I am now engaged with my boyfriend. He lives in a different country, basically we aren't together right now. I feel lonely and missed my old lifestyle which is a nightlife lover. Now is a different story, I always stay at home and no social life. I do love my boyfriend but I think I'm not yet ready to get married. What should I do?

Is this an arranged marriage? Have you met the guy?

That's a hard question to ask. Yes it would be "technically" wrong for you to go flirting with another man. But your fiance lives in another country. Not putting doubts into your head about your relationship here, but I don't truly see how it would/will work out. Unless one of you move to the other's country to be with them in person. Not in reference to specifically sex, but relationships are a physical thing, hugs, kisses, tickles, and so forth. Best advice I could possibly give is, follow your heart and if this is what you truly want. If it turns out no it's not what you want, being in a long distance relationship like this engaged or not. I would suggest breaking it with your fiance before pursuing another. Hope you make the right choice that leads to a life time of happiness Mayanocute :)

Its not an arranged marriage. Its like we just decided to get married 7 months ago. And yes we have met twice and travelled together.

Its nothing like flirting with other guys. Just trying to find a social life again with my old friends you know. Its like I am completely changed. Maybe I just missed the good old times. Thanks anyway :)

Having regrets?

Can't tell :/

take your time to think. if you're unhappy with the changes, let him know.

Can't tell that I am unhappy.. I am happy with the relationship but feeling a lil bit paranoid with what might happen when the time comes that I will regret everything.

just let your boyfriend know everything that's going on inside your head. you and your boyfriend should figure that out.

Ok, maybe I'm missing your point in what you're asking. Just because you're engaged, why can't you go hang out and spend time with your friends? Your fiance is in another country after all, it's not like you'd be "neglecting" time with him or anything. What makes the difference if you're engaged or not to have a "social" life?

Even if that means going out to a club or what ever might be the occasion. As long as you're not "flirting" with other guys, or insinuating anything to them, what harm is done? Just because you're engaged doesn't mean you have to just sit around the house doing nothing.... especially on your level here with him being in another country and not being there to spend time with.

If you love him and love being with him, what would there be to "regret". Would you really regret spending your life with someone you loved?

Make a new boyfriend

Make a new boyfriend

I am sorry but who told you that you should no longer hang out with your friends. All your friends do is go to bars? Sounds like some pretty boring friends. I never heard of anyone stopping going out dancing and listenong to bands because they were engaged. Hiking, swimming, jogging whatever. Life doesn't stop because you are engaged. Where did this concept come from? Now crossing the line with another man would not be a good decision. Wow.

Exactly, very well put.

I agree with this, and it is probably a good idea to enjoy some nightlife as well, not having any social life is more likely to drive you apart from your boyfriend.