I keep getting told 'age is just a number' constantly... one of my friends tried to set me up with a 30 year old (I'm 19 going on 20) I refused because of the age... Is that wrong? I would love to hear opinions on age differences

age is experiences.
age is ideals.
age is having an established lifestyle or trying to build a future.
age is finding out (the hard way) that you're not as young as you used to be.
age is being comfortable with yourself versus trying to impress the world.

age makes a big difference in how yyou see the world.
stick with your dreams and don't let other people tell you who you should date. pay attention to what is right for you

There is nothing wrong with you refusing to date someone who is more than 10 years older than you.
Age isn't just a number.
Age matters.

Well it's not wrong & you don't always have to follow what your friends suggest, if you feel it's not right then don't do it

Thank you guys

You stick to your guns and do what makes you feel comfortable

I married for the first time someone way older than I was and it worked. Really well, and I have dated 20 years younger and it was never the age thing that got in the way.

So do what you feel is right.

And no one should come between you and your dreams.
Instead they should enhance you and help you achieve your dreams.

My dad was born in 1921 and my mother was born in 1942. I think they got married when my dad was 43, and my mom was 23. They stayed married until my father passed at age 88. Age is really nothing I guess, if you click with that person, but only if it's for love and not material things.

I mean if you don't feel comfortable dating someone 11 years older than you, then the simple answer is don't. You can find someone else, and he'll find someone else. Don't get stuck in a relationship you don't want.

Ever notice the ones that say age doesn't matter are normally the ones after just physical? Either older guys looking for young women, or younger guys hoping to find an 'experienced' women.

Age does matter, now there are exceptions that work long term...but most often it will become an issue at some point

Maybe.

Is the alternative being absolutely alone for the rest of your life?
Do you realistically believe no one else will ever date you except someone older than you?

Do you constantly complain to your friends that they never set you up with anyone?
Are all your friends like 50 or 90 years old and they're setting you up with their kids or grand kids because you whine to them about how alone you are?

Do you live in an area where there really is no one your age, and the next youngest person is 30?


Everyone has their own age range tolerance.

You may not date 30 year olds...but what about 22-23 year olds?
And if you would date someone 22-23, would you date someone 16-17?
3 years +/-.

Age is just a number until it starts falling outside of your personal tolerance, which will change over time.

Which ultimately makes it an opinion.

Everyone has one.

And people constantly seek to have their opinions validated, to get you to believe and/or accept them.

It is not age that is the issue. It is the type of person and what they are looking for. It can be generalized that many older men only want younger women for the physical aspect but that is not because of age only.
If two people have similar values and interests then age is not the issue. Outsiders might say something or feel there is an issue but it all comes back to the personalities involved between the couple. I know many people that have had large age differences and it was great. I also know many people that were the same age that never worked out.

To lovethelake20: I would say you can always be introduced to the man then decide if you want to say no, but do what you feel is right for you as I have not real insight to your specific situation.

It's your life and take ownership of it! (which it sounds like you have). Best of luck!

Can I see your boobs

I think the age is only a number, but if the relationship based on trust.. That's right.. Add me with friend. And talk about

In my view, mature women make a very good companion. They know how to take care of a woman. And they are very good in the art of love making. I am mad about their bodies and their careful nature.

So, if there's any mature woman out there, you know there is someone waiting for you.

Age is NOT just a number, regardless of how many ppl say so. It is b*||cr@p.

It is NEVER wrong to refuse. If something doesn't feel right, it is the best thing to do. Other ppl don't know what's best for you, only you do.

Ppl of different ages are at different phases in life. For some that can work out in a relationship, but it can be quite the challenge.
Typically what you want in life differs in those phases and could make two ppl totally incompatible.
Like someone 30 may be ready to settle down, start a family, buy a house, build up his career etc. while you at 19 going 20 feel like having fun still, going out a lot, traveling maybe. But nowhere near having a family.
That sort of thing can cause friction. If you'd wanna wait some 8-10 yrs with a family and 'slowing down', he'll be 40. He may not want to wait with a family and settling down till he's 40.

Not saying this is how it is for you and that guy, just an example of how it can cause friction and incompatibility.

Then there's the question if you want a partner who's that much older...

No!!

When I say this I'm not putting my opinion in. I gave my experience and I'm asking for opinions because I'm curious on what people think

I think 10 years gap is perfect. I am dating a 20 year older man. The gap doesn't matter to me. We get along well. He treats me well. He's very attractive. I enjoy his company.

I have learned that age is just a number. A young person going through much more in their life than many of us have even thought about experiencing grows up very quickly.
I know many men and of many who still just don't get it...even at 50 because they lived in their own little bubble all their lives

Most people I know today that are of the same age do not get along on anything.. Obviously it's not similar age that's going to make them compatible. ..it's life experiences, similar interests, chemistry etc. that does.
Anyone saying age has everything to do with maturity and life experiences is soo wrong.

Hi!
If someone tells you 'age is just a number' you run as fast as you can. If someone wants to hook you up with someone YOU haven't chosen to be with you run.
Age is a big deal. Your interests, hobbies, way of thinking and being are all incompatible with someone 10 years your senior, and just culturally.

Not just culturally.