I started talking to this girl back in August and instead of us starting out slow as friends we rushed things as if we were already together. But, lately she has said things like she can't see us dating right now, and just cutting down on talking everyday I like her and everything but, I don't know ....

you might ask her if she meet some one!

Honestly I would give her some space as it sounds like that's what she wants. Who knows, maybe if you back off she will have time to think and things will work out.

Good luck.

back off and give her space--

I have to admit, women are funny people. I say just give her space and maybe she will realize just how much she does miss you. If you try to crowd her, that will only make things worse. Just act like its not bothering you just being friends, then she will wonder IF she is willing to lose you!!
Good luck

it's probably freaking her out that she rushed into it & needs some time tothink it through or already has and has come to this decision. It happens. Sometimes attraction beats the reality. Hang in there. She might come around but until then date other girls and see if you can meet someone who is aligned with how you pace yourself & with what you want. Good Luck! Hang in there!! :)

Honestly, if I told a guy that, (and this sounds horrible, i know) I most likely would have found someone else or just would have lost interest. But that's me. But that's just from my perspective. But hey, if you need someone to talk to, email me sometime.

dude, i hate sounding harsh like this, but she basically has told you too take flying ****ing leap off a building. dont waste no more time on her brother

keep your rhythm on the move.....

Here's a thought ask her...not us...

who knows when it hit her about a possible relationship heading into that long term type thing she may have needed time to think about it more.
who knows what she came out of before coming here
or how far her heart was our of her previous relationship
some people don't even realize that they are not quite ready for the next relationship until a new one is hitting them in the head
these things take time and each time frame is different for each person.
Don't think of the friend thing as not enough some of the best relationships are the ones that started as friends first
good luck and enjoy the time it takes to get to know the next one whoever it should be

Give her some space. If she really like you then she will come around.

Its time for some Seinfeld tactics.."break up first"

better to know now...toss her over the fence and go find another

Don't throw her over the fence you might hurt your back. Kick her over it instead.

Quit all contact. Don't answer emails or calls no matter what. None. Eventually she'll start comin around lookin for you and askin' what's goin on. Then tell her you were given her space cause she was being distant and talking about not wanting to move forward.

Then you have to decide what to do when she says she wants to go out again. You'll have to remain essentially in control by easing into it and watching for the signals again that she's doin the same thing again. If she does then leave for good by the 2nd or 3rd time.... don't keep draging it out like I allowed. Its more painful if you do it that way.

I have yet to find a woman who didn't come around after I discontinued contact. I'll hurt for a few days but when they do come around you realize you were right on the money.
Longest I've ever waited was 5 weeks and she'd be driven around to check in on what I was doin'.

toss her over the fence with her new mate.

replace her with a blow up doll!

blow-up sheep gypsy, more like a woman

Think I might retire :) I'm tired of girls :)