Going inside the Ex wife's house to see his son (26 years old boy)and have a chat with ex.is this appropriate as he is in a relationship?

Yes, that's what most divorce parents do.

I would say yes, communication is important

Heck I went to my exes for Christmas and he has a woman that lives with him. She has no problem with it good thing for that is how it as always been.. Went to my ex mother in laws every year for Thanksgiving till she went to a nursing home and never thought about it..

They are my kids family....we had always went to my exes mom's for Thanksgiving and we did not see the need to change who my kids were around... Couple years I did not go then she called and begged me to come said she did not care if my ex liked it or not..

My ex and his gf came by a couple weeks ago to look at the flooring I had put in cause they are thinking about doing the same.. Told them they could come look at mine to see what they thought..

I know with my ex he is a ex and my kids dad. Beyond that nothing else nor would I want to go back to him... or even thought of it...

When two people have kids together just because they grow up does not mean they quit talking about them with each other.. Both of my kids are in their early 30's and with 5 grand kids I tend to see my ex more now then I ever did..

The thing is I am not included

How long have you been with him?
Why do you need to be there? He is spending time with his son/.. bonding..
Your insecurities are showing..

Humm don't really see the need to include the ex gf when we are talking about our kids.. And actually that was the first time his gf has been in my house and only to look at the flooring. We call each other when we need to talk about the kids and want to in person.. and he will drop by for us to talk about what ever is on our minds about the kids..

As far as any other time we are around each other is is something for the grand kids or kids.. Then sure his gf is included same if I was with someone..Cause it is a family event..

My exes gf is a really sweet woman but I have no desire to be buddy buddy with her..nor discuss anything my kids might be going through with her. But we do sit and talk and cut up when we are at one of the grand kids sports games ect.. for we normally sit together.. and talk about the grand kids..

Ok, Yes, I have insecurities. I have been with him 4 years. He went back to his ex before and came back to me. Not once and lied to me too. He has an adult son 26 years old.He used to go out with his son.I don't want he get back with her again. As a suggestion i told go out with son or invite to your place. We planned to move in few months.I don't want to be include. Its really hurts when he go see his ex wife using his adult son.

Call the fire department... They miss a spot .

thats about the size of it........could create a problem with current love interest when the so called child is a adult....i guess common sense is not so common......

Hummm when the whole story is not there for us to comment on then it will never be what you expect..

As far as the bf going back to his ex wife that only happened to me once and I assure you I made sure it could not happen a second time.. Seems to me your bf is not over his ex.. And you have every right to wonder.. But that will always be there since he has been known to do it and you took him back..

If the trust has been broken it is hard to get it back.. Myself I'm not that trusting of those that have already shown me they can not be trusted..

Yes you're right. He is not over her yet. He broke my trust many times. When he went counseling with his ex I struggle lots,his Ex Did not corporate with counselling then he left her. I left him few times and he came back begging. All time gave him second chance. Recently he lied to me and went inside of her house had wine with her and her sister. This happened behind me and later told me. I asked you want to go there in the future? He said yes nothing wrong going to see my son have a chat with ex. I let him go.I posted here he saying its normal i am getting upset unnecessary. If has little kids its ok. last 3 years he went out with kids, all sudden started go in there now he saying he wants to go in side of the house and spend time with them. Is this normal?

N2000,

Just out of curiosity, are you actually married to this guy?

Humm I would never invite my ex by my house to have a drink no way and we get along....

Sounds to me there is a lot going on both ways.. You even state that you are separated and this is a boyfriend you have been with for 4 years off and on it seems... And you state you are looking for a relationship...

Sounds like to me you both have no clue what y'all want and need to get out of past relationships before you move on to the next...

Lots of trust issues going on and neither sure what they really want..just saying~~~

whatever happens next is your fault then, since you seem to keep taking him back after he lies and cheats(?)... but thats your business, i'm just commenting on what you've said...

I know this is my fault too. My ex is not in this country left him back home country.Even I don't know Where is he now. lived 12 years alone rising my two kids. This is the first relationship experiencing after my 16 years marriage. No experience about relationships. my boyfriend sign separation papers few months ago separate all assets. nothing now they have together. For me this is not right to go see his ex chat and spend time with her. It is disrespectful to me. He still wants to be with me having both woman in his life. Its over with him now.He is a nice person But not for relationships. Just wanted to know what others opinion. Thanks everyone.

Did he say it was over with her when he meet you ?

It's easy to lie to someone ,when you get out of the shower and look upon that big looking glass of yourself.

Ask your self who is to blame .

omg honey.. cut and run from him.
seriously, you don't need this..

I will concur with Rusty....

Nice pic, btw..