and if any emotional problems arise from avoidance and swallowing emotions in the future?
Then blame her/women or blame approaching middle age or a childhood trauma and talk about that instead.

Thank you for that!


OT: I don't mind talking about making love.

if I were in a relationship and we had not seen in each other in awhile

due to travel or job? mmmm..probably be ok to say how much ya miss me

and...stuff



but sexting to some stranger on internet? boring and a waste of time

Ok.. I'm a little confused.. are we talking about talking about lovemaking while love making.?.
For example..
While making love you tell each other how much you love each other..
Or the act of expressing what you like them to do while making love..ie ) touch me here..yes! There !!
mmm...yes!just a little faster..mmmm..
OK.NOT SO FAST!..OHHH..NOT SO HARD...SLOW DOWN.. I can see Sparks..
Lol..

Nah. It's a YOU thing.

you ask strangers who may have no qualifications other than opinion and you want to consider their perspectives? Check your sources most folks dont know the much but have a variety of superfluous speculations such as this one....lol

Beg for love or sex?

To be honest, I am not at all sure what the OP had in mind .. so I answered based on what I *thought* ...

Talking to my significant other about making love - before, during and after - is fine with me.


To TMommy's point -- sexting with a stranger online, bleh! No thanks!

I don't think it it a matter of women hate talking about it.
I think they think, 'what is the point?'
Most women won't get off like like that. Unless, she is in a physical relationship with the guy. Sometimes, not even then.

Kind of like guys who tell dirty jokes in front of women. I doubt, women are thinking 'I want to do that guy, right here, right now '. I think, they want to get the hell away from him, ASAP. And tell other women, ' He is a pig'. 
Even the ones, who do the 'fake giggle', because they are uncomfortable.

Thanks for taking the question seriously. I guess I may be a childish thing or I just don't find it worth while to talk about. Would rather do it. I can talk about it while doing it just fine. But sitting in the living room watching tv and all of a sudden the conversation turns to something sexual right out of the blue makes me uncomfortable and I just want to end the conversation because it catches me so off guard