However, a good point actually .. coz men know how to get right to the point just in a few words .. it's called wisdom ..

Wow, I have been contacted and I have contacted didn't know there was rules with it.

And yet yanno the ones that send Hi...
So you go and look at their profile there is nothing there.

I send back ????
their turn.
A well written short opening email is wonderful gives us something to work with and shows that they might have actually read the profile instead of just looking at pictures.

The OP has deactivated.

Really? Eats up too much time, leads nowhere.

I have a simply rule:
- I don't reply to HI, hello or what's up.
If someone can't come up with something more, I'm not interested.
- Lengthy messages that resemble their resume or life's sob-story don't get reply either.

So I basically only reply messages that have some substance, wit and humour and/or ppl from the forums.

oooooooh I like this even better

But if seriously .. here we go .. "Wow what a long letter, well i usually get this long letters from scammers but how am i to know that you're real? I need a prove" .. from my personal experience. That Wow letter was just a polite answer to the girl, who doubted in reasonability of LDR. Explained her how i see it from my point of view.

Edit: And nope, that wasn't the first message to this girl nor it's not the only example either .. so who's complaining that men don't talk any more?

Women will contact you if they like you. Thats it.

Yeah, exactly .. IF THEY like .. IF THEY are in the mood and so on .. so what's the point to complain that men don't know how to keep up a good conversation, or don't know how to approach politely and nicely, if no one's interested. Not kidding. It's mutual. When the girl sends me a nice message first, then for me it's a sign of the interest, right .. or am I just dumb enough?

This particular message was from a girl with whom I had exchanged a few PMs already. So here's the answer -- "You need a proof? Seems fair .. but hey, perhaps YOU're a scammer? What a situation, eh - two scammers trading messages trying to get to know each other better" ..

Enjoy :)

Edit: Nothing personal, gals .. just saying

I think I need help. U know what, my last girl friend was a Canadian. She approached me. That made me relaxed and not chase after girls. And guess what? Up to now for 6 six years I struggle to get a girl because I wanna take the easy way bytexting or messaging a girl hoping it will work but it never worked. What's your take on this? Do you think I need to go hard? Because I really need a girl now and it's hard I find it. I don't even know how to approach a lady that I want.

Because its in their nature. But any way, white women are trying in terms of speaking up to who they like first unlike the Africa woman that will not even give a damm about you even when she is seriously dieing for you.

because some if us is still in "old school" days :)

To be sincere, I rather men approach me than chase them because I will never be sure they really liked me or he just got closer because I am chasing, you know apart from that I think is very sexy knowing a Guy wants to call your attention.

years and years it has always been the norm socially to have the man reach out and make first contact. I realize that the communication skills of most men are a bit lacking, and I realize that part of women not making the first move, now later in life is the same problem boys and young men have a problem being the first to make contact, and that is rejection. The choices may not always been the best, but women as a whole have always been able to pick and choose from available suitors, with the shoe being put on the other foot, it is just uncomfortable and most women would rather wait, evaluate, then choose who to respond too.

its just a mindfuck. women like to tease.

accurate!
you're guys, text her first!

accurate!
you're guys, text her first!

@ Bestfriend007: Are you looking for a dominant woman to raise you as a child or something?

Just because you are a male does not mean every woman is interested in you... Once your manhood drops, you can keep initiate the conversations and you will eventually find someone interested in communicating with you.


Word of advice, don't use all caps unless you are trying to yell online. And if you always yell, I don't know any woman that would want to talk with you...

yea...well said...