Topic: Why People resort to online dating?
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Fri 12/18/15 02:52 PM
I just want to understand the question from a general viewpoint like why online dating has become so popular. People these days tend to interact with other people online neglecting the possibilities they have in their own Workplace/Society/Neighborhood. Hoping for a healthy discussion.....

Elizabeth734's photo
Fri 12/18/15 03:15 PM
U meet different people from around the globe with different ideas,u tend to learn new things and not limited to your culture,believes and ideas alone. And most especially u can meet a compatible soul online, that you can never meet in a life time if u don't go online. So stay on the thread have fun and share popcorn drinker waving

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Fri 12/18/15 03:30 PM
Maybe it easier to a date online.Then to date in person. I work of course most the dude I work with are already married. I would not dream of being the other women. Most people I search out the one I would have in common with that is sharing the same interest as I do. Most people I meet outside around town that I have consider going out have Girlfriend. It is usually the one that I am truly interest have these. Or they are gay.Well you do not actually to a meet the person. That is you do not worried about well disappointing man in some way and what not.

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Fri 12/18/15 03:31 PM
But I still feel like approaching people in real time and world instead online gives you more chance to be at success

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Fri 12/18/15 03:37 PM
Many reasons create issues to be addressed , some people are not socially sophisticated and can hide behind a screen and pretend they are as they present, others are here to scam, some to get attention of many with no intent to meet, some enjoy leading others on for their own amusement at the expense of the other person, its a way to avoid boredom, chance to experiment with others safely as some aren't as they present ( met women with other womens photos, some with slim photos and when we met they were over 225 SAD, hide behind euphemisms like a little extra, curvy to distort the obvious truth of morbid obesity, and others here to actually meet . Motivations are varied and peoples personal issues often cloud their judgment so its a good idea to require several photos, lots of narrative to give an accurate presentation ( watch for ask me? the epitome of laziness and failure to share with others, foolishly not offering any photos and then expecting others to ask - rude not to be on the same page with those who already did post a variety of photos and not just head shots, skip photos of landscapes, relatives, animals cartoons, all are not appropriate here but can be shared later when appropriate.) The fair generalization is the higher the standard of whom you seek the more likely many others will also be competing as I have seen some women get 700 meets in a day... imagine trying to screen such a large number and no its not necessary or right to answer others as no response is thank you and its not right for men or women to complain that others do not respond as its their choice just as each is permitted to screen as they wish too - here maturity is required as facing perceived rejection is demanded and some cannot accept that not all seek the same as someone else... If a person is consistently having issues with members I would suggest talking to someone who can help identify the issues resulting in so much negative responses. The idea that you can readily find someone is more wishful thinking as its random after all for two to find the other appropriate but easy for a one sided attraction regardless of age, sex, income, education, location, ability to write, honest photos and reciprocity..

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Fri 12/18/15 03:42 PM

Many reasons create issues to be addressed , some people are not socially sophisticated and can hide behind a screen and pretend they are as they present, others are here to scam, some to get attention of many with no intent to meet, some enjoy leading others on for their own amusement at the expense of the other person, its a way to avoid boredom, chance to experiment with others safely as some aren't as they present ( met women with other womens photos, some with slim photos and when we met they were over 225 SAD, hide behind euphemisms like a little extra, curvy to distort the obvious truth of morbid obesity, and others here to actually meet . Motivations are varied and peoples personal issues often cloud their judgment so its a good idea to require several photos, lots of narrative to give an accurate presentation ( watch for ask me? the epitome of laziness and failure to share with others, foolishly not offering any photos and then expecting others to ask - rude not to be on the same page with those who already did post a variety of photos and not just head shots, skip photos of landscapes, relatives, animals cartoons, all are not appropriate here but can be shared later when appropriate.) The fair generalization is the higher the standard of whom you seek the more likely many others will also be competing as I have seen some women get 700 meets in a day... imagine trying to screen such a large number and no its not necessary or right to answer others as no response is thank you and its not right for men or women to complain that others do not respond as its their choice just as each is permitted to screen as they wish too - here maturity is required as facing perceived rejection is demanded and some cannot accept that not all seek the same as someone else... If a person is consistently having issues with members I would suggest talking to someone who can help identify the issues resulting in so much negative responses. The idea that you can readily find someone is more wishful thinking as its random after all for two to find the other appropriate but easy for a one sided attraction regardless of age, sex, income, education, location, ability to write, honest photos and reciprocity..


Liked the explanation :thumbsup:

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Fri 12/18/15 03:53 PM
For me, it is easier because I do not work or have many opportunities to meet single men around my age. I intentionally look close to where I live so meeting in person is inevitable.

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Fri 12/18/15 04:05 PM

I just want to understand the question from a general viewpoint like why online dating has become so popular. People these days tend to interact with other people online neglecting the possibilities they have in their own Workplace/Society/Neighborhood. Hoping for a healthy discussion.....

For the same reason people listen to the radio
or watch TV, or go to church..
to expand your horizons, take you out of
your own backyard.

I learn something new every day here, but then,
I have no agenda :-)

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Fri 12/18/15 04:07 PM
Why People resort to online dating?

Same reason people started shopping wal mart and continue to do so.

It's convenient, everyone else seems to be doing it, you can go there and feel superior to the people that have to shop there, everywhere else is a much greater hassle and cost, the quality seems to be the same as everywhere else as people race to the bottom, and a whole lot of manipulative marketing.

sybariticguy's photo
Fri 12/18/15 04:13 PM

Why People resort to online dating?

Same reason people started shopping wal mart and continue to do so.

It's convenient, everyone else seems to be doing it, you can go there and feel superior to the people that have to shop there, everywhere else is a much greater hassle and cost, the quality seems to be the same as everywhere else as people race to the bottom, and a whole lot of manipulative marketing.
an excellent analogy...

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Fri 12/18/15 04:19 PM

I just want to understand the question from a general viewpoint like why online dating has become so popular. People these days tend to interact with other people online neglecting the possibilities they have in their own Workplace/Society/Neighborhood. Hoping for a healthy discussion.....

Purposefully avoided dating any one in my professional circles, workplace, church, where I volunteer, friends, family, and my immediate neighborhood because I find taking your personal life into those places inappropriate. Why?; because that is not the purpose I am in contact with them.

And because selecting and or rejecting a personal relationship should be free of outside pressures. You really want to mess up inter personal relationships mix in a romance; especially when one goes down the tubes.

Zunair25's photo
Fri 12/18/15 04:23 PM
Hi

mikey5360's photo
Fri 12/18/15 04:27 PM
Because we love faceless, nameless and profileless people randomly approaching us saying "hi"....laugh laugh laugh

metalwing's photo
Fri 12/18/15 04:43 PM
Duh! It's fun.

adivorcedone's photo
Fri 12/18/15 05:22 PM
Ya, its fun till the time comes to meet face to face....here is when all the issues comes to bear down....starting with " no where near what the pics looked like"....etc....

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Fri 12/18/15 05:40 PM
I guess I don't see how that can be such a problem when it is so easy and free to Skype, or any other video alternative, with someone and see in real time exactly what someone looks like.

I am pretty confident person but I would not meet anyone, anywhere, that I had not seen in person that way. Legit people do not argue about proving the truth. If anything they are relieved to set aside hesitations. But then I have never tried to profess that I look that great or dodged a specific question how much I weigh. Never lied about my age.

I might tell someone general terms and what is basically general opinions and public information about myself but I am not telling a stranger personal details.

And I am certainly not getting in and isolated situation with anyone I do not know their name and basically checked them out to be who they say they are.

I don't let anyone in my home with out and ID check. Especially if they have a criminal background. I sure as heck would not let them in around my family when I was a parent and I am even more protective of my Grandchildren.

adivorcedone's photo
Fri 12/18/15 11:37 PM

I guess I don't see how that can be such a problem when it is so easy and free to Skype, or any other video alternative, with someone and see in real time exactly what someone looks like.

I am pretty confident person but I would not meet anyone, anywhere, that I had not seen in person that way. Legit people do not argue about proving the truth. If anything they are relieved to set aside hesitations. But then I have never tried to profess that I look that great or dodged a specific question how much I weigh. Never lied about my age.

I might tell someone general terms and what is basically general opinions and public information about myself but I am not telling a stranger personal details.

And I am certainly not getting in and isolated situation with anyone I do not know their name and basically checked them out to be who they say they are.

I don't let anyone in my home with out and ID check. Especially if they have a criminal background. I sure as heck would not let them in around my family when I was a parent and I am even more protective of my Grandchildren.


Scammers are not the only ones who do not Skype, is all I am saying...

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Mon 12/28/15 12:53 AM
It's hard to meet people nowadays unless you go to the bar a lot if you're not a barfly and you don't have friends who introduce you to someone this seems to be the only other way because the chances of bumping shopping carts in the supermarket or not likely....lol