wanted to marry that woman when you met her?

I've read that when men meet a woman, they almost instantly know that that's the woman they want to marry. Doesn't mean they marry her right away, but they know right away.

Guys: Did it work that way for you? (Talking about WANTING to marry the woman of course!)

Gals: When did you know you wanted to marry that man? How long did it take (approx)?

I normally think about sleeping with her first. Marriage is a very big and important decision for me. I could never just see someone for the first time and want to marry her. However, the idea of marriage might come up if she passes my physical and compatibility test

It's not about wanting to marry on the spot, but knowing she's the one for you.

Well I knew with in an hour that I wanted to Marry my first husband. He also knew very soon my age was what caused him to pause.

Hmmm I am going to be curious what more of the men will say on this subject

quickly yes. right away no.

Interesting subject here, im new here, id say if i meet her and the first thing that pops in my head is sex she wont be able to make wife with me, but if im nervous and more into knowing her id say she has potential of making wife. Example ive been browsing just looking over the site, i saw this girl just unbelievabley gorgeous, my mind wandered i then looked at her profile it said atheist i knew then she would only be a fling NOTHING MORE. So i moved on after i check NO.

i'd have to say with the divorce rate as high as it is, it's a big no...

I will be interested in the responses also.

In counseling people in crisis it was one of my core interview questions and invariably; even hard core bachelors, admitted they knew almost from jump their single days were numbered if they could convince the gal.

They would sometimes try to "qualify" the decision. Sex was an important factor but not the only factor. A lot of it came down to just liking the person intensely. First impression and a feeling that hey this is what they are talking about when they stay it "hits you like a ton of bricks." And many of the people were very analytical about other decisions.

Even sometimes trying to talk themselves out of it.

But time and again I had what was described as a seeming to be and intense primal desire to pursue when it is "the one". Even if they felt they had not a shot. Or they thought they would get shot down in flames.

Some of the unhappiest men were those who someone or something get in the way and the person or thing they held responsible for missing out usually suffered for it.

Second choice rarely being good enough. Even if the partner was good to them. Often shame was deeply felt about it but they clearly had not moved on.

This is what I have experienced in personal relationships too. All three of my adult sons say it was with out a question how they feel about their spouses.

Because this intense feeling is key to my choice also I don't know if I was biased; possible, but I tried to avoid bringing my personal history in on the "job" so I doubt it is going to be the reason that this was more than a small percentage of people who just met a decisive or impulsive personality profile.

What impresses me even more are the extensive number, probably 500 or more, of long lived marriages that I made a point of talking to over the years, one or both partners, some spanning 60 years, that say that initial decision was lasting. Got them across some very dramatic series of crisis's.

I can't tell you I would marry or have sex with some one in 3 minutes or less but I can sure tell you who does not have a chance that quickly. Even if it is iffy on the sex question that it is definitely not going to happen it makes it hard to sometimes sit through the first date even if I have been attracted otherwise say on line.

That is why I make a decided point in making no promises to anyone until I meet them in REAL life. I don't see insulting anyone at their core being by saying there is nothing about you that turns me on.

And it really does not have a lot to do with appearance or physical ability because some of the sexist men I have met have been far less than what is popular culture "picture" perfect.

In fact a few of the men who were the biggest turn offs were actually what most would call exactly that commercially perfect. Super athletes, actors, commercial models, and even very powerful wealthy men that had women lined up. More than a few times it made dealing with them a major hurdle.

Wow!
I've been thinking about this myself, and I don't think I've ever really felt that I wanted to marry a man and/or that he was the one for me, not right away.
I did fall madly in love with my last partner, but that took a bit. And I knew deep down all along something was off. In spite of that he was the first man ever that I had wanted to grow old with.

Exactly ... you see that more often ... Men having a partner even, but not really committing, sometimes not for years on end. Not wanting to really settle and start a family, not wanting to get married etc. etc.

And then they meet this woman, and BANG! Hook line and sinker. And end up getting married within a few months, start a family straight away and live happily ever after.

I'd like to enter a plea of the 5th amendment, on the grounds that answering such a question might tend to incriminate me.

waaaay back there..we met in october, engaged by january and married in august and it lasted 20 years


I think we both just knew right away

I knew by the end of that first cup of tea I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. Instead I spent the rest of his life with him. So yeah I knew...

We did not actually get married but we lived together and yes I knew the minute I met her I wanted her to be mine.

If that was true op... I would have 30 wife's. .lol

If that was true op... I would have 30 wife's. .lol

When I got my first Harley Davidson,
I knew that I wanted to keep that bike forever.

interesting answers,,,,

And I'll bet she never has a headache.