I m 30 years still singleton gf, no girlfriend yet,no marriage. Till now . Lived happily. But now slowly I dont know but I m loosing my happiness.is it due lack of sex.Is sex is a need or a just a game for enjoyment. Plz tell Ur opinion frankly.

None of the above. There is nothing wrong with you. You are maturing.
And when self-centeredness fades we feel a void & have loneliness.
Man/ humans, were never meant to be alone.
Good luck to you in finding your companion.

Thanks friend.U r so nice.

Everything is better in two . You are right ,i never want to end up and grow old alone ,no way .

Sex is just sex. What you or anyone else thinks and feels about it, is a separate issue.

"Need" isn't a specific term. In fact, it's most commonly used these days, as a manipulative political word, to imply that some authority that doesn't exist and never did, actually does, and that said authority has declared that the speaker should be allowed to be a selfish jerk.

If sex were a real need, and you didn't get any, you'd die. Not complain in online forums about it.

Sorry to treat you a bit roughly with this, but I'm doing so because by thinking as you are right now, you are HOLDING yourself in the condition that you are in. Causing yourself to suffer even more.

What anyone must do, to move on from a static unsatisfying situation, is to live forward, through other areas of their lives. Becoming a more complete and happy person otherwise, will always make one more attractive to others as a potential friend or mate.

But declaring that other people are obligated to "service your needs," only generates resentment. Exactly like the resentment you already feel, because the rest of the world is seemingly asking you to work hard for them, with no personal rewards for you.

Yes it's real. Some choose to bachelor it, and some have it thrust upon them. some cope and some don't so well. I'm over 50 now and mostly been single, and feel pretty jaded about it. It's like everyone else is at a party and you're not invited for some reason. No living with, no marriage, no kids, no life.

Some say don't look for love or 'try hard'; but if you don't ask you don't get, and if you do ask expect criticism . . .
I don't think paying for it is any help either (not that I'm an expert), without that real genuine human bond. Like me - just keep on looking.

Right bro.

bachelor

or did ya mean you were born into a large family
kinda like a cat with a litter of kittens?

many people OP live a batchler life... and are very happy to do that ... and as far as sex ... you can live that kind of life and have relationship... and not have them to heavy ... and have fun and be happy with anther's company ... but you have to want this too... an have to go out and find it ... something I should do but have not yet ... meaning putting the energy forward ... for that ... this will come for you if u stay positive about it ...

Why not?
The only requirement to being a bachelor is not having a spouse.


Are you under the impression you need to feel happy 24/7?

Or if you don't have an industrial size keg of happiness in your pantry that you can tap anytime, and there's no store where you can easily buy a replacement, then something must be "wrong?"


Maybe.
Anymore people associate sexual fulfillment as social value.
If they aren't getting sex, then no one wants them.
If no one wants them, then they have no social value.
If they have no social value, then they're being ostracized.
That creates a lot of stress, anxiety, sadness, guilt, and things meant to motivate you to go find a group to belong to.

So, if you feel like you don't belong, or don't have purpose, or low self esteem, or worthless, you may look for sex in order to reverse these things.


Sex is not a "just" anything.

Your body thinks sex is a "need."

It's why your brain tries to associate it with so many things.
It's why people develop fetishes.

Your body, your subconscious, wants you to try and bang as much as possible, to try anything to get laid, to fulfill a prime directive, to try and get something, anything, pregnant.
You go through puberty for a reason. That's several years of your life.
Your body and personality completely changes.
Mostly for sex related reasons.

The less you have sex, the more you try to deny it, the more stress and anxiety you are going to feel, the more your body is going to subconsciously motivate you to bang whatever you can and to use sex in order to alleviate stress.

Sex is a need like human contact is a need.
Like when old people are given puppies or cats or have large families (have social purpose), they live longer and happier, have less stress.

Sex is a need like nutrition is a need.
You can subsist on junk food and empty calories for decades.
But it's really bad for you, going to lead to a lot of bad habits, poor personality, and feeling bad, until you die.

Your question should be "is trying to get someone pregnant a need, or can sex be differentiated from procreation and just used as a reward system for short term gratification?"

It's both thanks to the power of human fallibility and self deception.

I don't think just anyone can live as a bachelor. Certain things, like becoming too used to living with others, loneliness, depending on others, can be defining factors as to whether you'd actually make it by living on your own. It's all well and good, if people pat you on the back for being independent. Yet, it's a completely different ball game, if you still end up feeling like you need housemates around. I'm not that sure if anyone is prepared for that, when they rent a house or a flat, for the first time. As no-one can guarantee that it will be for the best. Especially with people who have anxiety disorders. And people who find it hard to introduce themselves to new neighbours.

Load of balderdash mostly.Try living without nutrition for a month and then rewrite.

Can anyone live a bachelor life?

I dont know with other people
but for me - Yes, of course u can.



I do not think it has something to
do with your being bachelor
or the lack of sex hahahaha.

Why?
Because of your question -
"Is sex a need or just a game for enjoyment?"

You are suspecting that u are starting to be
unhappy just because of sex or lack of sex?

Think.