yes, and Doritos...

Well now that you threw in the weed...you'll need more than 1 bag of Doritios

Hi..my wife left me I don't know y .so .love is big ......for women. ...men allwys never do

try not to include all men thinking like that... we don't, and many wives have left many men.... just go on to the next one without going crazy and locking women in your basement...

Actually most recent studies found that woman and men cheat about the same amount.

What drives it? It's the individual (whether man or woman) that drives it, they decide they want someone, and they PURPOSELY try to figure out how to get it, while minimizing their guilt.

The convince themselves that the deserve this encounter/person by coming up with whatever rationalizations they can.

I.e well my wife doesn't have enough se with me...I deserve to have sex..it's her fault I'm doing this.

I.e my husband spends so much time away from home, he's neglecting me...I deserve better...This guy doesn't do that. ..it's My husband's fault I'm doing this.

People cheat because they selfish, insecure, and scared.

Selfish in the fact that they don't think about the other person

Insecure in their ability to handle an adult conversation and ending a relationship properly.

And lastly scared of the possibility of being alone without anyone currently wanting them.

Men and women cheat because ultimately they want the best of both worlds. They want the security blanket of commitment with a main partner, as well as the excitement of exploring new territory, or the luxury of getting from their "side partners " whatever they feel they are not getting frim their main partner.

you gave your life to lover

"People" cheat because of their lack of self esteem. Someone other than their partner comes along and tells them all the wonderful things they don't think they are hearing from their other half....and then it happens. And both they and the person they are cheating with are selfish enough to not care about the consequences. It's called immediate gratification!!

no... they cheat because they have no self control... everything you just said is an excuse, nothing more

Okay..I have to say it.

You joined yesterday.
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About 13 men.

You are NOT in Ohio are you?

Like moths to the lamp... Men are such a predictable creature..

Cheating takes its root from one of three issues:
either:
1) The cheater devalues the relationship in the first place, at least enough to make cheating "worth it" in their mind.

2) The cheater suffers from some form of an impulse control disorder and needs psychiatric treatment.

3) The cheater is dissatisfied with the relationship due to a lack of honest communication within that relationship, concerning individual needs.

Sad to say, but items 2 and 3 are the more common, as in condition 1 it just simply means that a person doesn't have big enough balls to simply move on.

What does it mean to you?

Couldn't answer that one except I am the one getting cheated on not the other way around so I'd say women cheat quite a bit themselves and I despise a cheater

I rather agree... self-control .
I have been tempted in the past (like 10 years ago)..but I thought with my big head, used self-control to help realize the grass is not greener on the other side..and continued with a good relationship (marriage)..I mean, you have to think about what you would be losing!

good for you in not cheating.. when people make that vow of marriage, it's the least they can do is honor it...i also think that it made you a stronger and better person for not choosing to cheat...

I will wait for men to answer that

they lack Selfesteem,yet are Selfish,ie,acting in their self-interest?