Here's one that will make you think..."If it is better to give than to receive, that which is given, does it deceive?"

When given with purest of intentions, then only the receiver can deceive themselves.

Kind of like that Jess...my explaination for this is, if love is given, is it deceiving? Or is welcomed? If friendship is given, is it deceiving? Or is it welcomed with open arms? Etc. etc....

great way to put it...I prefer to be open and not assume the worst. Now I'm getting a little ner.... nope, not gonna change a thing

With adversity flowing like a mighty river, we have no choice but to forge our wills into rock or get washed away.

Hmmm Wolfeyes....

"if love is given, is it deceiving? Or is welcomed? If friendship is given, is it deceiving? Or is it welcomed with open arms? Etc. etc...."



In my understanding, that which is given freely has no attachment.

That which is recieved, is up to the receiver. Accepted? Again up to the receiver.

Reciprocated? Again up to the receiver.

If love is given with conditions, it is not given freely, if friendship is given with conditions, it is not given freely, and therefore, would possibly be deceptive.

The same as receiving, with conditions...

There would be deception from the true authenticity, of love and friendship.

i had a friend tell me that it is selfish to give because when you give it makes you feel better

By my definition... love and friendship are contradicting terms with deception or deceiving... therefore neither one can be given with deception... they live completely seperate... one in the "light" and one in the "dark"

Boy Jess, I bet you were on the debate team weren't you? That made my quote not even worth putting in this thread. Good psychology.

Nah Wolfeyes,

Time spent amongst Zen Buddhist nuns, and monks, is all.

reception of giving might supply the giver satisfaction if the gift received is valued, the intention of the gift can be legitimized by its thought, in which only a thoughtful gift in return would be appropriate, hence the giver gets nothing if a thoughtless gift is returned. Returning a gift solely from receiving isn't valid. Giving a gift with expectation grants self deception, while the purity needed lies on both ends. Instigate by giving and receive a gift by giving approval.
if It is better to give than receive, then it is better to recieve
gratefully then to give back.