I've moved on but still want/need sex from that person. What am I really feeling? help

it's called friends with benefits

I can relate, lol
Only way is to find another one,
only its better and knows how to value a good thing.

..ummm.. I'm going to go with ....horny..yup.. final answer

I don't believe you have moved on yet.You may have changed your address but emotionally you still haven't broken the ties.

This answer gets the blue ribbon. If you had a "safe and satisfying" sex history with someone then it is dicey moving on.

But you want to remember if it is "over" you may go back for rerun recreation but keep in mind he is now a free agent and you will be sleeping with anyone he is now sleeping with fair or foul and that can be really dangerous.

Especially if you get depressed and careless or desperate to get him back and get preggars. Then you ruin your own, your kid's, and how many other peoples lives with a Baby daddy who may or may not deal with parenthood fairly.

You broke up for a reason. Be smart keep your panties up until you sort this out. You may be "deprived " for a while but it won't kill you.

My question is..who broke up with who and what was the reason?
If he broke up with you then why would you give him the satisfaction of allowing him to receive the "cookie" anymore?
I am sure that what you need to do is stay far away from him and get over him totally. That way there will be NO emotional baggage for you to try to get over again and again!!!

Hi iani10nkm5, I so feel for you, I've just recently broken up with my lady.I decided I just needed to be strong and use tough love, only catching up about once a month just for a coffee and chat, strictly as friends. It was so tough for the first month or so but it's getting much easier now. . It may be like continuously ripping off a band-aid off a sore, keeping on being intimate with them. Perhaps it's best for you both to move on from the sex as it may only confuse the situation? I hope everything works out well for you girl.May I encourage you by saying that really moving on aids the healing process.

I think you are feeling horny for your ex. Maybe he is a good lover, he left an indelible mark in the bed room, and you misses the sweet loving.

All sorts of things but you don't know how to express them or get the feelings validated unless someone uses you as a sexual object?

ex with benefits??

Even though we move on with our lives, there will be times when you will miss the intimacy of that person. What are you really feeling I have no clue only you will know that answer.
Could be a number of things for example could be you are sexually frustrated and remember the good times with him.

Could be you are a bit lonely and out of sorts and enough time has past that you can remember with fondness.

could be out of habit

or the fact that you were in a relationship with him already
and he knows your body and what you like


takes very little effort on your part
to go back to what you already know


moving forward, meeting new people, dating
getting to know someone new

takes more time and effort

Forgetting doesn't really work. .it's exactly the same as remembering. . I can feel you except from that wanting to have sex part..

It'll take time.. good luck

Having an intimate relationship with someone is taking a chance. You don't want to take a chance with someone you don't really know but yet you still have physical desires. So going back with the Ex, someone you know and have experience with, seems, to you, like the safer thing to do. You need to build up trust with somebody else. Exes are exes for a reason.

IMHO. your body moves on but your emotions stay in the past. cause there was some of what was going on that you did like. cause you now have an experience in your mind that will never leave.

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This can serve to let you recognize that relationships and love itself is made up of a number of different components. It's not a single, homogeneous, integrated thing.

One of those elements which is fascinating to me, is that most people who enter in to a relationship, don't just live it in the here and now, they also build up imaginary futures, with everything from plans for next week, to visions of many years hence.

Later, when the moment or circumstances that they originally envisioned that person being with them for actually arrives, plenty of people can be fooled into thinking that the surprise or other emotion they feel at witnessing ANOTHER segment of their breakup, actually means that they really do "love" that person, and belong with them.

A ton of mistakes get made because of this. People try to get back together, or sabotage a new relationship that was just starting to build, all because they mistake an echo from the past, for some sort of "sign from the heavens" that they should repeat their old errors.

Let's define "want" vs. "need" here. You "need" things to survive......so if you say you need sex from your ex then you are saying that you need him. It's understandable.....if you guys had a great sex life, which it appears you two did. You need that sex from him because he rocked your world.....lust is such a wonderful and awful thing to bear. Now then....if you want it from him then it just means you are horny and you want it....hell, you could be using him just to get that sexual feeling back. Still, if sex is all you want then there are plenty of guys on online dating sites who will happily satisfy this want.

Basically.....you ain't over him. You need it from him because you still want him in some capacity. If you truly had moved on then you would have done so. I suggest getting a BOB or find another guy......hell, abstain for a bit to clear your horny little head. Goof out!

Agreed..and to get over him will take space and time away from him, because if you continue going back to him it will continually keep those wounds (emotions) open, and you will truly not heal. As for wanting satisfaction that is most likely the desire for intimacy and/or love, which is difficult but not impossible to exist without. Abstaining will allow you to heal, will teach you that you can and will be fine in your future even if you are alone, and it will allow you to honestly be able to connect with the next person who is right for you.