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Yepp, didn't give two ***** about me, and another was a man whore. I want all of it, men thats faithful not attractive which makes sense. So both of them were gorgeous but treated you badly but you gave them a chance based on looks only and maybe money and height? What if you tried being in less strict about one of your dealbreakers? eg maybe he doesnt have to have the perfect face or maybe he doesnt have to have a lot of money. So lets say if he meets at least one physical requirement , you can then start observing over time if the guys you meet have the qualities you want. Guys can make more money over time if they are ambitious, but inner qualities like respectfulness, supportiveness, faithfulness etc are harder to come by that is excellent advice Peggy, well done that woman. shame others don't have the same thought processes  Thanks giantowl 
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This chat is interesting. Online dating spoils us with a lot of really good looking people ... who increase our standards for attraction ... which will make your path to finding a best partner harder if you always increase your standard. Remember to make a list of realistic needs and wants ... if someone meets most of the needs and maybe some of the wants ... maybe make it work by finding away to enjoy it and not think too much about it. Embrace the individual and not just their shell. Just my thoughts. Of course I am from Canada ... so I am too naive ... lol jk Well said! 
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I guess its going to take longer for my mind to mature. I like the finer things in life. I guess because the type of family I come from. They all have PHDs, nice cars, and houses. I assume that you got to enjoy the nice cars and houses from the 2 men you dated before? the ones who cheated on you and didn't care about you? If the houses and cars and looks were the most important thing to you in life, wouldn't you have stayed with the rich gorgeous boyfriends who mistreated you? |
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I guess its going to take longer for my mind to mature. I like the finer things in life. I guess because the type of family I come from. They all have PHDs, nice cars, and houses. That certainly is some introspection, poca. In your your first post, you say, "Most men that like me don't have much money." Yet, you titled this thread "Why most good men not my type?" which implies that a man doesn't have much money in order to be a good man. Anyway, welcome to the site. Exactly
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Sun 03/06/16 04:08 PM
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I guess its going to take longer for my mind to mature. I like the finer things in life. I guess because the type of family I come from. They all have PHDs, nice cars, and houses. If you want to attract what you consider the right guy for you, you also have to consider what those guys want in a woman. Do you have those qualities? What you yourself exude is what causes you to attract the men you attract. So it's not the men, it's about what you put out there, how you carry yourself, how you present yourself, how you feel about yourself etc. etc. You mention pride. That can manifest itself in ugly ways. There's healthy pride, for instance being proud you overcame a fear, proud you got out of your comfort zone etc. Being too proud to talk to or date a guy that you deem beneath your standards is not pretty. It's arrogance. Arrogance isn't appealing either. Pride that is related to status is masculine. Men aren't attracted to masculinity. Maybe you don't really feel you're worthy of a good man? Men sense that. Everyone is attracted to confident people... When a 'good' guy sees you knocking a guy you don't fancy, he won't feel appealed to approach you either. People that are judgemental or condescending aren't attractive ... Just chucking some stuff at the wall here. Men in general like women that are feminine, care about other people, are confident about themselves. And being feminine has nothing to do with looks, dressing sexy, cleavage etc (that is often masculine, not feminine), but with your energy. So with how you feel to them. In any case, whatever is active in your world, is what you attracted yourself by what you exude. So have a closer look at what that is if you want to start attracting different men. . . . |
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We tend to believe that one day we'll find that person that we all look for.. But that's not how reality works. Sometimes you have to accept what you get even if you don't like it. Rather than wait and get nothing. Compromise.
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I guess she would
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