Hello everyone and singles looking for love,

Constructive criticism is how we learn from things that we, ourselves, may not see. I'm smart enough to know that I don't know everything. Personally, I welcome it and appreciate it.

Thank you in advance and good luck!!

Ok Cowboy. I don't think you really will listen but here goes.

You want to try this kind of approach with women, real women who have more than an ounce of self esteem and are not just stone crazy and looking to take some good looking guy with a little bit of brains and sex appeal and crush his kahonies like nuts for Christmas cookies you might want to think how you are putting your self out there.

You could not draw a bigger target on your back. Or put your heart out there so someone will rip our heart out while it is still beating.

And how you think. That is going to be harder work than even you imagine, but if you don't change what you are doing you are going to keep getting what you have got.

Because like it or not you can live hard and fast, play hard and fast , drink and smoke your brains out, and love hard and fast and sooner or later you are going to end up alone with this approach.

If you do not then you are going to wish she would because you will only have something you have crushed the life out of. Nobody is going to be able to live in your shadow or close to whatever it is that is burning you up. It would be like living in a blast furnace.

So I am not going to tell you to re-write your profile. It catches your personality. What I do know is if you don't amend your personality then you should just stay single. For not only your sake but anyone you try to sweep into your path.

And while it might sound like I am just dogging on you let me tell you; it takes one to know one; and you don't want to be me in another twenty years when you could be you, the good guy who has at least admitted he is sick and tired and that is half the way there, in a lot less time if you decide you want it bad enough.

You want to talk fine. I am easy to find. You want to argue don't bother. You want to ignore me that is cool too. Talk to someone. Like to keep in Mingle land and see you find happiness.

gets better towards the end when you start talking about yourself
what you do want
not just about what you don't


the beginning reads more like a laundry list of every wrong ever done ya
comes across as pretty negative so ya might want to tone that down a bit

Zzzzzzzzz

Where to start...

First off, thank you for such a direct reply, after all, we may not see certain character flaws in ourselves until someone, maybe even a stranger, points them out. I posted to the forum and that's what it's all about. I'm open to criticism because I'd like to be a better person, not that I'm a bad one to begin with.

Second, I put myself out there the way that I do because I AM tired of all the games that seem to get played, the dishonesty, etc, etc. Maybe you are right due to the last couple women I seemed to have attracted and had a serious relationship with. Clearly, they didn't work out.

Third, I'm always open to productive suggestions. The day day we stop learning is the day we're just taking up space, in my opinion.

I've certainly taken your words to heart, PacificStar and thank you again!

Hey TM,

I hear ya on the laundry list thing and you're correct, I've been wronged many times and as we all know, it Sucks! Hence, why I'm here looking for advice. I appreciate yours, thank you!

You're looking for the same thing every one else is

in a simple sentence...

a kind, caring, honest woman who you're attracted to...and who's obviously attracted to you.

My advice is focus more on what you want other than the qualities that make a 'good' woman....

the camping thing is a good example,..

another would be say you ski every year...and want a woman who willng to go with you....or your favorite genre is horror but the girl your chatting up gets scared by beauty and the beast.

If you're picking from the proverbial menu...may as well go all the way..the good woman part is a no-brainer...but what qualities would you prefer they have to be a 'good fit' for you...