It never works out, does it ?!?

depends on both partners of that can manage there emotions and lust it can

If they worked out you would be living with me right now....lol

Yes you're right...it doesn't...a couple ought to be together no matter what barriers there are

It can work out if given the time and patients to stay focused on each other

I agree ...

I never believe in it. Love doesnt only include emotion, but also physical stuffs....

I agree...

It does. Only if both sides are truly committed.

It does...
And it can...
But one or both of you needs to travel and visit each other as often as possible...
And you need to have an end goal, with a time frame attached to it...

I believe..

I'm not sure it can

I think it can work, but I think the distance should be a realistic one that allows both parties to fly back and forth to each other every few months.

And one person ultimately has to move to the other person's country. I agree with Mikey that there must be a mutually agreed upon end goal, with a realistic time frame attached.

Also, because the travelling back and forth is expensive, one or both parties have to have sufficient financial resources.

In fact, long distance relationships require so much patience, commitment, faithfulness,consistency, discipline, and focus, that I suspect that only mature people stand a fighting chance of succeeding at it in the long-term.

Yea

At least you'll never get tired of each other.

Not really.

But then "it" rarely works out ever.

Think of all the dates you've been on, the people you've crushed on, the people you had conversations with and didn't go further, all the attractive people you've seen where nothing happened, all the people you hit on and didn't even realize it, and possibly the people that hit on you that you were oblivious to.

Most of the time things don't "work out."
But most of the time you don't really keep score.

"Distance love" (long distance internet dating) is basically saying "I am going to forego these people at hand, that have the most in common with me, sharing with me culture and community bonds, where we have similar communication traits, and go look for someone far away in a different culture, which I have less in common with, unless I do a lot of rationalizing, and we can delude ourselves into believing we have commonalities and compatible communication since we only really interact through a highly impersonal medium of emotionless typing, to build a fake bond, which we then slowly supplement because we have to pretend it's real, fake it until we make it in the real world.

"Distance love" (long distance internet dating) can only work if the relationship is only partly the goal of the person.

If the other person is pretty much arbitrary to your goals (i.e. I want a baby, I want security, I want better economic or political conditions, I want to feel loved or at least not lonely, who's most likely to give that to me with the least amount of actual effort) "distance love" can work out for a while until those goals are met.

Ask any actual healthy couple that had to go through being separated by distance.
Long distance is something a healthy relationship may (or may not) survive, but it's not something that in any way helps in building a new one.
Only if your "real" goal isn't a relationship at all, but the peripheral benefits you perceive a relationship to have.

I think some of the respondents in this thread are assuming that the distance in a long distance relationship is a permanent situation.

I only know of 2 long distance relationships that evolved into marriage , a family etc and in both cases, the woman moved to the man's country.

In one of those cases it took 4 years for the transfer to happen ,but ultimately moving to the other person's country is mandatory for such a relationship to work. There is no other way .

For the people who can handle the ups and downs of an LDR.....sure it can work. For people who lack this capability....not so much.

Are they happy now ?!

Are they happy now ?!