The way people or now relationship is one big game/joke .. Both ways some lost hope due to bad ones.. Some or just scared to get In one for the fear of getting hurt.. A lot of men/woman just lost that trust...

When my parents divorced in the '50's,
it was almost unheard of.

Now it is an option for everybody.
Each side knows it can walk away, for
any reason.

Trust is all there is.
You risk it or never know it.

so you know every one, and how they feel

interesting

Oh no not at all, I was just talking in general.. Just look around at relationships. If you don't find the one that belongs to you then it won't work..

I got married at 23, and when I did I never imagined that I would be divorced nine years later. Since then I have been in a couple of relationships. Neither worked out but I don't feel my time was wasted being involved due to the fact that I learned a lot about myself and evolved. Yes relationships aren't like they used to be. But I haven't given up hope and finding the gal who will tie me down and beat me into submission.

Smart Man!

**** sucks but that is thing correct.. You lean in everyone ..

Look how it was back in the day.. Y'all grand parents or maybe mom and day 30-40 -50 ect years.. Now some ppl months hell weeks

You also have to remember that a lot of the people that lived in the "good old days" stayed married only because divorce was a taboo. To get a divorce before 1960 was against most people's religion and to get one before the 1900's meant there was a good chance you would most likely be ostracized for the rest of your life. Then there are those that don't feel they deserve better then what the have and those that are afraid that they will never find someone else. The advent of dating sites started to alleviated a lot of these fears in the lat 80's early 90's and today many people swear by the internet when it comes to dating. The biggest problem now is being able to tell the real from the scam, but anyone that tells you that finding that perfect someone is easy is a liar, it never has been and never will be. Unless that is you fall into that magical little group of people that find it first time out.

That is very true, people before married for longer time, that's include my parents. Though my sister, was not lucky enough to have a good marriage. But she keeps telling me, it doesn't mean that she failed to have a good relationship, it will happen to me too. I had a long time bf, but it also didn't work out. For now, I'm having a mixed feeling, kinda scared coz I'm going to start again, e.g. Investing love again etc. But Still I'm taking a chance to meet the one, in God's time.

I was married for twenty years
I chose to file
after counseling

does it mean I have battle scars
undoubtedly a few
but I also know who inflicted those
and direct my anger where it belongs

If that is really how you feel, it probably is pointless for you. That is a defeatism attitude.

Wow! I hate seeing that. But, it's better to move on then continue damaging each other.

So anyway, hey, ummmmm, ya, ummmmm.......

Who says it wasn't before?
Sometimes games and jokes are taken way too seriously.
Doesn't mean they aren't games and jokes.


IMO a lot of people choose to get into bad ones to prove they were right not to have hope and to avoid the risk of having their actual hopes dashed.


A lot of men/women never had that trust, but believe they are supposed to. They idealize it. They are "good" people if they have "trust."
But they just never learned how.

Real easy to get into a crappy guaranteed doomed to fail relationship and feel pain.
Because if you feel pain, then it must mean you did trust, and that trust was broken, causing the pain. If the pain is there, that must mean the trust was there.

Even though the trust was never truly there, people can pretend it was, because they felt pain, and that's evidence and validation, and they are therefore "normal" and "good" because they "could" trust, it just happened to be broken...by someone else.
So, not my fault, it's theirs for breaking trust, and I'm normal and can trust because I felt pain. Nothing wrong with me. I'm not weak.

And if I don't feel trust it's not because I don't know how, it's because, uh, they hurt me and broke me...yep, that's it, I don't have to change, I'm a victim, not incompetent or clueless or a product of bad parents and failing social system.

your picture looks like a 12 year old
soooo does your daddy know you are on the internet punkin?

Thank you! I'll take that as a compliment.

Yes Mommy! I've been bad though. You should spank me.

you're new...

so I'll cut ya some slack


I wear boots darling

I'd give ya an azz whoopin


probably not the kind ya got in mind

I'm not new. I just chose to be more active in the forums.



I've put bigger women then you in their place. I not a lap dog like a few of your followers.

This is my last post to you about this on "Trying to get in a relationship is pointless" as I'm not interested in hi-jacking this topic. If you want we can continue this in a separate topic or by message or preferably not at all. I'll LET it be your choice.

Again,

Getting in a relationship's never pointless

I am single can we mingle