That would have never worked in our home though.

Communication? They had already done plenty of that before I made a wrong choice.

Going to my room? That would have been motivation for me to make wrong choices more often, not less. I loved being alone with my imagination, away from my rough and tumble brothers.


Kids need discipline, that works to deter future bad behavior and teach about consequences(life). For some kids , discipline might include spanking and for others not so much.

spanking children is completely wrong and illegal!

it is not illegal in the USA

it is also not anymore 'wrong' than putting them into contact sports, or grounding them

I am sorry, but I think that comparison is totally wrong,
Grounding them is not physical,contact sports are played between their own age group, and through that-respect is taught and learned,
But for an adult to actually believe that hitting a child is not wrong,
then society has not moved on from the days of putting the smallest child out to work, by sticking them up chimneys to clean them,
I have read your posts before,but you really surprise me on this one,
Please take a step back, and think.

I do think.

I agree that a fist or open handed slap to delicate areas like the face is wrong. I do not agree that is in the same league as swatting a well padded and well prepared behind.

Do you realize in our society the authority that enforces laws has the authority to KILL , TAZE, and permanently screw up the futures of young people for something as slight as 'not listening' to those authorities?

It does them no good to set them up for a false reality that consequences for their actions will be about listening and understanding and keeping them comfortable in their consequence.

Whether a paddle on the butt comes from an adult or whether a bump on the behind comes from them constantly falling, there is no less actual damage to the child.

Preperation for the real world, for the levels of consequence that can range from light to harsh based upon the 'mistake', is a parents job.

Comes running into the topic room holding a leather paddle... and wearing a large diaper...

Ohhhh..shot.. it's under parenting topic... I really need to read .. the topic headline closer.. son of a box of erasers..lol

you are one of the awesome ones no1

..awww thanks.. but let's just keep that between you and me...
Wouldn't want anybody else knowing how awesome I am..lol.wink
And speaking of awesome you're pretty spectacular Yourself by the way..

Oh look there's my little kids playing up again, honestly I really don't know what I have to do to make them behave.:

so if you get really offended by what your kid did, what will be your reaction at that moment?

in our home it was not an offense in the moment, it was understanding of two things through continued communication

1. (like in the real world) different levels of offense have different levels of consequence

2. If you know the consequence of the offense, CHOOSING The offense is choosing to potentially face the consequence


we had plenty of support in our home, my parents supported and encouraged us and had our back when we were in the right, they also explained certain offenses would result in a spanking. They knew once we were grown, authorities in the world who have no love for us, were not going to try to understand us or talk to us or coddle us. They prepared us for life like parents should.

Gee not the type of spanking I was thinking when I came in here haha

Well I for one gave my three daughters a choice in their punishments (to a point) only on a few occasions did I find it that a spanking was warranted in said occasion most times they were smart enough to avoid any punishment of any kind at all but other than the useal fights between sisters there is nothing

I liked to use a school paddle & in serious offenses I would paddle them bare.

I used a paddle on my kids

Ahh..well here in the U.S.A it is illegal to hit your spouse.. illegal to hit the elderly... but legal to hit your kids....?

I'd never hurt anyone...

it is also illegal to force your wife into a corner or force her to stay in her room, but not your kids

and it is not illegal to spank your wife, unless she presses charges

it is also illegal to have sex with your kids, but not your wife

what is your point?

the difference is maturity and responsibility

we are not legally responsible for the elderly or our spouse(Their crimes and actions are only their own)

the elderly and our spouse are of an age of legal responsibility to and for themselves and have no more time to 'learn' except by force of law

children, on the other hand, are still in a stage of learning, and parents are there to instruct and teach,, even about consequences,,,

i got spanked. i turned out fine. i spanked my kids. they turned out fine