Why is it important to search for love? Isn't it better when love finds you? Letting it happen genuinely and true.

try fishing that way..see how many fish come to you

I think that was simply very well put RustyKitty. And I couldn't agree more. What do you stand to lose when you have everything to gain.

Why not.
Searching teaches.
Learning is good.
It adds value.
Sitting around waiting simply consumes.


It's not if you think it's unimportant.
Otherwise, you can't not search for love.
It's a biological imperative to find a mate.

All you can keep yourself from doing is actively, consciously, searching, making "rational" choices and not pay attention to your instincts believing you have control over the issue.

A lot of people seem to be under the delusion they have complete control over what motivates them.
A lot of people seem to be under the delusion that since they choose to go online, or go to a club, to enter the "dating scene," to try and find someone to date, to find someone to love, then their motives are pure.


Love doesn't find you.
Only other people who are searching.

If you think it's more important for other people to do all the work to get you what you want, that says something about you.

Hmmmm...I like this.

how many women do you have outside knocking on your do right now??????? the

world does not know you unless you go outside and introduce yourself.....

Absolutely true- blunt, straight forward, and to the point. I like it!
Very well put my friend

Seems like fishing and dating are similar.
You need bait, artificial or real, and you trick the fish into thinking they are getting a nice meal until they realize its all a trap and they are the meal.
Like getting lured into marriage

thanks for the flower,,,most of the stuff is just surface noise,,getting

past a persons persona is very difficult, over the years people develope

various defences they think will protect there real self.... getting to know,

understand, and even love another person is next to impossible when they have

a wall between them and others.....however i guess personas are necessary till

you find out whom we are dealing with to a point. when wounded

emotionally...its really sad though to be the one wounded and others in our

life....

You are most welcome.
We all have to protect ourselves when we get wounded, it is sad that we have to do this but it is true. We have to put the best foot forward and learn from those experiences. Take the hurt and transform it into something better for ourselves. I know I have hurt others but I am a constant work in progress and I am adaptable, progressive, and ever changing. All we can do is be there for each other in this cruel world and hope for better things. Maybe we can let down our coats of armor to truly let the wounds heal.
To better days my friend

Because you are bored and have absolutely nothing better to do.

The problem with thinking something like "Let love find you," is this:

LOVE ISN'T A CREATURE ON THE PROWL.

I write poetry, among other things, and one of the very important things that any serious poet, or even just someone who likes to listen to songs, needs to understand, is that SIMILES AND METAPHORS are written or spoken to help a person to visualize or imagine things.

You can have fun thinking about a metaphor for a car, but if you try to drive to San Francisco in a metaphor, you will get run over by the next REAL vehicle that comes down your local road.

That kind of love avoids me like the plague, it doesn't matter if I actively search it out or I sit on my butt and wait for it.

The more you search for it, the more it become intractable.

Hii

The most meaningful relationships have been when a young lady finds and likes my profile.
Granted, I know there is the need to be careful of scammers and liars. It would just be nice to be loved by ONE loyal young lady.

I dont think one should 'search' for love. I do think we should surround ourselves with the type of people we want in our lives,, whether they will be friends or lovers is a fact that will find us.

Pluses and minuses to everything.

Actively searching, tends to cause a person to be less relaxed, less themselves, and it can interfere with the person's true personality showing through. Especially naturally shy or nervous people.


But on the other hand, holding still only works if you happen to be in an environment where lots of attractive people are interacting with you normally, and/or if you are lucky enough to have some of the high-attraction features (money, natural good looks, a gregarious personality, etc).