When promises and vows are made it's more than just a guilty conscience that keeps you from cheating. The moment you feel a twinge of lust or longing for someone else you need to reign in your thoughts. Condition yourself to dwell on the love you have and share with your mate. If you succumb to breaking your promises you not only hurt the one you love but you inflict scars on your own self-worth. Before you take that step towards deception be sure to do everything possible to save the relationship you have now. If that's not possible then do the honorable thing, the last respectful thing to do: End that relationship before you start another. Otherwise, it will haunt you forever.

concentrates on your moral codes

morals are THE MOST important binder in a realationship....without them...it cant exist but as a lie to ones self

Umm ..I am going with great sex yup .. final answer..lol

Has that helped to keep you faithful Doc?

.yes... but eventually I wear them out...lmao

Well everyone has very strong ideas about what makes a person cheat.

.... But what makes you stay faithful to your mate, through the times that you find them "unlikeable"... through the times when you arent feeling "magic" in the relationship etc

If you've never succeeded at being faithful before, maybe you can refer to the people you know who have

I'll take your word for it

..well..... you will have to!
. I have not finished wearing out the one I'm with yet....lol..... the lineup can start behind you..lol.jk..wink

To me being faithful has ALWAYS been about MY SELF RESPECT. I could not respect myself if I cheated on anyone or stayed with someone who cheated on me. And I truly could not set myself out there as a Mother, lead by example, if I cheated. I surely would not shame my children that way. Cheating Always comes down to a conscious choice to cheat . A choice I could not justify. EVER.

If I have a partner that cheats then I feel the promises I make when I marry to be irretrievably broken. All bets and vows are off. That person has become not worth one more minute of my emotion or time. No do overs, No I am sorry's, and no forgiveness. He is dead as far as I am concerned; cheating being marital suicide.

I can not always control how others act. even a partner, but I ALWAYS have at least two choices in a relationship; 1) How I Act and 2) How I Re-act.
I consider someone who cheats to be making shameful life threatening behavior that is abusive. I value my health and safety so my reaction would be to leave at the very earliest moment. Since my custody of my children would never be and issue and possessions can always be replaced that would be a very brief period that I would be out the door.

I'm like a faithful old dog but crap on my once and I bite.

There will be no second chances

Morals
Trust.
Love

I am just like that
If I'm with someone I am faithful. Part of who I am.

I am not the dependant type or the controlling. I don't stalk you.

I guess it's the role models I have had in my life.
They just stayed together and worked it out.

If you found the right person who loved you as much as you loved them, you would not want to hurt them. Cheating hurts the other person.

I was lucky to have had a wonderful marriage. Lots of financial ups and downs. But we worked as a team to get us back on track. As the saying goes.. there is no "I" in team. We both loved and adored each other. It never crossed my mind to want someone else... I hope it was the same for him. So, the answer what made us both stayed faithful to each other, the answer is love.

Ill say,,the thing that makes you stay faithful is how you accept,love,trust,and appreciate eachother.