In the course of our discussions, it was unanimously agreed that members should rather adopt the habit of replying to a first mail at least. Judging by my own experience, this is absolutely not the case. I figure out that other members experience the same, more or less. Then, on second thought, I wonder why should they reply, particularly as far as the more popular ones are concerned...

Why would there be a difference popular or not?

I think that responding to e-mail is only polite.

If you are not being responded to- move on.

There are others out there that will trespond.

I listened when y'all said just try and respond to someone I normally wouldn't. So I did, and the conversation went as follows:

him to me: wats up (not a very good first message, bad grammar and not much to say)

me to him: My day was good. I got all my shopping done. What did you do today?

him to me: u r hot (ok once again, whats up with the bad grammar? he didn't even answer my question, and his use of u and r, instead of taking to the time to spell it out right, promotes laziness)

me to him: Ummm, thank you. I appreciate the compliment. So for sake of getting a conversation started..what do you like to do for fun?

him to me: i like sex

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK and BLOCK

Ok, so that's what happens when I respond to someone I don't really want to!

I agree MsTeddy.

If someone takes time out of their day to write to me. I will respond. It is the polite thing to do.

It is, however, everyone's personal choice to respond or not.

Don't you just love those guys?

Yeah I've ran into a few.

Yeah, me too, even though I plainly state that I am getting married and am not interested in finding anyone

I always respond and write back if someone emails me UNLESS its something that shows me disrespect. Then I don't think they deserve any kind of responce back!!!

Yeah, thats true, but I still respond, even if it's telling them to be a little more respectful...

I try to reply to all, but life gets busy & if there is no real question, I don't get it done. I think frst contact should have some context to it, otherwise what to reply is up in the air. I also write comments, that don't need a reply, just my thoughts & nothing more. When people don't reply, figure they don'tknow what they missed. Ego, no, I smply know I am a good person & it is their loss. No big deal.

I reply to anyone who takes time to write, even though i am not looking it shows good manners.

Your examples, ladies, are far from even crossing my mind... once, a woman in some dating site, confided in me that she was at first conspicuously reserved, because she considered me overly spiritual... so, once we are overly physical, once overly spiritual... betwixt and beween, were are we guys, without those d--n replies...

A self-suggesting question is whether being turned down politely or by being ignored, makes any difference...

I respond to everyone unless they are being rude or disrespectful then I just block them and move on I don't waste my time on rude people.

PapaBravo,

I think that it does make a difference, at least if someone replies not interested you know that its time to move on, and getting no respond just makes you feel uncomfortable because a simple no is better than being ignored. JMO

pity only the good girls take part in this, while the non-repliers do not even drop by... busy, busy, busy... after years of buzzing-busy, I prefer to sit back and amusedly watch the busy...

Yes, BlueBell, I agree, pity you represent the minority...

BTW, your cake looks delicious...

I like "Unsure"'s saying,totally agree...

I wish all others could have been like you, Gizzy, and Unsure. BTW, it's not easy being you ??? hmmm... would you like to swap for a while... I think you'd jump back happily into your own original skin...