Here's my problem, I broke up with my ex in July, but we still talk. I have been dating a girl for a week and a half now. Last night my ex instant messaged me online and asked if i wanted to go out with her tomorrow night, and I said I have plans, she seemed pissed off. She signed off after that. Later on she instant messaged me again and wished me luck on an interview I had, I said thanks, and then she said "Tell Your new woman not to keep you up all night." She then immediately signed off, she usually says bye. Should I let her know I am seeing someone or not say anything? I want her to move on with her life.

It's not really any of her business unless you have kids together.....don't deny or admit anything. She will get the hint!

she is gonna be mad no matter what..you just have to be honest..and not play with her...so that she knows its over..and can get on with her life...

Move on. She obviously has a bad case of "don't know what you got until it's gone". Don't let her manipulate you.

wow, two different answers there.

you owe her nothing..

so should i tell her so she leaves me alone or not?

You tell her you are seeing somebody then the door is open for her to cause problems....

You tell her you are not seeing anybody then she thinks you are fair game!!

Not her business (unless children are involved!!).....you don't owe her an explanation......a simple I have plans will suffice!

If she asks what your plans are then ask her why she wants to know.....and take that chance to tell her that you are not interested in reconciling!! I should have nothing to do w/ your new lady....JMO

It seems we always want what we can't have. The best thing is to be honest with her. Also if your still in love with the ex then it's best to be up front with the other lady. No one wants to be the other women.

i honestly haven't been in love with the ex for a couple years now, I couldn't break it up with her because she always threatened suicide, but in july she made it very easy for me to actually break it off

If she threatens suicide then there is an issue w/ emotional instability.....I would so not involve my new friend in it!!!

HERE'S MY OPiNiON..
i BROKE iT OFF WiTH MY EX LAST MAY.
i RARELY TALK TO HiM, BECAUSE i WANT NOTHiN TO DO WiTH HiM..
BUT OCCASiONALLY HE CALLS FROM A NUMBER i DONT KNOW AND i END UP TALKiN TO HiM..
HOWEVER, iT'S NOT HiS BUSiNESS WHETHER OR NOT i'M DATiNG OR HAVE A BOYFRiEND.. ETC..
SO i REFUSE TO TELL HiM.
AND WE HAVE A SON TOGETHER..
iT'S STiLL NOT HiS BUSiNESS..
HE DOESN'T HELP WiTH OUR SON AND NEVER HAS.

heres my thought... if you can keep them both happy go for it

She needs to move on with her life...you've obviously have been able to do that. For some reason....she had not. She certainly should not be pissed...with what you do or don't do...for that matter!!!!

headwreckers the lot of them

nah didnt mean that,just some

still confused, if i don't tell her she will not move on with her life and keep waiting for me to come back to her even though i told her we are totally done. If I do tell her she will be jealous, mainly because i am totally hot...hahahahaha

You owe her no explanation. Don't have contact with her period. She'll get the message eventually.

I think you're too concerned with what your ex thinks and how she feels. You're so busy trying to figure out what to do about her that you're not even thinking about the girl you're seeing now. The best thing you can do for yourself and your budding relationship is stop communicating regularly with your ex as long as there aren't any children involved.

Yes..they are called Ex's for a reason...especially since you got no children by her!!