Ok I'm a Woman with kids.so let me say this. You do have a big disicion to make. Only because it will affect you,the woman, and the kids. Even If you care a lot for her.It's a package deal. So my suggestion is to think long and hard. Maybe take time away from her to contemplate.

hmmmmmmmmmmm there is a lot things out there

wow.. i'm a single mother i have 3 kids i'm 25 and none of my kids have the same father.. but if you dont know the whole story you might wanna consider that something may have happened.. some boys not men .. find out they are about to be a father and they run scared.. my daughters father left when i was pregnant and didnt even try to contact her till this year she's nearlly 7 now... my now 4 year olds father i married.. he lied to me and cheated on me the first month of the marriage..

my youngest is something that a few ppl know about and i dont care to dicuss in the forums

so just because a woman has kids that dont have the same father doesnt mean she is a hose bag, trashy , sluty or whatever else some jerks like to call them..

i have always kept my family (3 children) life and my personal (dating) life separate...

I have 3 children and I find that men think dating me means instant family. Of course I'm looking for something serious and of course they are a HUGE part of my life. But even meeting my children takes time and trust. When relationships break up it's hard on the children, too. I wouldn't want my kids to go through any agony because of something they have no control over. I have guy friends and my kids know them and are cool with that. But if I'm going to get involved with someone, I like to have the instant family conversation and find out their true feelings. Some people are just not cut out to be parents, let alone stepparents. And some people are.

i would prefer to date someone with kids, i have 3 kids and they are my life. i have dated several girls who didnt care for kids, let me tell you that didnt last too long

first of all she should not be too willing to bring the kids into it if you are just starting out on dating.
Second make sure that she is the one with all the discipline its not for the step parent or potential new partner to take over.
if she is looking for an instant father figure then it could be a problem in the future.
if it feels like they are being pushed on you too soon it may be an issue
I had kids when I met my Ex and never once made him feel pressured into the family thing he was younger as well it took time and when it was my time with the kids it was my time with them, we fit our relationship around it and he understood and took great care bringing him into the fold so to speak.
they are no grown now and have a good relationship with their step dad.
they treated him with respect and grew to go to him as someone they could count on while their dad was in the prison system for many years.
it is something to think about to be sure but you will have to see how she handles things as well to really make your decision

I am also a single parent! And let me tell you...I will NEVER bring a man around my son until I know it is something that the partner is ready for. Because when you commit to me he is part of me! Package deal, instant family, extra baggage...whatever you want to call it. You dont get me without him! And if I had to choose, well, you lose!!

5 kids at 25? Even if they were with the same father or not, wow! Um, I didnt have my son until I was 26! Guess nowadays, I waited too long huh?

I can only say good luck and trust your instincts! Because if you are not ready for your own children, what makes you think you are ready for someone elses?