I've read that many men are very visual and don't bother to even read a profile; they see a picture of someone who looks good and email right away--they'll deal with compatibility later.
Good luck.

This is really just a vent but I need to get it off my chest.
Men on this site constantly send me emails saying hi and they are not who I am seeking. At first I replied politely and engaged in small talk until it became clear they wanted to develop a romantic relationship. I then tried as politely as I could to point out they were not who I am looking for. They accused me of leading them on.
So I learned from those experiences to say right up front if the gentleman is not a match for me and they still get angry.
Most of this could be avoided if men would just READ my profile but most choose not to.

I am feeling as though I have no choice in who I want to see and to exercise my choice means men (who think they are wonderful gentlemen by the way) feel justified in cursing me and calling me all kinds of names.
Is this the norm on this site? Do other women experience this as well?

Before I set my mail filters, I used to get lots of emails from
very unwanted peeps. If I was not interested, I just didn't
respond and deleted... and anyone mean, I block block block.

Now I have my filters set to my age group, I don't get lots of
emails anymore... partly because most people my age group are
dead.... or just seem dead. lol


So true, so true

Yes, and men experience it as well. And on all dating sites, not just this one.

I had a lovely conversation with a seemingly nice woman, earlier this month. We chatted about the workings of the site (not this one, but similar), I offered some insights (I'd been on longer) and sympathized with her worries. When she asked to move directly to communicating through another email service that I have had very bad experiences with in the past, and I explained that I didn't like that one, she lashed out at me, called me a liar and a deceiver, and demanded I never try to contact her again. Ironic thing was, she was the one who initiated contact.

So yes. it happens everywhere.

And in fact, it is the number one reason why MOST people react to message s from strangers to whom we are not immediately attracted or interested, by deleting them without response.

It's the only effective way to avoid that sudden vicious attack experience.

Yes, and men experience it as well. And on all dating sites, not just this one.

I had a lovely conversation with a seemingly nice woman, earlier this month. We chatted about the workings of the site (not this one, but similar), I offered some insights (I'd been on longer) and sympathized with her worries. When she asked to move directly to communicating through another email service that I have had very bad experiences with in the past, and I explained that I didn't like that one, she lashed out at me, called me a liar and a deceiver, and demanded I never try to contact her again. Ironic thing was, she was the one who initiated contact.

So yes. it happens everywhere.

And in fact, it is the number one reason why MOST people react to message s from strangers to whom we are not immediately attracted or interested, by deleting them without response.

It's the only effective way to avoid that sudden vicious attack experience.

Yes, and men experience it as well. And on all dating sites, not just this one.

I had a lovely conversation with a seemingly nice woman, earlier this month. We chatted about the workings of the site (not this one, but similar), I offered some insights (I'd been on longer) and sympathized with her worries. When she asked to move directly to communicating through another email service that I have had very bad experiences with in the past, and I explained that I didn't like that one, she lashed out at me, called me a liar and a deceiver, and demanded I never try to contact her again. Ironic thing was, she was the one who initiated contact.

So yes. it happens everywhere.

And in fact, it is the number one reason why MOST people react to message s from strangers to whom we are not immediately attracted or interested, by deleting them without response.

It's the only effective way to avoid that sudden vicious attack experience.

If a guy is cursing you out and calling you names, he is obviously not a gentleman.