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Topic: your thoughts what would you do...
PacificStar48's photo
Wed 11/11/15 10:36 AM
I think in your gut you may have reservations that this infatuation is just going to blow up to be a scammer and you will get hurt in the process because you like the persona and it fun "pretending".

All relationships are a risk but if you drag out the getting in real contact you are just torturing yourself for no good reason.

Personally I would not get caught up in all the should, would, and could about when to contact someone and just let the path lead where it does. If it proceeds great if it falters then well that is the cost of being real person.

If you talk to them every day over a few weeks and get a real response, rather than just a polite conversation or a cut and paste answer, then I would say the person is interested enough to consider Skyping. Be careful don't compromise your safety or security.

But dragging it out for months is selfish and just playing childish games.

Playing fantasy games on line unfortunately is a hobby, and some times an identity theft business, for some creepizoids of both genders.

mysticalview21's photo
Wed 11/11/15 11:14 AM

I think in your gut you may have reservations that this infatuation is just going to blow up to be a scammer and you will get hurt in the process because you like the persona and it fun "pretending".

All relationships are a risk but if you drag out the getting in real contact you are just torturing yourself for no good reason.

Personally I would not get caught up in all the should, would, and could about when to contact someone and just let the path lead where it does. If it proceeds great if it falters then well that is the cost of being real person.

If you talk to them every day over a few weeks and get a real response, rather than just a polite conversation or a cut and paste answer, then I would say the person is interested enough to consider Skyping. Be careful don't compromise your safety or security.

But dragging it out for months is selfish and just playing childish games.

Playing fantasy games on line unfortunately is a hobby, and some times an identity theft business, for some creepizoids of both genders.


I think I should at some point do just what you say ... contact them messaging and see if I get a responds ... and no games ... or just let go ... becouse I would think if he is interested in me the same way... he would have message me already...

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Wed 11/11/15 12:51 PM
I think I'd wait and see if he bothers to contact me again. If he never does, then I'd read it as him not being interested. However, don't wait for him for that long, when you could better use your time making new friends. Try not to get into infatuation territory, because you may end up feeling burnt out. I just keep reminding myself that no-one ever promised me anything, and that we don't always get what we want. If that's of any help at all. flowers

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Wed 11/11/15 01:03 PM

I think I'd wait and see if he bothers to contact me again. If he never does, then I'd read it as him not being interested. However, don't wait for him for that long, when you could better use your time making new friends. Try not to get into infatuation territory, because you may end up feeling burnt out. I just keep reminding myself that no-one ever promised me anything, and that we don't always get what we want. If that's of any help at all. flowers


thanks ... infatuation territory... been there done that... wanting that feeling never again ... why I have held back on this one ... and some other reason too... think it is time to just go in having no exceptions of him and enjoy the time together we can on line... that sound good right laugh

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Wed 11/11/15 02:02 PM
flowerforyou sounds like you are in the friend zoneflowerforyou if you have to wonder if he's interested i think he's not in the way you wantflowerforyou enjoy the friendship keep feelings in checkflowerforyou if he isn't messaging you then he's not interestedflowerforyou

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