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SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Fri 01/29/16 09:49 AM
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Ok then, having read some of the replies I guess I did overreact a little. However for the Ladies I would say, just read the post again and imagine it was a woman who wrote it about herself understanding men then see how you'd feel. But having said that, I guess I should have just ignored the post or thought about my reply a bit more, and yes, sometimes if English isn't your first language it can be difficult to express yourself. You live and learn. God this humble pie can get stuck in your throat 
Joe, you're brill! 
And yes, I guess if it had been a woman a very similar thing would've happened. * If someone plans to start a thread on that, lemme know, I'll copy paste my replies and just swap "man" and "woman" and stick it in the new thread  *
Don't choke on the humble pie, spit it out!  
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I find it rather simple and easy to understand women than MOST men. I don't know why. I have seen many couples break up because of inability to understand her. I find it saddening for this deficiency on most men. Everybody, I am not a shrink But you're single. That means he's not met the right one yet ... not that he doesn't understand women 
I've read some of the other topics he's started the last few days. If he understands women then I'm Einstein. I get where you're coming from. And I haven't read his other posts. But I still find it typical that so many men get upset because of his statement. If you feel confident in your masculinity, there wouldn't be a reason to feel emasculated or attacked. The fact that he uses "deficiency" ... give him a break, English isn't his 1st language ... As for blowing your own trumpet ... that is gross, Joe!
In all honesty ... I know it's a typical English thing to feel that you cannot state what you're good at. Englishness requires you to be demure, reticent, and modest. That's an observation, not a judgement. There's nothing wrong with stating what you're good at and wondering why other people don't seem to have the same quality or ability. Or to wonder why they're struggling with it when it comes so easily to you. It's society that tells us we have to be modest and just wait for others to compliment us. And even when they do, we should humbly accept it and tell them "It was nothing!" We are taught to constantly knock ourselves. The only reason for this is that others feel small when we excel at something. So we have to keep ourselves small so others feel better. Isn't that insane? And who knows ... you could be the next Einstein! He was wrong on his theory of relativity wasn't he? No one is perfect
. . . Bravo Crystal! You always offer unique angles from which to view a ""beaten -to- death" subject.And better yet, you compel us to look deep inside ourselves. It was very thoughtful of you, BHawkin's and Dolphin to put yourselves in the OP's shoes instead of throwing shoes at him which most of us did  We really shouldn't have been so quick to judge him without asking questions and maybe we did get defensive due to insecurities we have in ourselves. Who knows? What I would say is that like joethebricky, I have read a couple of the OP's other threads and he does come across as a know-it-all, not just in terms of how he wields his advice with his friends, but also in terms of the lofty manner in which he responds to people's comments. Few people respond graciously to perceived arrogance no matter how secure we are in our skin. It might not be a bad thing for the OP to explore means of communicating in a more humble way... And it also might not be a bad thing for the rest of us to do what you did ; and not be so quick to get on the defensive before investigating a person's claims further. As you said, none of us are perfect.
Ps: Roboxbox 73 and BHawkins... Your comments were timely and so darn funny! You both had me giggling to myself like a ninny 
. (((Peggy)))!! Thank you. You got quite the inquisitive mind yourself!
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I find it rather simple and easy to understand women than MOST men. I don't know why. I have seen many couples break up because of inability to understand her. I find it saddening for this deficiency on most men. Everybody, I am not a shrink But you're single. That means he's not met the right one yet ... not that he doesn't understand women
I've read some of the other topics he's started the last few days. If he understands women then I'm Einstein. I get where you're coming from. And I haven't read his other posts. But I still find it typical that so many men get upset because of his statement. If you feel confident in your masculinity, there wouldn't be a reason to feel emasculated or attacked. The fact that he uses "deficiency" ... give him a break, English isn't his 1st language ... As for blowing your own trumpet ... that is gross, Joe!
In all honesty ... I know it's a typical English thing to feel that you cannot state what you're good at. Englishness requires you to be demure, reticent, and modest. That's an observation, not a judgement. There's nothing wrong with stating what you're good at and wondering why other people don't seem to have the same quality or ability. Or to wonder why they're struggling with it when it comes so easily to you. It's society that tells us we have to be modest and just wait for others to compliment us. And even when they do, we should humbly accept it and tell them "It was nothing!" We are taught to constantly knock ourselves. The only reason for this is that others feel small when we excel at something. So we have to keep ourselves small so others feel better. Isn't that insane? And who knows ... you could be the next Einstein! He was wrong on his theory of relativity wasn't he? No one is perfect
. . . Bravo Crystal! You always offer unique angles from which to view a ""beaten -to- death" subject.And better yet, you compel us to look deep inside ourselves. It was very thoughtful of you, BHawkin's and Dolphin to put yourselves in the OP's shoes instead of throwing shoes at him which most of us did We really shouldn't have been so quick to judge him without asking questions and maybe we did get defensive due to insecurities we have in ourselves. Who knows? What I would say is that like joethebricky, I have read a couple of the OP's other threads and he does come across as a know-it-all, not just in terms of how he wields his advice with his friends, but also in terms of the lofty manner in which he responds to people's comments. Few people respond graciously to perceived arrogance no matter how secure we are in our skin. It might not be a bad thing for the OP to explore means of communicating in a more humble way... And it also might not be a bad thing for the rest of us to do what you did ; and not be so quick to get on the defensive before investigating a person's claims further. As you said, none of us are perfect.
Ps: Roboxbox 73 and BHawkins... Your comments were timely and so darn funny! You both had me giggling to myself like a ninny
. Thanks peggy122. I will take the advice and use it. After all there is always room for improvement |
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Thanks buddy, just having fun with the thread. I knew you were just making harmless conversation ...glad no one made you want to stop posting ....& yeah, fairy seems to have an understanding & kind heart. I still haven't met one of those in person, not used to it personally
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Thanks buddy, just having fun with the thread. I knew you were just making harmless conversation ...glad no one made you want to stop posting ....& yeah, fairy seems to have an understanding & kind heart. I still haven't met one of those in person, not used to it personally Why should I stop posting? I don't care what random ppl say or think abt me. Coming to you, believe me, there is a first time for everything. You will find it. |
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Ps: Roboxbox 73 and BHawkins... Your comments were timely and so darn funny! You both had me giggling to myself like a ninny
. Thanks peggy122. I will take the advice and use it. After all there is always room for improvement  
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