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Topic: Is the One You Fancy Single? (how do you know?)
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sun 05/22/16 02:52 PM

Hiya crystal ..

How well do you know the woman he works with ?? Did you check her out too ??

Why not strike a friendship with her .. I am sure she will tell you everything you need to know about him .. Laughing . Subtle interrogation over a wine or coffee :-)

The other thing you are forgetting .. Is your intuition .. If you sense he is not available then likely he is taken .

Remember Part of his job as a proprietor is to keep the sales coming .. And keep regulars coming back for more ... And I don't mean any disrespect by that :-)



Yeah, things is, my intuitive compass goes noodle doodle when it comes to men, haha.
Next time I'm there, I may ask the odd question here and there if I get the chance.
But from what I have learnt online, I do think he's single. But one can never be 100% sure of course, unless they clearly state single or in relationship ...
Time will tell!

adivorcedone's photo
Sun 05/22/16 03:08 PM
If you keeping buying stuff at the store, and he has not knocked off a few bucks of the bill ( and as an owner/partner whatever, we have that power...lol..)then I doubt he is into you, as much as you are into him...just saying...

peggy122's photo
Sun 05/22/16 04:53 PM
Edited by peggy122 on Sun 05/22/16 04:57 PM
For me personally, if I am friendly and flirtatious with a guy I like , and he doesnt use that opening to ask me for my number or ask me out ,or deepen his acquaintance with me, then I personally lose interest, and place him in the friend/acquaintance zone.

Whether the reason for his lack of interest is him being shy, or him having a romantic interest elsewhere, or his focus being on his work , or him going through something traumatic with his pet iguana, my response remains the same. I back off.

But with the complexities of your situation with the "store" guy, I might hatch the following plan.

I would ask one of my girlfriends to accompany me to the store . After I pointed out to my friend, the woman who I suspected was his girlfriend, I would ask my friend to hang around a bit to observe both that woman and your guy. Then I would set my friend up to approach the woman and comment to the woman innocently:-

"Hi there, I dont know anything about you guys, but you and that man have a really cute chemistry. Are you all together?"

And whatever response my friend received, she would then report back to me ASAP. Ofcourse my friend will never return to that store, and because I wont be at her side during her investigations , there would be no guilt by association, and I would feel no awkwardness in my future visits to the store whether the store guy was involved or not happy


Robxbox73's photo
Sun 05/22/16 06:04 PM
Crystal, I've been checking the Robxbox73 database and this particular scenario calls for manuvere Delta V Twins number d8menow
Or as I call it the hard flirt.

You walk in, you see the guy talking to this girl. You walk up to her and ask her for a glass of water. Women are pretty good about this, so bam she's outta the way.
Bring yo A game baby! Tell him, I love your shop! Then do a spin and ask him, What do you think of the twins?
This will usually get a smile out of a real man. If he's gay he will just frown. Is he's real he'll say with a smile, Ahem,, Excuse me? Then you point at your shoes! Tell him, Get your mind outta the gutter! It's a great ice breaker! a gall used on me along time a go on a galaxy far far away. By then he'll know your intrested and remember to work fast, that gal will be comming back with the water. Just tell him, lets go to a movie? Coffee, tea or me? Whatever. The hard flirt requires split second timing and is not for the timid. Yes this is how I met my first wife!

jacktrades's photo
Sun 05/22/16 09:58 PM
Men love attention from women, just strike up a conversation with him and flat out ask him, if he is you will make his day, and if he is not it will make your day.Good luck to you.

adivorcedone's photo
Mon 05/23/16 05:56 AM
The fancy one I fancy , right now, is single available and not to mention, very flexible.. How do I know all this. No hardware on the fingers, I looked very hard. I shook her hand, just to make sure....and then I point blank asked... At this stage in life, who has time to beat around the bush? And from then on , everything just fell into place... We meet again this AM....have a long drive ahead.....but its gonna be so worth it.....I hope...lol...

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 05/23/16 09:04 AM
Doesn't the Universe work in wonderfully mysterious ways ... I'd found him on FB, but then sending a message, nah..
THen today one of the items I bought yesterday broke ... So then I DID have a reason to send him a message laugh
And I did. Ended with a slightly more personal comment. Now just wait and see if and what he replies, and play it by ear. If it leaves room for further 'probing' ... I probably will.

@ Adivorceone, good luck to you!

Candiapples's photo
Tue 05/24/16 02:29 PM
Hi Crystal
Recently I met a guy in the park...to make a long story short..he asked if I would take his number down and let him know about something we were talking about. (We have lots in common). I called him to let him know then a few days later he called to say hi. The next time he called, he asked if I had a boyfriend as I don't wear rings.

Just come right out and ask. I was flattered and not in the least upset or insulted.

adivorcedone's photo
Tue 05/24/16 02:41 PM

Doesn't the Universe work in wonderfully mysterious ways ... I'd found him on FB, but then sending a message, nah..
THen today one of the items I bought yesterday broke ... So then I DID have a reason to send him a message laugh
And I did. Ended with a slightly more personal comment. Now just wait and see if and what he replies, and play it by ear. If it leaves room for further 'probing' ... I probably will.

@ Adivorceone, good luck to you!



Yes, the Universe works in strange ways...gotta say....and all the best to you to.....( you dont need luck, like me, hence I never said it..lol..)

no photo
Tue 05/24/16 02:42 PM
I never have this problem. I rarely meet anyone I'm interested in. At best, it's someone passing through town and I'll never see again.

Annierooroo's photo
Tue 05/24/16 02:52 PM
Yes I have made sure.
I did research on him.
Police check on the way.

Hey I am covering myself.
A girl can't afford not to be to careful.

Yep I check the finger too and also the dent on the finger where the ring has been.
It tells alot.

Sometimes what he wears tells a story.

I was suspicious because he smells soooooo nice but found out why.

Fb didn't tell me much so I went deeper.
Yep so far he's single lol

Is this creepy?
Oh I didn't stalk him if you think I followed him around.

Sher_Tenn's photo
Tue 05/24/16 03:38 PM
" I never have this problem. I rarely meet anyone I'm interested in. At best, it's someone passing through town and I'll never see again.."

Jeez.. sux to be you, eh..?

But you have a lovely profile.. and are upbeat about it..:-)

Sher

no photo
Tue 05/24/16 04:00 PM
OH! yeah ...he is single from all accounts....but not for long....if somebody had anything to do with it......ooops...thinking aloud ...

Annierooroo's photo
Tue 05/24/16 04:06 PM
Well Flex

Excuse me for being up front.
Get in your car, drive to him
Oh on the way pick up food.
You know the saying a way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
Try the home bakery on the way because it looks like you went to a lot of effort.
Men go soft go for that.

Make something happen

Lol have fun.


adivorcedone's photo
Tue 05/24/16 04:14 PM
Absolutely no comment.......it is what it is...just saying...lol...

no photo
Thu 05/26/16 01:57 AM
Seems like you do have other friends who care....but you have demonstrated a trait in you, that I have rarely seen in men nowadays.....loyalty....for a single guy......hmmmmm...that does it for me...

adivorcedone's photo
Thu 05/26/16 03:45 AM
Perhaps it a decision I make everyday...especially, if the woman happens to fun, smart and sexy... like... hmmm!!!. You, for example???!!!

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