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Topic: HOW DO I GET RID OF AN ANNOYING EX BF?
rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 04:48 AM
we were dating n I found out he is married to someone else,I broke the relationship off but he doesn't want to let go.he keeps disturbing me with calls n texts,n if I fail to pick or reply his text n calls,he comes to my house unannounced.he tells me he loves me n he isn't going to let me go...I want my peace of mind but this guy is sucking the peace out of my life..how do I get him off my back?..what do I do to make him understand I no longer want him?.

Gummiente Joined Thu 03/17/16 Posts: 151	Sat 03/26/16 05:02 AM
Block his number from your phones and file a restraining order against him. Clearly, he does not want to accept the fact that you no longer want to see him, so you will have to take these measures to ensure that he leaves you alone.

blah..blah.. Joined Sat 04/26/14 Posts: 1648	Sat 03/26/16 05:04 AM
Throw him into a bear pit?

rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 05:09 AM
in my country, restraining isn't easily given...u will be tossed up n down till u get tired n back down...I did think of telling his wife abt her husband harassments... but I'm afraid she might over react n see me as the bad one who wish to break her marriage

rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 05:10 AM
Throw him into a bear pit? how exactly am I going to do that?..

blah..blah.. Joined Sat 04/26/14 Posts: 1648	Sat 03/26/16 05:18 AM
Arrange to visit a zoo and go see the bears, then just pick him up and whooosh!! i wasn't being serious. good luck i hope you get it sorted out

rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 05:41 AM
Arrange to visit a zoo and go see the bears, then just pick him up and whooosh!! i wasn't being serious. good luck i hope you get it sorted out that is funny..do u think I'll walk away with such act?...

blah..blah.. Joined Sat 04/26/14 Posts: 1648	Sat 03/26/16 05:46 AM
possibly not, but who knows? they can't put the bear on trial can they

adivorcedone Joined Wed 08/12/15 Posts: 7591	Sat 03/26/16 05:49 AM
I am not suggesting bribery , but if its the norm for your location, try it while getting a restraining order issued or if all else fails, move...without a forwarding address...hope this helps...

rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 05:56 AM
I am not suggesting bribery , but if its the norm for your location, try it while getting a restraining order issued or if all else fails, move...without a forwarding address...hope this helps... thanks..I'll think abt moving to a new place... I only hope he doesn't find me cos he has contacts with my frnds n family...

blah..blah.. Joined Sat 04/26/14 Posts: 1648	Sat 03/26/16 06:06 AM
If he is causing you a problem, then look at a restraining order or whatever is the equivalent.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76375	Sat 03/26/16 06:35 AM
Humm find a friend that is bigger and badder then he is and let them tell him to get off your back and leave you alone that you don't want him around or have anything to do with him.. If not that next time he shows up at your door call the cops and tell them someone is trying to break in.. He does not seem to be one that understands when it's over it's over~~~ And never answer his calls or text have his number blocked. It is best to change your number.. Then never answer the door when he comes by..You are only giving him more reason to call when you do..Cause he thinks by you answering him he still has a chance.

sparkyae5 Joined Thu 03/28/13 Posts: 1595	Sat 03/26/16 07:29 AM
we were dating n I found out he is married to someone else,I broke the relationship off but he doesn't want to let go.he keeps disturbing me with calls n texts,n if I fail to pick or reply his text n calls,he comes to my house unannounced.he tells me he loves me n he isn't going to let me go...I want my peace of mind but this guy is sucking the peace out of my life..how do I get him off my back?..what do I do to make him understand I no longer want him?. [/quote report him to his wife and police and anyone that will listen . those guys can not do that with the world watching them .they can not be put away without a track record of there evil deeds.....every single time he does something repot it, including the past.

Robxbox73 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 5302	Sat 03/26/16 07:51 AM
Hi Racheal , welcome to Mingle. It is my attempt to simply give advise. In all cultures is left over in all people's DNA, the capacity, for multiple mates. You cannot say that it is predominant in males. Females having a limited amount of ovum, can also take their pick of the litter. With that said.... You must cut him off. I speak metaphorically, of course. This situation is usually perpetuated or continued, by the lady still taking his calls, txts and messages. Cut him off. Good luck Racheal.

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Sat 03/26/16 08:54 AM
in my country, restraining isn't easily given...he has contacts with my frnds n family. Then get your friends and family involved. Tell them what he's doing to you. Then tell his wife. Tell his mother if you can. There's a reason why people are group creatures. When in danger, they group up, and provide common defense. Before there was law there was social ostracizing. It's an atavistic fear that people naturally avoid. If one guy is bothering you, then you go get more people to protect you and/or bother him. That's, theoretically, the entire purpose of police and armies. But without them, all you have are family and friends. Unless you just want to be a perpetual victim use them, get them involved.

rakybabe Joined Wed 09/16/15 Posts: 16	Sat 03/26/16 09:13 AM
thanks to u all for ur different advice n views... let me jux be clear on this point..I do not call nor pick his calls,that makes him to show up at my place whenever he wants. I'm the type who don't like creating scenes,so in order to avoid a scene that will draw ppl to me,I let him inn cos even if I don't, he will stand there till I open or call a neighbour to come call me out...I have tried blocking his numbers but he keeps calling with different lines which I don't know nor have..he even sometimes make a lady frnd of his call me...I believe its jux better I move to a different town..

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Sat 03/26/16 09:21 AM
Hitman

wolfman3838 Joined Sat 03/26/16 Posts: 1355	Sat 03/26/16 02:40 PM
I know a few people that would handle it. But that would be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire

Manturkey1 Joined Fri 03/11/16 Posts: 2400	Sat 03/26/16 04:55 PM
I know a few people that would handle it. But that would be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire I still know some of those ppl too

blueeyedone81 Joined Sat 03/26/16 Posts: 3	Tue 03/29/16 01:49 AM
we were dating n I found out he is married to someone else,I broke the relationship off but he doesn't want to let go.he keeps disturbing me with calls n texts,n if I fail to pick or reply his text n calls,he comes to my house unannounced.he tells me he loves me n he isn't going to let me go...I want my peace of mind but this guy is sucking the peace out of my life..how do I get him off my back?..what do I do to make him understand I no longer want him?. Block all communication. Cut him off completely. Extreme cases get a restraining order. Move.