Ohh.. and that person you're in love with its not me is it? Because I know I am pretty irresistible.. I'm kind of a big deal..lol..wink wink..

Do you know how that person feels about you?

Have you thought of bringing up the topic with them after all you are on a dating site.

Ask them out for coffee in a casual way and go from there or if to far away Skype date.


Everyone loves you No1
Look at those big brown eyes and the wet nose. How can they not?.
sorry it's Milo. Come here boy your so cute

See how easy it is?

Try it on him. I mean the guy you like.
What do you have to lose?


it is not on a dating site per say or would have tried that long ago ... but thanx ...

your thoughts what would you do...you really feel strongly about a person online...do they know ...maybe but don't know how strongly my feelings have been toward them

you really feel strongly about a person online ... and you are following them ... and remark as to what they post on that day ...
but have your ever felt like you should not have contact with them daily and stay away ... so you don't fall head over heels in love with them ... and let your emotions take over where you should not go in your head with them... and it has been very hard to stay away ... becouse you feel you don't want to have them think you are stoking them on line ... any suggestions... becouse I am really trying to keep my emotions in tack with this one ... an how do you just love as a friend ... an not get caught up in thinking that's all it is ...an will not go into a romantic relationship... and just be happy with the friendship ...

darn straight its you ... how could I not fall for a mug like that ...

I understand the infatuation part ... do they know ...maybe but don't know how strongly my feelings have been toward them ... like enough to stay away... so I don't get hurt ... or think other wise of him in my own mind... he is and has been loved by many all his life ... so that kind of love as friendships is constant in his life ... like I said I just stay away most of the time so I don't get hurt ... now that might sound weird ... but I don't know any other way to hold back my feelings for him ...so they don't go deeper then a friendship love ...
has this worked ...not really I still feel the same

You don't have strong feelings towards them.
You have worked yourself up to have strong emotions, and then chose to associate them with your perception of them.

This is no different than someone watching a soap opera and believing the character they watch is the true personality of the actor, or the actor is no different morally, intellectually, spiritually, whateverally, than the character they portray.

It's not real. It's in your head.

The sad thing is it's common online.
And sometimes it works for a while.
Simply because both people are the delusional seeking the actor to fall in fake love with.
Sometimes neither is the actor saying "here's a restraining order, psycho."

So sometimes it works. Sometimes people build up the fantasy.
Sometimes they then meet and continue the delusional fantasy.

Unfortunately, reality always wins.
The weaker the personality, the more the need for the fantasy, the longer it lasts, the more it hurts when reality wins.

Those are my thoughts.

And what I would do if I saw myself falling into this, is get out of it as fast as possible.
Slap myself a couple of times and try to remove the vaseline of desperation, loneliness, and delusional emotional connection from the lenses of my perception.
Or go to the search feature, find everyone and anyone close to me, then set up dates that keep me busy and away from the internet for as long as possible.

you really feel strongly about a person online ... and you are following them ... and remark as to what they post on that day ...
but have your ever felt like you should not have contact with them daily and stay away ... so you don't fall head over heels in love with them ... and let your emotions take over where you should not go in your head with them... and it has been very hard to stay away ... becouse you feel you don't want to have them think you are stoking them on line ... any suggestions... becouse I am really trying to keep my emotions in tack with this one ... an how do you just love as a friend ... an not get caught up in thinking that's all it is ...an will not go into a romantic relationship... and just be happy with the friendship ...
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Yes I have felt that way and I did not contact them daily for those reasons but I am still single so maybe I did the wrong thing. Follow your heart it will lead you to the proper path.

You don't have strong feelings towards them.
You have worked yourself up to have strong emotions, and then chose to associate them with your perception of them.

This is no different than someone watching a soap opera and believing the character they watch is the true personality of the actor, or the actor is no different morally, intellectually, spiritually, whateverally, than the character they portray.

It's not real. It's in your head.

The sad thing is it's common online.
And sometimes it works for a while.
Simply because both people are the delusional seeking the actor to fall in fake love with.
Sometimes neither is the actor saying "here's a restraining order, psycho."

So sometimes it works. Sometimes people build up the fantasy.
Sometimes they then meet and continue the delusional fantasy.

Unfortunately, reality always wins.
The weaker the personality, the more the need for the fantasy, the longer it lasts, the more it hurts when reality wins.

Those are my thoughts.

And what I would do if I saw myself falling into this, is get out of it as fast as possible.
Slap myself a couple of times and try to remove the vaseline of desperation, loneliness, and delusional emotional connection from the lenses of my perception.
Or go to the search feature, find everyone and anyone close to me, then set up dates that keep me busy and away from the internet for as long as possible.

thanks to all of you ... someone said to me one time ...this just could be your way of not getting involved with anyone since he is online and safe and a person of stature...I thought they meant ... there really could not be a meet or even a relationship ... so I felt safe with that ... and now with trying to get over a attachment for him feeling a strong love in my head ... then just is all in my head ... message him ... well I might have and he may not have even received it ... meaning he gets so many ... and the one time I thought when I asked him something his answer did not really seem like him or even what I asked him about ... really did not except he would even do that... becouse he is kinda that kind of person... least I think would even need to get that kind of tattoo... he knows who he is and does not need to be reminded of that ...feel it was someone else answering me ... but I know the feeling of when you would meet either your going to know right then ... how you both feel about each other and know if u can move forward... and sure I can day dream all I want ... which may get me know where ... and of course being around him online makes me feel good ... but I just don't want to feel safe ... I want a loving relationship ... an can't say he does not love all of those he is around on line ... just in a friendship kinda way ... just wondering for myself how to separate the two and still be around him ... now if I new he was in a strong relationship with someone that might help ... but as of right now I don't think he is ... and that may have changed for him ... since I have been staying away ... and I don't know ... something will have to click or not sooner or later ... that's all I can think now ...

I'm intrigued, the only way I can think of someone having someone else answer (if you are certain he's got "many" is that it's either a spam or a public personality...on fb or twitter for instance and in which case..."being fun", "showing your love" is part of the job....?