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| Topic: No Sex For You...Damn, I wish you had told me earlier | |
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What if you find her really not enough attractive and still wishing to enjoy her company as a friend? And yet you could be concerned to tell her cause surely you will hurt her tell her in a nice way, who knows friends do blossom in time/ lol...success rate of this tactical approach is rare in my experience...she normally disappears....so far i never met someone that while refused accept the "friend" status.... We have all been down that road at some time. So know what you mean. 
yeah...you bet...just i wonder why some women think always they are the best of the best and then they get furious when they realize a man can like them as a person and not as a partner. Sometimes matter of of well overrated selfrespect you think? The common feeling is you have to like someone as a friend first before a lover, but everyone is different, some are satisfied being friends others are not and want the whole package. lolol....brother after 3 years in Russia i learnt that what common feeling is in the Western world (don't mean geographically but culturally, western for me is Singapore for example)is not common in many other parts of the planet I know exactly what you are referring to as i have been to Singapore a few times in the past Singapore wonderful place. Have you ever been in Russia? Where women are the greatest pleasure and punishment for a man? BTW....BC is in my wishlist since i saw this Highway trough Hell show...must be great there.... Anyway..coming back to the topic....i really found hard to understand in different part of the world how the concept of sex for women is different. Fun in North America, bartering exchange in East Europe, authoriation by holy trinity in catholic countries...etc...not generalizing...just based on own made statistics with location experiences. If 9 in ten think one way there is probably a chance the % of the rest will be similar. I guess is matter of not yet multicultured environment. In this sense you north americans are lucky...too many slices of different cultures right at hand...in Europe is still quite rare especially in the south Never been to Russia, women are supposed to be beautiful so I have been told. Cultures are in every country, that is what makes our world unique true...unfortunately not everyone get the chance to get a taste of it, what i was trying to say is that if you go downtown Vancouver you will find people from all the world. If you live in an culturally omogenous country you will have no chance to discover and compare. Too many people nowadays just make their statements about what's going on in this world without moving their butts from their chair in front of the PC. Plus..yes the world is various because is different until you have to cope with something that is so different that can be outrageous sometimes. Then the question is (probably another thread lol?).... different is always good or there must be lines that have not be crossed..the lines of decency?..and more important how you define decency...and dignity?... sorry just getting philosophical... |
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What if you find her really not enough attractive and still wishing to enjoy her company as a friend? And yet you could be concerned to tell her cause surely you will hurt her tell her in a nice way, who knows friends do blossom in time/ lol...success rate of this tactical approach is rare in my experience...she normally disappears....so far i never met someone that while refused accept the "friend" status.... We have all been down that road at some time. So know what you mean.
yeah...you bet...just i wonder why some women think always they are the best of the best and then they get furious when they realize a man can like them as a person and not as a partner. Sometimes matter of of well overrated selfrespect you think? The common feeling is you have to like someone as a friend first before a lover, but everyone is different, some are satisfied being friends others are not and want the whole package. lolol....brother after 3 years in Russia i learnt that what common feeling is in the Western world (don't mean geographically but culturally, western for me is Singapore for example)is not common in many other parts of the planet I know exactly what you are referring to as i have been to Singapore a few times in the past Singapore wonderful place. Have you ever been in Russia? Where women are the greatest pleasure and punishment for a man? BTW....BC is in my wishlist since i saw this Highway trough Hell show...must be great there.... Anyway..coming back to the topic....i really found hard to understand in different part of the world how the concept of sex for women is different. Fun in North America, bartering exchange in East Europe, authoriation by holy trinity in catholic countries...etc...not generalizing...just based on own made statistics with location experiences. If 9 in ten think one way there is probably a chance the % of the rest will be similar. I guess is matter of not yet multicultured environment. In this sense you north americans are lucky...too many slices of different cultures right at hand...in Europe is still quite rare especially in the south Never been to Russia, women are supposed to be beautiful so I have been told. Cultures are in every country, that is what makes our world unique true...unfortunately not everyone get the chance to get a taste of it, what i was trying to say is that if you go downtown Vancouver you will find people from all the world. If you live in an culturally omogenous country you will have no chance to discover and compare. Too many people nowadays just make their statements about what's going on in this world without moving their butts from their chair in front of the PC. Plus..yes the world is various because is different until you have to cope with something that is so different that can be outrageous sometimes. Then the question is (probably another thread lol?).... different is always good or there must be lines that have not be crossed..the lines of decency?..and more important how you define decency...and dignity?... sorry just getting philosophical... Truer words were never spoken. You are a wise man. no my friend...just seen too much around....really too much |
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What if you find her really not enough attractive and still wishing to enjoy her company as a friend? And yet you could be concerned to tell h7er cause surely you will hurt her Quite the eye-opener and good to know if a guy wants to orally please you, he just means to be friends. Men ... they're just like dogs, aren't they? The only difference is that dogs lick you in the face 
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Back when my late wife and I had our courtship, she and I had a wonderful romance. Yet, she and I did not engage in sexual intercourse until after our wedding. So, no, I do not need to engage in sexual intercourse while dating a woman in order to enjoy being with that woman. you are a unique kind of man to come across.respect to you, why hasn't some lady swept you off this damn site?.men these days want sex as easy as saying hello lol Go for it, Thelma!! It's almost spring, excellent time for love 
It's worth a try @Crystal fairy!!....Hi Dodo 
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Back when my late wife and I had our courtship, she and I had a wonderful romance. Yet, she and I did not engage in sexual intercourse until after our wedding. So, no, I do not need to engage in sexual intercourse while dating a woman in order to enjoy being with that woman. you are a unique kind of man to come across.respect to you, why hasn't some lady swept you off this damn site?.men these days want sex as easy as saying hello lol Go for it, Thelma!! It's almost spring, excellent time for love
It's worth a try @Crystal fairy!!....Hi Dodo
But ... but ... but China is too far away from me. 
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I love u
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Edited by
peggy122
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Sun 03/13/16 08:55 AM
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I NEVER agree to go to a man's place or any private space with him unless I am open to being intimate with him.
Maybe I am paranoid, but I have heard too many cases of date rape where the popular clause invoked by the male was, "Well she agreed to come back to my place. What was she expecting???" I refuse to take that chance. At my present stage in life, I personally believe in intimacy being earned over time because for me intimacy is embedded in trust, which I don't give away randomly or hastily. I really don't think sex is an issue of decency or right and wrong when it comes to consenting and HONEST adults. I specified the word honest because sexual consent is usually given on the basis of ASSUMED honesty from the other person in terms of identity and intentions. I really think the rules of engagement for sex all boil down to COMPATIBILITY. The couple just has to agree on the level of game-playing or straightforwardness , the timing when sex is initiated, and most importantly... What type of interaction/relationship that BOTH parties want AFTER the sex. Come to think of it, I think the decision of initiating sex is seldom ever a problematic issue. I think the conflict between what the man and woman want AFTER sex is usually the source of tension. It takes time to discern what someone's TRUE intentions are toward you because the best indication of truth is when someone's actions line up with their words and that takes time to observe and assess. I think few people are disciplined or interested enough to take the time to get these things clarified with their partner before initiating sex, which leads to the bulk of confusion and bad feelings that people are forever bringing up in these riveting mingle threads. 
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I NEVER agree to go to a man's place or any private space with him unless I am open to being intimate with him. Maybe I am paranoid, but I have heard too many cases of date rape where the popular clause invoked by the male was, "Well she agreed to come back to my place. What was she expecting???" I refuse to take that chance. At my present stage in life, I personally believe in intimacy being earned over time because for me intimacy is embedded in trust, which I don't give away randomly or hastily. I really don't think sex is an issue of decency or right and wrong when it comes to consenting and HONEST adults. I specified the word honest because sexual consent is usually given on the basis of ASSUMED honesty from the other person in terms of identity and intentions. I really think the rules of engagement for sex all boil down to COMPATIBILITY. The couple just has to agree on the level of game-playing or straightforwardness , the timing when sex is initiated, and most importantly... What type of interaction/relationship that BOTH parties want AFTER the sex. Come to think of it, I think the decision of initiating sex is seldom ever a problematic issue. I think the conflict between what the man and woman want AFTER sex is usually the source of tension. It takes time to discern what someone's TRUE intentions are toward you because the best indication of truth is when someone's actions line up with their words and that takes time to observe and assess. I think few people are disciplined or interested enough to take the time to get these things clarified with their partner before initiating sex, which leads to the bulk of confusion and bad feelings that people are forever bringing up in these riveting mingle threads.
Amen....Truer words of wisdom are seldom heard.
Thank you!
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Your not wrong!!! That's a reply your comment but not des
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Edited by
butribu
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Mon 03/14/16 07:29 AM
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i am quite a straight forward and open talking person
i have black and white, no greys so i make it clear in advance, whether it suits him or not.. and if he is in a "yeah yeah no worries, after a few more drinks at home, she will be in bed" mood, i can read it from his behaviours and i won't go there. |
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haha very good thread again this time the question is hard i have to think.. make some calculations, estimations, some graphical statistics, have to go through my experiences and put them down to a bell curve regarding success and failure. then i will be back here  |
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excuse me; what did Cessna say?
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i am quite a straight forward and open talking person i have black and white, no greys so i make it clear in advance, whether it suits him or not.. and if he is in a "yeah yeah no worries, after a few more drinks at home, she will be in bed" mood, i can read it from his behaviours and i won't go there. Experience or mother taught??????
unfortunately experience Tom  i wish it was mother-taught, but no i had hard times you see
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i am quite a straight forward and open talking person i have black and white, no greys so i make it clear in advance, whether it suits him or not.. and if he is in a "yeah yeah no worries, after a few more drinks at home, she will be in bed" mood, i can read it from his behaviours and i won't go there. Experience or mother taught??????
unfortunately experience Tom i wish it was mother-taught, but no i had hard times you see
One thing... you are not alone 
great, that made me feel better lol 
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Everyone has their own views on this subject and most views are up to that of the two consenting adults and it helps if you both have the same views x
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That depends on the two people involved with relationships also comes compromising x
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Women still do that?
Of course. If you wait long enough. They start getting pissy wondering why you do nothing. They get like a 'Oh yeah? You don't find me attractive enough to sleep with me? We'll see about that..' kinda attitude. If I were a guy, I could get chicks soooo easy.. Ah! so this is kinda normal behavior on the part of some women...dang! I thought she was a nympho ...lol...and after six dates of doing nothing with her, she thought I was gay...dang, you learn something by being on this forum after all... |
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Sometimes its just useless to discuss certain topics in advance, especially, if you are trying to go up a level or two.I remember the time, I was in hot pursuit of this rather charming young woman, and we were very agreeable on finance, housing and yup, vacationing topics. I asked the obvious next question, how often do you like to have sex...she replied, infrequently. Hmmmmm!!! all I said was...yup...Is that one word or two words? Got slapped on the head and she walked away, now I dont bother with all that...I Nike...yup like in Just Do it.....
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yes u r absolutely correct i had lots of sex invites but first get know is better if u like to hv frnd with me send reply if not its ok im sri lankan came very recently to NZ my real photo is there interest on me check out
good luck ... bye |
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Sometimes its just useless to discuss certain topics in advance, especially, if you are trying to go up a level or two.I remember the time, I was in hot pursuit of this rather charming young woman, and we were very agreeable on finance, housing and yup, vacationing topics. I asked the obvious next question, how often do you like to have sex...she replied, infrequently. Hmmmmm!!! all I said was...yup...Is that one word or two words? Got slapped on the head and she walked away, now I dont bother with all that...I Nike...yup like in Just Do it..... She didn't really slap you on the head did she and walk away? To me, it would seem to be a plausible query to ask about sex and even preferences ... btw, that's funny (two words, in frequently, )
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