Recently I was informed, by a friend, that I should not try to contac her....as she was at her secret place, mulling over situations she had encountered over the week. When I asked where this place was.....she said...she did not have to tell me all her secrets, and certainly not her secret hideout.

Which got me thinking......should I have a secret place....to go to , to re-think situations, relationships etc etc...??

When I was much younger...I would sneak into a Church to spend some real quiet time....I dont any more...Have I or has the Church changed...

Thoughts about a "secret place" and if you have one or two????

NB: If this thread was done before, sorry...if it seems a re-cycle...carry on....

To me it sounds odd and if I said it would probably be code the pub or a coffee shop.

The secret place is......

The Bathroom





You're guaranteed to get peace and quiet there

That's usually called a "man cave," isn't it?
Doesn't really have to be secret, just impenetrable.
Soundproof it, use thick walls and doors.
"If this cave's a-rockin' go ahead and be a-knockin', cuz I can't hear you."


My home.
Anything else is going to have fewer personal amenities.


Is your friend 8 years old?
Or just watch a lot of romantic dramas like 500 days of summer where someone has a "secret" or personal place, mostly just to make them appear more charming and deep then they really are, and at some point it becomes important to the story, like someone disappears due to too much emotional drama they have to get away from, because they can't "deal" like adults, and are then found at the "secret" place, and it's some sort of emotional imagery and represents "letting them in" or some similar tripe, and your friend wants to fantasize that her life is like the movies and some kind of prince charming is going to chase her down to her secret place thereby fulfilling the dictates of true love fate and drag her out of her shell and prove they want to be let in so she's "worth" being pursued, and she has the power of control to let people in?

You dont have to worry about it, D. Maybe theres no phone signal in her secret place. Lol

I think a secret place that is bound to a lot of confidentiality is absurd. Maybe she was just paranoid about it being a secret

Hit the nail on the head...thats my place...especially when I sit on the throne...( sorry to much info, but could not resist)....lol.

Sometimes if I really need to shut down and disconnect, I spend some time at the beach , but I always inform the people in my inner circle where I am so they wont worry.

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Really , did not find it odd....surprising in this day and age, but not odd. She is after all ...a woman.....and they are known ....well, I will leave it at that...lmao...

its a wonderful idea


a space to 'breathe',,is very healthy, and if it has to be secret in order to truly be free of distraction, judgment, and interruption

so be it,,,

Perhaps you're the stalkerish type, maybe she says it's 'secret' so you don't 'surprise' her there...it doesn't sound so much as secret, but she doesn't trust you to stay away when she wants....or that's how'd I'd interpret it

I have always have a certain place where I go and get grounded again no matter where I live.

For example when I lived in Sitka I would go to the back side of the island and either moor or anchor up. No cell phone coverage have my marine radio on and nothing else. I would just sit with a cup of coffee or wine and do absolutely nothing. At first I would have to concentrate to empty my mind completely. After I was able to do that I could slowly recharge my soul.

One of things I am so looking forward to while I am in Oregon I am going to where I grew up there is nothing left of the townsite but I am sure "my place" will be there..

I think we all need that place to go to at times..

maybe op she is in her closet with her phone turned off ...
why would you call something your secret place anyway ... where not children ... wait let me go ck the mirror again... seems she is just being dramatic...

children are not the only ones with secrets

maybe adults prefer the term 'private',, same thing

agree... maybe that is the only way she can express it ...

alone time ...


secret... still seems dramatic ...when telling him... women can have secrets too ...

yep, and women can be dramatic too,,

hahah:yes some can ...flowerforyou:

Hmmm, sometimes that 'secret place' can be just in your head..
have some peace & quiet to think..
but to inform you not to contact her and she doesn't have or want to tell you about this secret place.. seems rather odd, but perhaps she's just quirky...
Is she trying to be mysterious to you? wanting you to find out more? odd anyway.

Nah, she is an excellent friend.....I think she is just trying to mess with my head....in keeping with that traditional...women like confusing us guys thingy ... Either way I dont really care enough to find out . The answers I got here are enough for me to put it down to to...a woman's thing, thats all...

I don't see the problem. You are friends. it's not like you are in a relationship or married.