I sometimes really feel very hard to understand a woman. Some moments she makes you feel like you are the most important person and suddenly in other moments she behaves as she is entirely a different person who doesn't trust or believe in you. And the problem happens when she gets angry and starts fighting for no reason.

Incidents like
- you complimented her friend for her new dress when she asked.
- you got busy and couldn't call her or met her.
- you asked her to learn a special dish and she feels you don't like her cooking

And the most important issue is that she starts saying that "do you really love me or not" and we guys become helpless. Woman are complicated

Women aren't complicated
Women are almost impossible!

Communication specifically effective communication helps women feel secure. Knowing how to listen and provide emotional support goes a long way in facilitating emotional stability. Insecurity that can easily manifest when a woman does not feel her significant other does not attend to meet her unmet needs... Learning effective social skills can help reduce a womans feelings of insecurity as the support they seek is often from the person who unknowingly is not offering enough...
This is not a criticism of men but rather an acknowledgment of skills often missing in a relationship which creates instability and insecurity it both partners...

She sounds needy,(high maintenance); low self-esteem; insecure.. mousy almost..
Real women would agree and compliment the friend with you.
She should be her own woman and not have to wait for you to call..have her own life
Just because you don't follow instructions has no bearing on love.
Maybe time to look for another fish. Sorry if I sound mean.

With age comes maturity and growth... Give it time..

<==== Steps away from giantowl before the projectiles start heading his way.

Do you know that it takes one to know one?

In my opinion we are not complicated, sometimes we like to have our own way and if you guys don't agree you get mad.

And can stand when we are right and don't like to accept us for who we are!

...yup...lol

American woman or is she from somewhere else?

Bro relax, I know it is hard to understand women but if you do, life becomes extremely comfortable and happy. Keep trying

I totally agree with you and I do the same but sometimes it is something which you involuntary do. Every man does it without his knowing and beat his head to understand what wrong he did for such a over reaction.

Hahaha...you know that I won't run away just because of small issues. I rather talk to her and see if it was that reason or something which is running in her head. Sometimes she get angry for some other reason but from outside it looks like this was the issue.

well I hope so too, atleast some wisdom to me would really help me

well here she is mad at me so....

Pure american, from florida staying in LA now

Why waste our time telling you that you can't fix what this girlfriend seems to be but after a while it gets old hearing how you are and expert on fixing messed up relationships but this one seems to be in the ditch more than it is not. Good luck.

Hahaha..I know but I see lot of people facing similar issues so chatting and sharing could help.

We must trust them, if we really love them. No other choice

Lol

Women aren't complicated, you just seem to got yourself an insecure one with low self-esteem. That likely makes her depend on you to make her feel good, and that false sense of 'feeling good' starts to wobble when you compliment another woman, don't call her etc etc.

That doesn't mean you should start doing all these things the way she wants you to though. As a matter of fact, I strongly advice against it! In such cases of unreasonable expectations based on insecurity it's best to set your perimeter and to not yield. (and of course don't set unreasonable 'limits' yourself).
She will simply have to learn to trust you. So you should talk to her, but be clear about how you're going to deal with things. Don't get sucked into her drama and insecurities.

I remember similar 'phone problems' and my ex got fed up with it. He told me "You're a grown woman. I trust YOU and trust that you will phone ME if something is wrong. If not, there is no problem is there?"
I didn't like it, but realized he was right. And it actually made me feel a lot better not having to get upset cos he didn't phone me. Because I knew he wouldn't phone me every 5 seconds. I also knew he wouldn't like me to phone him every 5 seconds, so I didn't.
So basically ... I shifted my expectations. I had to, as he wasn't going to budge and give in to MY insecurities. And really, it helped me a lot. I felt set free.

You can either do something similar or get sucked into her drama and get fed up after half a year, a year, two years, and break up because you can't handle it anymore. Feeling bitter and disappointed.

Good luck