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| Topic: Depending On Our Mate For Happiness? | |
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I have noticed that when I am actively pursuing career, educational goals, and hobbies I am passionate about , not to mention sustaining nurturing friendships, that other people's offenses don't bother me that much . Heck...There have been times when I felt like my world was falling apart and I would spent a weekend at a beach house or guest room by myself just sleeping and taking in nature and i would feel equipped to take on the whole world afterward!!! Is it possible that much of the unhappiness that we feel towards our partner may very well be more an issue of dissatisfaction within ourselves and maybe other parts of our lives that we have been neglecting? No one enters a relationship to be unhappy, but do you think that we depend too much on our partners for our happiness? If you don't have a happy personal life then you will rely too heavily on someone else to help fill that void. A partner is supposed to help generate happiness. That's why we do get involved, fall in love with someone....we want companionship and we want to share life with someone that we love most of the time, infuriate us at other times, but still make us laugh. But we also have to do the things that help identify who we are. If I go play golf of Sunday's, then she shouldn't hate me or feel depressed about me doing things I love. If she knits or paints while I am watching the game then I shouldn't feel disappointed that she will not share in my love of sports. In the end, and this seems to be a problem with relationships, we have to find that harmonious balance with someone. |
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never depend on anyone for anything..
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Only when it was a Happy Ending!
  
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I am happy most of the time and it does not depend on my mate,, but that MOFO sure can make me miserable...  
I'm sure many agree with you 
Same here... I'm mostly always in the "Happy Place"... but they always try to drag me down into the Pit of Despair. 
Aaaaawwww... That means that this woman is wrong for you. We all have our down days where we inadvertently kill our partners buzz, but if it on a regular basis when it interferes with your overall happiness, then that's a toxic situation that needs to be resolved or abandoned all together I suspect |
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I have noticed that when I am actively pursuing career, educational goals, and hobbies I am passionate about , not to mention sustaining nurturing friendships, that other people's offenses don't bother me that much . Heck...There have been times when I felt like my world was falling apart and I would spent a weekend at a beach house or guest room by myself just sleeping and taking in nature and i would feel equipped to take on the whole world afterward!!! Is it possible that much of the unhappiness that we feel towards our partner may very well be more an issue of dissatisfaction within ourselves and maybe other parts of our lives that we have been neglecting? No one enters a relationship to be unhappy, but do you think that we depend too much on our partners for our happiness? If you don't have a happy personal life then you will rely too heavily on someone else to help fill that void. A partner is supposed to help generate happiness. That's why we do get involved, fall in love with someone....we want companionship and we want to share life with someone that we love most of the time, infuriate us at other times, but still make us laugh. But we also have to do the things that help identify who we are. If I go play golf of Sunday's, then she shouldn't hate me or feel depressed about me doing things I love. If she knits or paints while I am watching the game then I shouldn't feel disappointed that she will not share in my love of sports. In the end, and this seems to be a problem with relationships, we have to find that harmonious balance with someone. I coulve said better myself goof!
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never depend on anyone for anything.. I agree with your philosophy for the most part B.
I think I personally need people in my life but I don't depend on any one person in particular. In other words, whenever I need companionship, I don't depend on one person. I have a choice of my family, many friends offline , as well as my online community, which is such a blessing! |
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Well said Booty!
I have only ever depended on one mate to give me my "happy ending" 
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