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Topic: What Makes You Lose Respect For Someone?
peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 07:08 AM Edited by peggy122 on Sat 04/30/16 07:10 AM
I have seen people who say they like or love someone, but they don't appear to respect them. I have also seen people who say they don't like or love someone but they appear to respect them. 1.What's the difference between liking a person versus respecting a person? 2. What are some things that make you lose respect for a person?

Scoobert Joined Sat 09/28/13 Posts: 12895	Sat 04/30/16 07:12 AM Edited by Scoobert on Sat 04/30/16 07:13 AM
Lying is one of those things that makes me lose respect. Berating children in public is another thing. Crap, I forgot....mistreatment of animal companions pisses me off and makes me lose respect. I can't really answer the 1st question. Usually I like someone I respect. When my respect is lost, so is the like or love.

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 07:25 AM Edited by peggy122 on Sat 04/30/16 07:25 AM
Lying is one of those things that makes me lose respect. Berating children in public is another thing. Crap, I forgot....mistreatment of animal companions pisses me off and makes me lose respect. I can't really answer the 1st question. Usually I like someone I respect. When my respect is lost, so is the like or love. It's interesting what you said about berating a kid in public Scoobert. I have seen adults berate their friends, family or mates in public. And I don't mean when it is done in a humorous way when its all in harmless fun. That's one example of what I meant by people who like a person but who displays disrespect towards them And I think everyone will agree with you on lying being the number one thing on this list.

Twintidbits24 Joined Tue 07/28/15 Posts: 825	Sat 04/30/16 07:31 AM Edited by Twintidbits24 on Sat 04/30/16 07:39 AM
First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics. But if you like someone then definitely Respect follows suit, but you can respect somebody without necessarily liking him due to a position in the company and you are just a subordinate. But if we take out the "Work Environment" in the scenario, then it is quite difficult to respect a person you don't like coz "liking" and "respecting" are both interrelated and connected in one way or another. Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 2	Sat 04/30/16 07:41 AM
Good morning Peggy. The thing with respect is, you both have to respect each other, and the love is just there. If one or the other doesn't treat the other one with respect, you will not be attracted to them. The same goes for a marriage. It takes two. Commitment fits in there also. marriage takes alot of work to be happy. It all falls back on trust. That is the glue to a successful marriage. I hope I answered your question Peggy Michael

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 07:43 AM
First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics. Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all. Hi twin The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits. But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed? And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person?

sparkyae5 Joined Thu 03/28/13 Posts: 1595	Sat 04/30/16 07:46 AM
BEING STRAIGHT WITH ME .......HONESTY IS TRULY THE BEST POLICY.....SOME LIE BECAUSE THEY WANT YOU TO LIKE THEM. THEN THE LIE BECOMES SELF FULL-FILLING...WE ALL KNOW AT SOME LEVEL ITS BECAUSE OF A LOW ESTEEM, ABOUT A BELIEF ABOUT THEMSELVES....SO THAT JUST ABOUT COVERS FIRST AND SECOND QUESTION........

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 07:55 AM
Good morning Peggy. The thing with respect is, you both have to respect each other, and the love is just there. If one or the other doesn't treat the other one with respect, you will not be attracted to them. The same goes for a marriage. It takes two. Commitment fits in there also. marriage takes alot of work to be happy. It all falls back on trust. That is the glue to a successful marriage. I hope I answered your question Peggy Michael Welcome to the forum Michael I have actually known of many people who are attracted to people who dont respect them so thats why I asked what was the difference between liking vs respecting And I totally agree with you that commitment is needed to sustain a relationship through all of its ups and downs. Thanks for your contribution Michael :)

Twintidbits24 Joined Tue 07/28/15 Posts: 825	Sat 04/30/16 07:59 AM
First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics. Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all. Hi twin The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits. But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed? And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person? Hi my Smurfy Sis Peggy If fear is removed and we base your question in the scenario of a "Relationship" My answer to the first question is liking and respecting is connected and inseparable. I couldn't like a person I do not respect likewise I couldn't respect a person, I don't like, simple as that. I would disrespect a person when he Lies, Cheats on me, steals for his own vested interest, mistreat animals and fellow humans; be it old, young, or prime. Have a Great Weekend My Beautiful Smurfy Sis

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 08:07 AM
BEING STRAIGHT WITH ME .......HONESTY IS TRULY THE BEST POLICY.....SOME LIE BECAUSE THEY WANT YOU TO LIKE THEM. THEN THE LIE BECOMES SELF FULL-FILLING...WE ALL KNOW AT SOME LEVEL ITS BECAUSE OF A LOW ESTEEM, ABOUT A BELIEF ABOUT THEMSELVES....SO THAT JUST ABOUT COVERS FIRST AND SECOND QUESTION........ So are you saying that the difference between liking a person and respecting them is that the person has to have self esteem for you to respect them, whereas with liking, a person does dot have to have self esteem for you to like them? I'm not sure if I interpreted what you said correctly

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 08:12 AM
First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics. Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all. Hi twin The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits. But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed? And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person? Hi my Smurfy Sis Peggy If fear is removed and we base your question in the scenario of a "Relationship" My answer to the first question is liking and respecting is connected and inseparable. I couldn't like a person I do not respect likewise I couldn't respect a person, I don't like, simple as that. I would disrespect a person when he Lies, Cheats on me, steals for his own vested interest, mistreat animals and fellow humans; be it old, young, or prime. Have a Great Weekend My Beautiful Smurfy Sis Oh .. so you agree with scoobert that you can't have like without respect. And I agree with the things you disrespect. Hope you have an amazing weekend too babe and thank you!

Myz_highlyfavored Joined Fri 04/29/16 Posts: 1	Sat 04/30/16 09:18 AM
I will say in the age and time that we are in especially being of a particular age group. I have seen where A guy will say they love you but it is accepted to disrespect the woman you are with in many ways simply ways by dictating to her what to wear how to eat set weight substance abuser and putting your friends over her. When I am saying too frenzy I am Meaning constantly partying and basically loyal to your boys more than your girl. I have seen where a woman is disrespected by side chicks having authority to pop up to a Guy house and even Harassing the main woman on her job and on social medias. While the man is saying he wont cheat anymore or he will correct the issue but still condoning the side chick on the slick. also the main thing that I feel is disrespectful besides cheating, lying, disloyal and disrespectful being a substance abuse person is a Man who can't stand up to his family for his relationship. Especially if the person means him well an. He rather throw away their relationship all because of what his family says.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 04/30/16 09:27 AM
love,, develops over time and never leaves,, for me like , develops over time and ebbs and flows with each interaction respect, has to do with a sense of honesty and dependability and is a given for everyone until they show me otherwise through their actions and/or words

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 04/30/16 10:16 AM
I have seen people who say they like or love someone, but they don't appear to respect them. People say a lot of things to get what they want like saying they love someone when really they only want to dominate them. That is not love and it sure isn't respect. I see lack of respect for someone you say you love by gossiping about them and the relationship either very publicly or behind their back. It is one thing to have a confidential conversation with a close friend but there are just some things you do not discuss with others outside your relationship present or past tense. I have also seen people who say they don't like or love someone but they appear to respect them. I don't know that is respect or just fear. Or just respect for the position. I respected my boss in a couple of situations but thought they were complete failures generally as human beings. The exception might be someone who does something you are not good at and you admire the talent. I tend to respect athletes since I know the hours of strain and practice it takes to be good at most sports; not to mention often repeated injury. 1.What's the difference between liking a person versus respecting a person? I tend to respect people in authority but I also know that some of them get there by less than honorable means. I don't really think you can like a person all that much if you don't respect them. Unless you just think small doses of them funny or educational. I could not tolerate the chronic comedian type person and usually loath someone sarcastic but every once in a while I admire the ability to crack wisearse. 2. What are some things that make you lose respect for a person? The usual stuff. Dishonesty, cruelty, selfishness, chronic bad manners, being inappropriate for the setting, laziness, competitive to extreme, theft, whiners, and quitters. Being a bully in any setting; but especially towards children, seniors, or the truly dis-advantaged. If I see someone try to get over on others just because they can that really cooks them for me.

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Sat 04/30/16 11:19 AM
I have seen people who say they like or love someone, but they don't appear to respect them. I've seen people say they weren't mad, but they were. I've seen children who say they aren't tired, and then pass out. People "say" all sorts of things that aren't true, ultimately meaningless, and many times seemingly contradictory in nature. 1.What's the difference between liking a person versus respecting a person? Levels and types of trust, knowledge, experience, and personal feelings. In my experience a lot of people have been socially trained to see no middle ground. For either like or respect. For some there is no like, neutral, dislike. There is no respect, neutral, disrespect. There are only the two absolutes. Like, dislike. Respect, disrespect. A lot of people (especially raised by the glass teat) have to pigeon hole everything and everyone into one of the two categories in order to get the emotional brain chemical constant need for stimulation high. And if there's not enough to justify putting it into one extreme, many times they then rationalize reasons to sticking it into the other without any real thought. i.e. they don't feel respect for someone because they actually respect them or know anything about them, only because they don't want to actively work on disrespecting them. 2. What are some things that make you lose respect for a person? Depends on the person, my relationship with them, and what I know about them. What one person does I may respect them for it. Another person may do the same thing and I would lose respect for them for doing it.

KieMea Joined Sat 04/09/16 Posts: 319	Sat 04/30/16 11:25 AM
I have seen people who say they like or love someone, but they don't appear to respect them. I have also seen people who say they don't like or love someone but they appear to respect them. 1.What's the difference between liking a person versus respecting a person? 2. What are some things that make you lose respect for a person? Hi peggy122, Liking someone, to me, is an emotional thing while respect doesn't need to be. One could like someone for no particular reason, even without having seen them face to face or spoken to them. Just as we have on M2. The person may have an air around them which makes them easily likeable without having to do much. My nature, as is that of most humans, is to respect everyone and everything at first. Respect, however has to be earned in any kind of relationship. Without necessarily liking a person after meeting or talking to them I may respect them, their views, opinions or ideologies. Like u said, LIE is number 1. I could lose respect for a person who bullies others or talks down on people so as to elevate themselves. I could also lose respect for a person who runs away from responsibility. I would definitely lose respect for someone who believes that women are meant to be seen not heard as well as someone who thinks that as a woman I must be a beautiful slave. On a lighter noté, I also have lost respect for those who mail me, after 'checking out my profile', asking for the exact same thing I said not to! C'mon!

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 04:09 PM Edited by peggy122 on Sat 04/30/16 04:33 PM
I will say in the age and time that we are in especially being of a particular age group. I have seen where A guy will say they love you but it is accepted to disrespect the woman you are with in many ways simply ways by dictating to her what to wear how to eat set weight substance abuser and putting your friends over her. When I am saying too frenzy I am Meaning constantly partying and basically loyal to your boys more than your girl. I have seen where a woman is disrespected by side chicks having authority to pop up to a Guy house and even Harassing the main woman on her job and on social medias. While the man is saying he wont cheat anymore or he will correct the issue but still condoning the side chick on the slick. also the main thing that I feel is disrespectful besides cheating, lying, disloyal and disrespectful being a substance abuse person is a Man who can't stand up to his family for his relationship. Especially if the person means him well an. He rather throw away their relationship all because of what his family says. So many people are guilty of the disrespectful offenses you listed here, and I imagine that you lose disrespect for people displaying these behaviors which I am in full agreement with. Welcome to mingle Myz Highly favored

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 04:32 PM
love,, develops over time and never leaves,, for me like , develops over time and ebbs and flows with each interaction respect, has to do with a sense of honesty and dependability and is a given for everyone until they show me otherwise through their actions and/or words What you said about love totally resonates with me MsH I hear so many people speak in a tone of hatred about their exes and I don't know what to make of it, because I see love as you do - ETERNAL. It just changes into a different form when a relationship ends. ... maybe into respect, or gratitude, or even good wishes towards them. I think that everyone should be given the most basic of respect , just by virtue of being a human being, which I think you alluded to. Some may define that modicum of respect as being civil. ...But then there is the deeper, complexed type of respect that I think you are referring to in your last paragraph, which I agree is earned , sustained or eroded by a person's actions over time.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 04/30/16 04:36 PM
love,, develops over time and never leaves,, for me like , develops over time and ebbs and flows with each interaction respect, has to do with a sense of honesty and dependability and is a given for everyone until they show me otherwise through their actions and/or words What you said about love totally resonates with me MsH I hear so many people speak in a tone of hatred about their exes and I don't know what to make of it, because I see love as you do - ETERNAL. It just changes into a different form when a relationship ends. ... maybe into respect, or gratitude, or even good wishes towards them. I think that everyone should be given the most basic of respect , just by virtue of being a human being, which I think you alluded to. Some may define that modicum of respect as being civil. ...But then there is the deeper, complexed type of respect that I think you are referring to in your last paragraph, which I agree is earned , sustained or eroded by a person's actions over time. This concept makes me think of the old Chinese proverb that says "Speak softly of YOUR previous bad choices."

peggy122 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Sat 04/30/16 05:36 PM
I have seen people who say they like or love someone, but they don't appear to respect them. People say a lot of things to get what they want like saying they love someone when really they only want to dominate them. That is not love and it sure isn't respect. I see lack of respect for someone you say you love by gossiping about them and the relationship either very publicly or behind their back. It is one thing to have a confidential conversation with a close friend but there are just some things you do not discuss with others outside your relationship present or past tense. I have also seen people who say they don't like or love someone but they appear to respect them. I don't know that is respect or just fear. Or just respect for the position. I respected my boss in a couple of situations but thought they were complete failures generally as human beings. The exception might be someone who does something you are not good at and you admire the talent. I tend to respect athletes since I know the hours of strain and practice it takes to be good at most sports; not to mention often repeated injury. 1.What's the difference between liking a person versus respecting a person? I tend to respect people in authority but I also know that some of them get there by less than honorable means. I don't really think you can like a person all that much if you don't respect them. Unless you just think small doses of them funny or educational. I could not tolerate the chronic comedian type person and usually loath someone sarcastic but every once in a while I admire the ability to crack wisearse. 2. What are some things that make you lose respect for a person? The usual stuff. Dishonesty, cruelty, selfishness, chronic bad manners, being inappropriate for the setting, laziness, competitive to extreme, theft, whiners, and quitters. Being a bully in any setting; but especially towards children, seniors, or the truly dis-advantaged. If I see someone try to get over on others just because they can that really cooks them for me. Respect can certainly be a complexed issue I think you alluded to this Star when you spoke about respecting the athlete. You may totally respect his skill , and the work eithic and tenacity that led him to excellence, and yet you can totally disrespect him for the way he conducts his personal life. This dichotomy in respect also applies to politicans and other people in power. I also get what you are saying about fear being the sentiment we feel in the work place in some cases, as opposed to respect, which is how I defined it. I'm still not sure how I feel about that, as I wonder if there is a type of respect that is motivated by fear. I don't know if the root of all respect is love or liking . Other people in this thread also share your view that liking and respect can't exist independently of each other. But what if a person likes a person, and displays disrespect in one area, but respect in other areas. Does the disrespect in that area (IN SOME CASES) translate into total disrespect for the person. And similarly if you totally dislike something/s about a person, does that mean that you don't like them completely? I am just wondering is respect is something to be treated as an absolute entity. And many people will agree with the list of offenses you listed, which erode one's respect for a person . Well said Star