Good Hawaii and you?

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Now that I have had more time to think about it I can say that sometimes men are hard on women for the smallest things, for example my last serious boyfriend left me because of some sexual acts that I did not want to do. Instead of leaving in the beginning when I told him that there was no way I would do it he drags the relationship on for a six month period and then decided I was not the one. In relationships we have to except each others short commings or take ourselves out of the dating pool. If finding someone who has no imperfections is what you are looking for then you will never find that person. I know sex is big deal for men in a way that women will never understand but leaving them thinking you will find someone better sometimes does not work out that way. So I said all that to say this sometimes we break up with people for stupid reasons and then wonder why we have not found anyone... hello you broke with them because you were seeking someone better, just a thought.

There are many people that think they can "change" you. It doesn't work. I have first hand experience, as with other's I'm sure.

Yer young my man. Gotta whole life to live. Enjoy it. Make your game plans. Follow through. Don't hook up or hit it up till you squared. You will thank yourself for it. Peace.

Learn from your past relationships so you can make the next one better. Not all relationships are bad. Remember the good times you had with that person and learn from the bad. It is easy to get jaded but don't give up. I have 2 divorces-one was a great guy,just didn't work. The other was an ass and I'm glad I'm out. Be a little more selective. Lust does not equal love.

i never aid i chnanged. i said i tried to fix the problems. im reall not lookin. right now anyway. u said ho young people rush into serious relationships.im not rushin into nothin, im actually tryin to go pro with golf. no time to rush

ok ok. iundestand everythig u guys are sayin, cuz when it comes to relationships, thats how i am. dont rush, never too serious t first, always go day by day, try to make one a nother happy. i know all that stuff. the whole point is ido all this, and at first it oh urperfect, blah blah blah. 6 months later its u an asshole, wen ma lot of gyslike me, just do whut it takes wthin ur beliefs to make a girlhappy. idk.u females, no offense but u need ur brain rewired

You never know when you will just CLICK with someone, not all relationships are wrong. I see it as...everything that we have been through in life...has lead us to where we are right now, how bad can that be??

It takes two to tango. You might not have been entirely to blame, but I'm sure your ex-girlfriends were not entirely to blame either.

eh it happens. like a funny game of russian roulette (spelling?) you might have some blanks but eventually ya gonna get the bullet. she'll be there sooner than you know. enjoy life and hang out with your friends. many older people wish they could see long lost friends.

I haven't read all of the post's on here. so I'll apologize in advance if I'm repeating something someone may have already said....Personally, I think that people should just live their lives as themselves..in other words, just enjoy doing things you enjoy doing..i.e., movies, bowling, going to museums, etc;, one doesn't need a "partner" to do things you enjoy...granted, it may be more enjoyable to be able to share with another..but in my opinion, I come first and do things that I enjoy doing for ME...
If you branch out and take care of you...then things just unfold and just happen...for a reason...
Best of Luck to each and everyone of you!!..

its not working hard for nothing... you should always take something away from each relationship... you may have learned something about yourself that you did not know before, or you may have realized that what you thought you wanted, just wasnt... or you may have realized that though it didnt work she still had some pretty amazing qualities that you know you want the next person to have.

The fact of the matter, people will go through many relationships throughout their lives. The chances of being with one person--satisfactorily--for any substantial length of time (+15 years) are slim. Belief in the myth of "one true love" only sets the individual up for disappointment and unrealistic expectations.

There were 2 people hiking up a mountain. One of them, while on the journey, had a bright smile on his face while enjoying the landscape. He looked at all the wildlife and shrubbery while passing by and felt a sense of harmony. He felt the cool breeze on his cheek and was grateful for the good weather. He breathed in the fresh mountain air and felt his lungs shining with health. He thouroughly enjoyed the hike.

The other person gave no notice to such details. He was panting as he struggled up the mountain and constantly complained, "when are we going to get to the top? how much longer will this take?"

When they got to the top, the first person looked at the view and felt a sense of great accomplishment. The other looked at him and said, "so...when are we going back to the bottom?"

Who do YOU want to be?

Life is a journey, not a destination.