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Topic: is this common thing?
crezyhours's photo
Mon 10/26/15 04:47 AM
I have happy life.. I m not so rich but cant say poor. middle class man ..i m merried..since last 6 years...
But i m feeling lonly sometimes... I feel tht i m missing something... I feel unhappy sometime i mean not happy not sad . Is this comman prob ??

1j9b6c5's photo
Mon 10/26/15 04:57 AM
Quite common actually but hey, we're all a little crezy.

no photo
Mon 10/26/15 04:57 AM
waving Glad you made another one.
I will chat with you later. Good luck.

And yes..we can feel alone anywhere & with anyone, even in a crowed room. Yes, it is normal.

crezyhours's photo
Mon 10/26/15 05:12 AM
If this is common thn whats the solution of this?

1j9b6c5's photo
Mon 10/26/15 05:16 AM
Ya just gotta saddle up, hold on loosely, and slap that pony on the hindquarters.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 10/26/15 06:22 AM
Happiness lives within, so if you don't feel it, you got some work cut out for you.
Find something in life that makes you happy, fills you with joy. A hobby, sports, going places, doing things etc. etc.
Bring some unpredictability back into your life. Many people get too comfortable and lazy even when they're in a relationship. As if they've reached the end of the line, as if they've reached THE goal in life.
Guess what: you're wrong!
Relationships are the icing on the cake. YOU are the cake. So if the cake has gone stale, you got to try a new recipe.

Try this:
What did you do before you got this settled that made you happy?
What did you do as a (young) kid that made you happy?
Are there things and activities in there that you stopped doing and that appeal to you, then do them again!


As for the relationship:
What have you stopped doing over the last 6 years? Things that you used to do when you were both still madly in love?
Start doing these things again!
Behave as if you are dating again. WHy? Because when you were dating, you were (still) appreciating your partner. Often times when we are married we stop doing that and start taking someone for granted.
So take her out to dinner, or when having dinner at home, light some candles, dim the lights, buy a nice bottle of wine, and date your wife again. Woo her, flirt, have fun together.

The boredom and loneliness is within you, so you are the one to change it, and it's not hard at all. Just wake up, slap yourself in the face, and start doing things you never do anymore.

crezyhours's photo
Mon 10/26/15 06:25 AM
Hmm... I think i hv to try fairy's openion..

Datwasntme's photo
Mon 10/26/15 07:09 AM
get off the net , grab your wife and go do something
you, unlike most have that option cause some one is there

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Mon 10/26/15 07:14 AM

Hmm... I think i hv to try fairy's openion..

Enjoy! Life truly is beautiful, we just someone lose the ability to see and feel that :)

flowerforyou

soufiehere's photo
Mon 10/26/15 08:17 AM

Ya just gotta saddle up, hold on loosely, and slap that pony on the hindquarters.

hahahahahahahaha

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 10/26/15 09:20 PM

Happiness lives within, so if you don't feel it, you got some work cut out for you.
Find something in life that makes you happy, fills you with joy. A hobby, sports, going places, doing things etc. etc.
Bring some unpredictability back into your life. Many people get too comfortable and lazy even when they're in a relationship. As if they've reached the end of the line, as if they've reached THE goal in life.
Guess what: you're wrong!
Relationships are the icing on the cake. YOU are the cake. So if the cake has gone stale, you got to try a new recipe.

Try this:
What did you do before you got this settled that made you happy?
What did you do as a (young) kid that made you happy?
Are there things and activities in there that you stopped doing and that appeal to you, then do them again!


As for the relationship:
What have you stopped doing over the last 6 years? Things that you used to do when you were both still madly in love?
Start doing these things again!
Behave as if you are dating again. WHy? Because when you were dating, you were (still) appreciating your partner. Often times when we are married we stop doing that and start taking someone for granted.
So take her out to dinner, or when having dinner at home, light some candles, dim the lights, buy a nice bottle of wine, and date your wife again. Woo her, flirt, have fun together.

The boredom and loneliness is within you, so you are the one to change it, and it's not hard at all. Just wake up, slap yourself in the face, and start doing things you never do anymore.



This is Top Notch Five Star Advice. I bow to Crystal!!! Well said.

graygentleman's photo
Mon 10/26/15 11:12 PM

get off the net , grab your wife and go do something
you, unlike most have that option cause some one is there


Couldn't say it better!! Find something that you both like to do and get out there and enjoy the time together.

no photo
Tue 10/27/15 05:33 AM

Happiness lives within, so if you don't feel it, you got some work cut out for you.
Find something in life that makes you happy, fills you with joy. A hobby, sports, going places, doing things etc. etc.
Bring some unpredictability back into your life. Many people get too comfortable and lazy even when they're in a relationship. As if they've reached the end of the line, as if they've reached THE goal in life.
Guess what: you're wrong!
Relationships are the icing on the cake. YOU are the cake. So if the cake has gone stale, you got to try a new recipe.

Try this:
What did you do before you got this settled that made you happy?
What did you do as a (young) kid that made you happy?
Are there things and activities in there that you stopped doing and that appeal to you, then do them again!


As for the relationship:
What have you stopped doing over the last 6 years? Things that you used to do when you were both still madly in love?
Start doing these things again!
Behave as if you are dating again. WHy? Because when you were dating, you were (still) appreciating your partner. Often times when we are married we stop doing that and start taking someone for granted.
So take her out to dinner, or when having dinner at home, light some candles, dim the lights, buy a nice bottle of wine, and date your wife again. Woo her, flirt, have fun together.

The boredom and loneliness is within you, so you are the one to change it, and it's not hard at all. Just wake up, slap yourself in the face, and start doing things you never do anymore.


Very well said Crystal:thumbsup: flowers great advice!:smile: drinks
Try to revive your life as an individual before you got married Crezy, take a pause and look back.....remember the things that you like to do. Being married doesn't necessarily mean that you stop doing the things you used to do, give your self a breathing space but of course you still have to consider your partner in life's opinion and come to terms whatever makes you both happy. Or you can both do things together, rekindle the passion you have for each other. Don't let the fire die down in your relationship, you both have to keep it burning. Work it out together or you respect each other's privacy, if you both need time to be on your own , do the things you want to do just don't forget your family when you are out alone:) enjoy life responsibly:)

no photo
Tue 10/27/15 05:33 AM

Happiness lives within, so if you don't feel it, you got some work cut out for you.
Find something in life that makes you happy, fills you with joy. A hobby, sports, going places, doing things etc. etc.
Bring some unpredictability back into your life. Many people get too comfortable and lazy even when they're in a relationship. As if they've reached the end of the line, as if they've reached THE goal in life.
Guess what: you're wrong!
Relationships are the icing on the cake. YOU are the cake. So if the cake has gone stale, you got to try a new recipe.

Try this:
What did you do before you got this settled that made you happy?
What did you do as a (young) kid that made you happy?
Are there things and activities in there that you stopped doing and that appeal to you, then do them again!


As for the relationship:
What have you stopped doing over the last 6 years? Things that you used to do when you were both still madly in love?
Start doing these things again!
Behave as if you are dating again. WHy? Because when you were dating, you were (still) appreciating your partner. Often times when we are married we stop doing that and start taking someone for granted.
So take her out to dinner, or when having dinner at home, light some candles, dim the lights, buy a nice bottle of wine, and date your wife again. Woo her, flirt, have fun together.

The boredom and loneliness is within you, so you are the one to change it, and it's not hard at all. Just wake up, slap yourself in the face, and start doing things you never do anymore.


Very well said Crystal:thumbsup: flowers great advice!:smile: drinks
Try to revive your life as an individual before you got married Crezy, take a pause and look back.....remember the things that you like to do. Being married doesn't necessarily mean that you stop doing the things you used to do, give your self a breathing space but of course you still have to consider your partner in life's opinion and come to terms whatever makes you both happy. Or you can both do things together, rekindle the passion you have for each other. Don't let the fire die down in your relationship, you both have to keep it burning. Work it out together or you respect each other's privacy, if you both need time to be on your own , do the things you want to do just don't forget your family when you are out alone:) enjoy life responsibly:)

RustyKitty's photo
Tue 10/27/15 09:05 AM
Crystal is very wise and puts it to paper perfectly.. Listen to her advice..
The grass is not always greener on the other side..

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 10/27/15 11:30 AM
I'm almost blushing now blushing
Thank you for your sweet words :heart:
flowerforyou

chance271's photo
Wed 10/28/15 08:51 PM
This man un another post was saying he wanted another woman because he is bored he is talking out of his rear orifice unfortunaley.

crezyhours's photo
Thu 10/29/15 11:00 AM
Yes mr chance... In my first post i said that.. U r very right but i got help from few people who really advice me best.. I started to think on my first post as soon i got first reply... Now u hv to check duretion between both post... Its not so long but its also not short... I write wht i feel... I m not fake person.. I m real one.. My persinal life which i cant explore to my elders i just try to share here cos here lots of people who elders nd supportive who really take my metter seriously nd adviced me.. M folliwing them and trying best ... I respect everyone's reply cos they shareing matually .. I mean they not gonna any pay from me and they know this better... So inshort .. I trying to change .. Towards best ..

RustyKitty's photo
Fri 10/30/15 10:59 AM
Perhaps you are going through, what we call,, the '7 year itch'..
After that length of time together, we question what are we doing, where are we going, is the grass greener over there, yadda, yadda, yadda...
Start dating your wife again..

crezyhours's photo
Fri 10/30/15 01:35 PM


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