what do u do if u suspect ur mate of not necessarily cheating, but dishonesty. should u wait for proof or bring it up immediately? just throwin it out there.

i would have to bring it up because i could never hold my tongue or thoughts until it was brought up .

I would bring it up, the longer you wait the more you will not be able to trust them in the long run, good luck to you

Get proof first. Then, once you find out your mate has been dishonest, confront them. Don't let that crap fester up inside you.

thanks its just a thought. it could be premature though... im the need proof type, dont wanna look like an ass, and on top of that they will probably deny it anyways untill you can prove the truth

i'd have to bring it up; nothing worse than dealing with doubt in your mate

stop all contact w/him...i don't do lying or cheating and don't think anyone else should either...brenda

I say wait until there are several "issues" over time. Then you can bring it up relative to not just one uncomfortable situation but several.

Gut instincts are usually right anyway... mine have been.

Then they deny it, then you show them proof and then they stutter...

Ummmmm Ummm well ummmm.

John

would u go that far on a mere suspicion brenda?

johns the man.. lol make em suffer lol

give'm mor rope to hang themselves

they allways do

Ha! dc said it better than me.

J

From personal experience, I agree with dc and John.

Only thing I would add is: when you do confront, be mentally prepared for a *strong*, emotional denial and finger pointing back at you. All the more reason to be sure and have some sort of proof.

Truth has a way of coming out over time in relationships.

Humm well been there done that and always go fully prepared if your gonna accuse anyone of something in the first place. First put yourself in there place how would you feel if being accused of something you did not even do?

So first make sure that what ever you suspect that you have the proof and know what your talking about and it't not just a shot in the dark and a way to jab at another.

Once you have the proof then yes by all meand confront them it's the only way you will get it off your mind and start dealing with things. But also before you do this make sure were you stand what your choices are and what your actions will be afterwards.

And yeah by experience sooner or later one will hang themselves but why suffer yourself any longer not knowing for sure best to get it out in the open and start the healing part. No matter what ones choices are it must all come out in the open before one can move on.

If you are even remotely suspecting something, your internal radar is telling you something.

dishonesty......can you be more specific????

Oh I dunno...call him every name under the sun accuse him of everything including the wall Street crash and several national disasters...and then stomp off and wail to my galfriends...