Don't you just love that early phase of a relationship.?

You feel like you are floating with your partner above the mundane landscape of the world and that you and your partner are unbreakable.

It makes you feel like a giddy teenager all over again!

But after the age of 35, many of as have experienced breakups, heartaches and romantic disappointments by the dozen, and seen our butterfly feelings crash and burn multiple times over.

With that in mind, do you fall in love now , the same way you did as a teenager? All bright-eyed, confident,.and full of hope ?

Or does the cloud of past disappointments prevent you from fully enjoying that yummy warm glow of your early stage of love?

And if you do still immerse yourself in that euphoric sensation, what gives you that feeling of hope and unbridled excitement after all these years?

Wow gives me something to think about because I really don't know.

How is one should act like with the male species in a romantic way?

You can't say "chur bro what's the haps"?
It doesn't feel right.
Next it would be like kissing your bro

I want to always be in love Peggy, that means the world to me, it keeps me alive by day to day. Bright-eyed, confident and full of hope - Yes For Sure - No matter where Life brings me - even in solitude - I will still want to feel being in love unless I lose my memories of it. What you feel inside of you will create your "Aura" and You will Just Look Like That. I don't want to look "Grumpy" and be called as such.


I don't want my heartaches or past disappointments ruin my real character, of being fun-loving, easy-going, and just being happy.

Life is Short, Time Flies Fast, No Use Whining or crying over the past, We just have to Move On and Make the Most of what is left in our lives and try as much as possible to make beautiful memories that we could cherish in our lifetime

Hey Annie

I am not referring to how you express your romantic feelings.

I am talking about how you FEEL!

Do you feel very guarded when a romantic connection is developing between you and a guy?

Or are you inclined to remind yourself of past disappointment to keep yourself centred , cautious and less giddy in love?

That's a lovely outlook to have Twin

Do you ever wonder when you have that bright eyed optimistic aura that you attract people sometimes who misinterpret your optimisic aura as ignorance and who wish to take advantage of that?

as i said on one other thread yesterday, "i love the beginnings.."

We all do B

But do you analyse where the relationship is going sometimes?

Or do you just ride the romantic feeling like a wave for however long it lasts?

Is there any other way.

Haha!

Yep there is.

Some people keep reminding themselves that it may not last so they dont throw themselves into the feeling 100%.

I am not saying that its the right way.

I am just saying that some people are more cautiously optimistic about a new love

Oh I get you.

A faint heart never won a fair Lady.

I like to think those butterflies you speak of leaving will be replaced by a calm serenity, a mutual understanding of each other. Just a different butterfly.

yes

Yes. Thats exactly what happens .....

...If the relationship lasts long enough to transition into that maturity

Thats great news Ahmad :)

Growing up, people would call young love 'puppy love'
thereby diminishing its theoretical impact.

Well I am here to tell you, it is all the same.
I felt exactly (at 8 years old) as I do now when it
comes to love.

Same feelings, giddy, breathless, yearning, fearful,
exuberant, nauseated..all the same when love is
in the room.

Is there a ..jaded version?
Probably.
But for me, I go all in, past be damned :-)

You sound just like joe and twintidbits.

That's admirable soufie !

Of course.
The process is the same whether I'm 13 or 130.


No.
But andropause/menopause does.

"Cloud of past disappointments" is what people use to rationalize to make something the fault of someone else.

I also am not as excited/scared to drive as I was the first day of drivers ed., and it really has nothing to do with the "cloud of past disappointments" from speeding tickets, or accidents, or crappy drivers.


Testosterone, dopamine, adrenaline, and serotonin.

I can't remember what that feels like to be truthful.

But i am pretty cynical and skeptical when it comes to this kinda stuff so i am usually just thinking "how long will this one last before she moves onto someone better"

Yes off course,

Doesn't it make you feel desired, and loved and wanted?
Oh and don't forget how it makes your heart beat faster just being in the same room as the person you want to love and cherish forever and ever.


Oh I think its is best to close the book on the last chapter/relationship,
before moving on into a new relationship,
that way you are not carrying any emotional baggage around.
Off course, that easier said than done!
After all, having a relationship end when you want to keep it going is like having the sky fall on your head

Oh sorry
I will let you know when it happens.
Don't hold your breath.