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Topic: Why most good men not my type?
Marko95's photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:09 AM
Be like that sometimes lmao... You'll be alright though

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:09 AM
Most men that like me don't have much money, not attractive, and not average height. Why someone like Stephen Curry can be attractive and find an attractive woman? Most men that like me not my type at all, why it seems you have to settle for less to find someone?

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:25 AM
**** that, Im not doing it, have too much pride

no photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:27 AM
who is finding what??

peggy122's photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:46 AM
Well the weird thing about life poca , is that even if or when you find a guy with all the physical traits you want, there will be some part of their personality that you dont like. There will also be something about YOU that he doesn't it like , whether it be something about your looks or your personality. None of us are perfect. :smile:

Welcome to mingle and good luck to you !flowerforyou

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 10:51 AM
Thank you, I have a hard time accepting that :unamused: well I can't be with someone Im not attracted to, how can you look over looks and height? I can't do it...... I think a person thats not your type leads to cheating

soufiehere's photo
Sun 03/06/16 12:29 PM
It takes life to learn not to keep judging by looks.
The deep stuff is underneath.

I hope you find the gold beneath.

Welcome.

Sunnymorning760's photo
Sun 03/06/16 12:47 PM
This chat is interesting.

Online dating spoils us with a lot of really good looking people ... who increase our standards for attraction ... which will make your path to finding a best partner harder if you always increase your standard.

Remember to make a list of realistic needs and wants ... if someone meets most of the needs and maybe some of the wants ... maybe make it work by finding away to enjoy it and not think too much about it.

Embrace the individual and not just their shell.

Just my thoughts. Of course I am from Canada ... so I am too naive ... lol jk

peggy122's photo
Sun 03/06/16 12:50 PM

Thank you, I have a hard time accepting that :unamused: well I can't be with someone Im not attracted to, how can you look over looks and height? I can't do it...... I think a person thats not your type leads to cheating


Well then try to have as much fun as possible with your friends and by yourself while you wait for your perfect guy. You have no control over if he shows up or when he shows up but you have control over the happiness you create for yourself while you wait :smile:

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:03 PM
Thank you, I don't know why wanting an attractive partner is wrong, men want attractive women

peggy122's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:16 PM

Thank you, I don't know why wanting an attractive partner is wrong, men want attractive women


All of us want an attractive partner . There is nothing wrong with that , but let me ask you this.

What inner qualities are you looking for in a boyfriend, (if you are comfortable enough to share)

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:22 PM
Respectful, ambitious, educated, successful, loyal, caring, and supportive.

peggy122's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:25 PM

Respectful, ambitious, educated, successful, loyal, caring, and supportive.


Lovely! Did you ever meet a guy with most of these qualities?

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:35 PM
Yepp, didn't give two ***** about me, and another was a man whore. I want all of it, men thats faithful not attractive which makes sense.

nazeh92's photo
Sun 03/06/16 01:43 PM
Hi

blah..blah..'s photo
Sun 03/06/16 02:15 PM
I agree with what has been said already, you're young, enjoy life for a bit, go and play out and if you meet someone then that's a bonus.
but don't let it sit at the front of your mind when you got so much ahead of you!

good luck :smile:

peggy122's photo
Sun 03/06/16 02:16 PM

Yepp, didn't give two ***** about me, and another was a man whore. I want all of it, men thats faithful not attractive which makes sense.


So both of them were gorgeous but treated you badly but you gave them a chance based on looks only and maybe money and height?

What if you tried being in less strict about one of your dealbreakers?

eg maybe he doesnt have to have the perfect face or maybe he doesnt have to have a lot of money.

So lets say if he meets at least one physical requirement , you can then start observing over time if the guys you meet have the qualities you want.

Guys can make more money over time if they are ambitious, but inner qualities like respectfulness, supportiveness, faithfulness etc are harder to come by

blah..blah..'s photo
Sun 03/06/16 02:19 PM


Yepp, didn't give two ***** about me, and another was a man whore. I want all of it, men thats faithful not attractive which makes sense.


So both of them were gorgeous but treated you badly but you gave them a chance based on looks only and maybe money and height?

What if you tried being in less strict about one of your dealbreakers?

eg maybe he doesnt have to have the perfect face or maybe he doesnt have to have a lot of money.

So lets say if he meets at least one physical requirement , you can then start observing over time if the guys you meet have the qualities you want.

Guys can make more money over time if they are ambitious, but inner qualities like respectfulness, supportiveness, faithfulness etc are harder to come by


that is excellent advice Peggy, well done that woman.
shame others don't have the same thought processes
drinker

poca_bougieazz's photo
Sun 03/06/16 02:38 PM
I guess its going to take longer for my mind to mature. I like the finer things in life. I guess because the type of family I come from. They all have PHDs, nice cars, and houses.

Dodo_David's photo
Sun 03/06/16 02:50 PM

I guess its going to take longer for my mind to mature. I like the finer things in life. I guess because the type of family I come from. They all have PHDs, nice cars, and houses.


That certainly is some introspection, poca.
In your your first post, you say, "Most men that like me don't have much money."
Yet, you titled this thread "Why most good men not my type?" which implies that a man doesn't have much money in order to be a good man.

Anyway, welcome to the site.

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