1. As human all people hv right to be happy .. But some people face social problames in sach situation... If one is merried and his merrige was arrenge merrige than dont he hv right to have love if her wife not match with his nature???

2 some of merriec people happyly merried but because of financial or work prob they not able to live together.. In this situation .. His / her partner who feel lonly nd bore.. So why people like this not get right to hv someone else who also haveing same situation in life ?

3. Why people always belive that merried person who looking for date or relationship are always hunter for sex or only fun encounter???

4 we all have limited time in life only few years and if we lost all this time for moral and culture nd socity and ruin his/her feelings and desires nd wishes and dreams... Is this really appriciate ??

Waiting for views of all of u.. Either single or merried or divorcee or seperatef....

Dude,be responsible for what you are now....else you yourself are making it clear to wise people around that you wouldn't be responsible ever in future too....would you like to relate with some irresponsible person?

As you are desirous to have your right to be happy as a human being ( NOW...after ARRANGED marriage) are you equally desirous same time to offer the same right to your UNHAPPY companion too?? ....Why don't you get divorced first before looking around?

3. Why people always belive that merried person who looking for date or relationship are always hunter for sex or only fun encounter???

Because they are....

Or are you the one guy on the planet who wants to run thru the fields picking flowers with your "other woman" but never getting in her pants.... are you that guy?

But I give you a 7.9 on your spins

Hiya CrazyHours,

Well firstly,
Welcome to Mingle and good luck in finding what you seek (Love)...

Reading your thread today, reminds of a conversation I had around 2 or 3 weeks ago, I will post that story in another thread,
so as not to hi-jack this one.

Well I think Prashant has kind of covered the social aspect of it,
and to a very minor degree the marital aspect of it...

I had to look your profile to see your age,
I see you are 31, So Now I have a few questions for you,
or maybe not questions but simply reminders or points of issue?

Firstly - As your age is 31...
I have to ask if you have children?
And how they would feel or react to mum and dad splitting up?
"Children are always innocent parties in divorce's"

Secondly - Why has it taken so long - like 10 years if you were married young (such as age 20) to come to this point in your life?

Thirdly - I can completely understand if you agreed to the marriage because of your parents(?) - This would be very similar to a friend who described how she "Nearly" married a guy because of her love and respect for her parents - even though she did not love the guy!

Thirdly (Still) - Even though you may have married for the love and respect you hold for your parents, is it not fair to say YOU will live the LIFE with the PERSON? and not your mum and/or dad?

So maybe it is better to hurt someone a little in the short term?
In order to hurt them less or please them more in the long term?

Fourthly - I wonder, What are your wife's feelings in all this?
Did she chose you because she loves you?
Did she even have a say in her own marriage partner selection?

Brother - It is the "New Millennium" now.....
and it is better to be in control of your won life and place your cards on the table... FIRSTLY with your WIFE - And tell her and she how she feels too!!

A major point here is that if your wife is roughly your age,
then YOU are BOTH YOUNG - and you BOTH have a good chance
of finding new soul mates - because it gets more difficult to find a compatible soul mate the older you get!!


Good Luck to You, Your Wife and any kids you have.


Jaan

This ^^^^

You only have to responsible choices.

1- Leave & financially support her.
* Remember if you are not happy or feel love & kindness- she does not either & she is hurting & resentful too*

2- If you can not change your circumstances then change your thinking.
* If you believe the world or culture has done this to you & your are deprived (remember your wife does too), then you will live out your life in anguish. ... Choose not to think the way you are thinking... In tge negative. Ask yourself HOW can you find inner peace & moments of happiness? How can you be your wife's friend ? *

The Right to the Pursuit of Happiness,but as the saying goes,you have to catch it yourself!

I question this idea of the right to be happy.Where does this right come from ?
One has right to be paid for working ,they have earned it.
We are all too quick to claim rights for this that and the other.The flipside is usually with rights go responsibilities.
Perhaps we should be saying we have a responsibility to ourselves to be happy when we have fulfilled those responsibilities then we have the right to be happy.

First of all thanks very much to all of u for ur kind openions nd suggetions... I appriciate all ur wards... Spicially mr frank.. I agreed that .. Rights comes after responsibility... My intention is never direct u to hurt someone... I mean noone can feel happy by hurt someone... If i think that the metter i put here is match to my life than its my duty to stay in favour of my wife... As a husband i must have to discuss this first with my wife... Because her openian and views are must be prectical and productive... Its very hard to walk on the way of truth always... But we all hv not same stemina or power to face reality of life... Some can be king nd some can be solduire.. We all hv different life with different experiance... But my idia was about to give moral support .. Warm feelings that to show he/she not alone... Its about to make feel some needy persan tht life as human is special gift by god.. And they can be happy instade of feeling disapintment for haveing only responsible life... So please dont judge me wrong.

everyone has a right to be happy but your wife when she finds out you're a coward cheater...

My view is: I think you're a coward and a tool. Get a divorce and move on wiith your life before you suck someone else into your selfish world.

Edited for off-topic.
Kindly stick to the topic and not diatribes
against other members.

soufie
Site Moderator

You are responsible for your own happiness. If you are not happy being married then get a divorce. There is never a good reason to cheat.

Nothing quite like a spineless coward
that doesn't have the decency, or respect for his wife, to file for divorce.

welcome you can try and find happiness with your wife make an effort good luck

Everyone has the right to be happy you say. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume you are including your wife in that...

Just think, would your wife be happy if she knew you were seeking love and support from another while you are still married to her? Or would she feel hurt and betrayed? And if you did start seeing another woman behind her back and lied to her about it, how long do you think it would be before she found out, either you call her by the wrong name without thinking or your other woman rings you while you're with your wife? Or who knows, you might even have an attack of conscience if you have a conscience!

The point I'm getting at, be true to yourself, but not at the expense of the people who love you. Finding somebody to love is hard enough in this world, I mean come on we're all on a frickin' dating site after all! There's no sense in f**king up a marriage just because the bush may be neater in somebody else's garden!!

Essay-type comment aside, just think about it is all I'm saying.

" If one is merried and his merrige was arrenge merrige than dont he hv right to have love if her wife not match with his nature???"

Yes, he has that right - AFTER he gets a divorce.

Everyone does read a profile & take into account the country, culture & religion & laws & stigma.... before they post right?

Js - easier said than done.

doesn't matter when someone asks for an opinion...the coward cheater got his answers...

Well.. I know a guy.... well I don't really know him... I was at a social engagement and he started..
Confiding in me..
Anywho... he says he's married has 3 kids a mortgage that is upside down in.... he has been with his wife for many years... loves her but is not really in love with her anymore...
. He says he would like to meet..
A woman... or two..lol.. just to see if he is still desirable... I think he was thinking like.. testing the market I guess..lol.... but he says he would not leave his children and wife.. for this other lady unless he was certain.. the relationship was going to be a solid one.... I said well maybe you should get counseling or leave your wife maybe... he said financially that's not an option.. for either of them!.. and he would not want to hurt his children with a divorce.... he generally seems to care for his wife... but he feels he can no longer live a lie... I don't know for most of us to break up is pretty straightforward... but for others it's not so cut and dry.. I guess..lol....

Actually everyone does have a right to be happy. I feel if you choose to be happy in life is up to you. Being happy comes from within and understanding that happiness is not linked with the marriage or other people. Happiness comes from with in yourself. Only you can decide to be happy or unhappy.