I started chatting with a man on this site a few weeks ago. After I felt comfortable,we began talking on the phone. I liked this guy-he was intelligent,funny. We started making plans for this weekend to meet. Then the conversation turned to sex. Hey-we're adults. I wasn't offended. But every conversation after that was sex,sex,sex. I explained to him that I was looking for something real. I could find sex anywhere. I mean I could go to the local tavern and find someone to come home with if that's what I was interested in. Well, last night I emailed him and told him not to come this weekend because the whole thing made me uncomfortable. Did I do the right thing?

absolutely. if youre uncomfortable already there is no reason for him to come down here. *huggs* itll be okay

Thanks preach. Have a great day.

I think you totally did the right thing. If your not comfortable with him anymore, then it will not be any fun. Beside if he respected you he would have slowed it down and/or quit when you asked him to.

hello, I have been through many of the same kind of experiences. I think that people are just different and have different levels of intensity. I also believe that there are men out there that dont always tell the truth. In this avenue of communication,its very easy for people to deceive and be decieved. I think that there are some men out there that,sex is all they are after. I dont judge people,but all i can say is be honest up front,if that's all youre after,tell us. Then if we want to continue talking with you,we will. as for this guy,If the situation makes you feel uncomfortable,then its not right. Its better you found out about it now,before you got in to deep. Im sorry,because i know its disappointing when people dont turn out to be who you thought they were. But there are decent guys out there,just keep looking for the right one. Dont settle for less. Hope you find Mr. Right!!!!! Sincerely,susie

Thanks-I appreciate you guys backing me up.

You did what was right for you.

Irrespective of anyone else's opinions.

yep what they said!

Are you only fun when your kids are gone??

Guy's opinion if it matters. Yes you did the right thing. If it becomes uncomfortable then it's not right for you.

I'm fun all the time-just MORE fun when my kids are gone! Thanks for the advice.

If the guy couldnt see that you wernt looking to hook-up even after you told him, then you definately did the best you could.

You did the right thing. Who knows what his intentions were. Some men fall back to talking about sex when they are uncomftortable with real conversations. Maybe he thinks that if he does'nt talk about sex, you won't be interested? You could continue to chat with him if you're really interested in the person, but taking your time is always smart.

You definitely did the right thing. Sounds like that's all he was ultimately seeking. Always listen to your gut instincts.

^5 to you for canceling. It is better to do that than to go through with it and then live with the regret.

You did the right thing, absolutely!

Yea for you.

Well, at least he was honest in pretty much telling you in uncertian words what he wanted. If I really wanted to meet someone, I damn sure wouldn't be talking about sex before I even meet you!!

Unless you started it!!!!

if you were uncomfortable than absolutely you did the right thing. if your gut instinct is to wait or cancel, than follow that...

Always go with your gut girl

And Kudos for being up front and honest

But it sucks when your disapointed,,,The guys a BIG DOPE,,

Peace

I totally agree with you. I would have done the same thing. I vote YES you did the right thing.